Broken hearts are excruciatingly painful. I guess if you’re reading this you would know. Men in particular suffer more; people think we shouldn’t suffer from broken hearts. This makes us try to repress it, and that hurts even more. Women are open with their emotions and their crying; it helps them heal much faster.
A quick search in Google shows millions of sites dealing with this topic; most of the advice is well intentioned but can be simply summed up as “cry, and ride it out until it stops hurting.” That’s not the best way to get over a broken heart; that could take months or years. I want to share something a bit different. Let’s get proactive.
This is a meditation that I had used to get over heartbreak. If you’ve read my “About” page, you’ll realise that heartbreak is my major weakness. I went into depression twice over it. And I’ve tried many things to get over it. This is one of the best.
This is one of the first posts on this blog that is a bit more “out there”, but don’t let it put you off. As I promised, I will only write about what has worked for me. So give it a try.
Let’s begin!
Note: I’ve left some parts vague until the end. There is a reason for this. Read the five steps, and practise it, before coming back to read the rest.
1) As with all meditations, get somewhere quiet and comfortable. You should be alone for this one, so no-one can disturb you. You might also have some repressed emotions that you need to let out, and having people around might hold you back.
2) Relax your body. Imagine a white ray of light going through your body from the head to the toe. Relax each part the light touches. Once the light hits your feet, move it back up to the head and relax each muscle again; you’ll be surprised at how much tension there might be left after one pass.
3) Imagine you are walking down a path. In the distance you see a huge castle. This is where your heart rests, on a pedestal. Walk towards it until you reach the castle doors.
4) Open the castle doors. What does the room look like? What condition is your heart in?
5) Heal your heart. Imagine yourself walking towards the heart. Imagine using light and love to heal the heart, and watch it return to normal. Take as much time as you need for this part.
And that’s all there is to it. Go and try it now. You might have some questions: what does the heart look like? How do I use love to heal it? But I strongly suggest you try the meditation first – it only takes minutes.
Welcome back
Now, why didn’t I put in more details in the 5 steps? I didn’t want you to have preconceptions. It is vital that your personal imagery is individualised and not some image that I have planted in your head.
Let me explain. When I first tried this meditation, the description I read was “Is your heart in chains? Then unlock it.” That image stuck in my head, and although I unlocked my heart, I got no benefit.
Why? My heart wasn’t locked up. What it felt was crushed and spat on. So I tried again; this time I cleared my head, and opened the castle doors and let an image form naturally. All I knew was that my heart was in there.
It took a while but I eventually saw the way it truly was. It had fallen off its pedestal. The throne room was a mess, like an earthquake had happened. Pillars had fallen around it and the biggest pillar had crushed it, leaving only half of it visible.
I imagined myself lifting the fallen pillars with my superhuman strength. Then I imagined my hands being full of light and love, and began slowly stroking my heart. Slowly it regained its shape, like a deflated heart-shaped balloon being filled with air. By the way, it’s OK if you have a cartoon-y image, just as long as it’s true to yourself.
Then I cleaned off the little scratches and nicks in the same way. Next I polished it until it shone again, and put it back unto the pedestal. I felt better immediately. I repeated it every night before I went to sleep. The second night it had fallen off again but the rocks crushing it were smaller, and it required less work to heal.
Now, I have no idea where this image came from; but by letting it come naturally, it was true to my circumstances. So: Let the image come. It will be the best for you, and that’s how you get the most benefit out of it.
Hope this has helped.
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My favorite part of this post was the section where you described your own meditation. That indeed sounded like a powerful healing experience!
I might suggest that neither gender “hurts more” as both genders can remain unhealed for unpleasantly long periods of time. Sometimes crying is not healing at all, but simply wallowing in the misery and prolonging it. People often bond because of their woundedness, which makes it dangerous to heal when you know no other way to bond.
The acid test is whether or not you repeat the relationship pattern with someone else when you form another serious relationship. If not, then you know that particular issue is fully healed.
Hi Lexi, thanks for commenting. I definitely agree with “People often bond because of their woundedness, which makes it dangerous to heal when you know no other way to bond.”
A couple of my old relationships were based around this. “Here’s my wounded heart, take care of it.” And she’ll say “Here’s my wounded heart, take care of it too”. And since we both have no idea how to handle hearts we just made things worse.
Dear Albert,
In a great way have you explained the above content (credit goes to your powerful and two-sided thinking). Your style and composition of points and explanation is really lucid and real. The way you have explained this: “Let me explain. When I first tried this meditation, the description I read was “Is your heart in chains? Then unlock it.” That image stuck in my head, and although I unlocked my heart, I got no benefit ” is really great and practical. For that’s the problem most people face. The visualize what’s given in the content and when they follow the same rules and steps, they find no benefit. Hence, it’s best to leave the imagination part of everything to themselves.
Thanks,
Take care.
Hiya Harsh, thanks for the kind comments again. I just thought that this will be a nice tool to give out – most “fix a broken heart” material out there is just “time heals all – rest and relax” type. I try to give out as many tools as I can precisely because of what you said – the truth is different for each person!
Thanks for spending more time on my site! =)
Great advice here, Albert! A broken heart should not be taken lightly, and meditation is a wonderful healer for so many pains, including heartbreak.
I believe crying should be part of the healing process, but a proactive approach can heal a heartache so much faster.
Kudos for not “pushing your way” and leaving room for the individual’s personal imagery,since everyone will interpret their heartache differently.
Great advice!
Mikalyn
Hey there Mikalyn! Thank you for the compliment
. You’re 100% right – crying is one of the therapeutic things you can do. It’s sad that our current culture frowns on it (especially for males) to the extent that many don’t even know how to cry.
Albert,
Normally, after a failed relationship, I move on to the next relationship. However, during my last relationship, I was changed. & since it ended, there has been no desire to move on to the next guy to avoid dealing with the pain and grief. However, until reading this post, I did not have anything to do to replace that perpetual bad habit. As such, all I’ve done is go through the first three stages of what some refer to as the stages of grief. I have not been able to move on to the final stage and actually heal. Thank you for helping me to create a new, healthier habit!!!
Hey T&B, thanks for the comment. I’m happy it helped. Do try the emotional mastery meditation as well, it might help too.
Hi there, I think this is maybe going to help…My heart was all grey and flat and huge but still on a pedestal….I spent some time making a fuss of it, then i covered it in a blanket and told it to feel what it has too and I’d be waiting to put it back in when it was all small and pink again. I felt I’d taken control and was allowing it time to heal. Thanks for suggesting this. I’m looking forward to tomorrow now to see how it’s doing.
Hey Lucia – Glad it worked for you. I’ve found this a great meditation, and do try the emotional meditation as well. Let me know how you go.
its good things to do with broken heart, i am just have my own way to fix the broken heart. its always about self healing.
Its really cool.. I saw a empty room full of ash, sunlight was blocked by the ash. Tiny ray sneaking thru.
My heart had a hard gray shell covering it. I could tell its the heart beacuse its on right spot and has that shape.
i was suprise to see ash n lack of decoration. i knew the shell but it never hit home tilll now. Thanx
Hey Era, wow it sounds like you did some powerful work. Great stuff!
I believe you are right when you say that just crying and riding it out will not be the best solution. I really like the meditation part and I’ve used meditation in the past to help me focus better on a solution to my problems.
Hey Paul, it really helps doesn’t it? Thanks a lot!
My bf just came back from Basic Training 2 days ago. He told me he just wants to be friends now. We were so in love. Crying it out does NOT work. I don’t feel better from it and look awful. Meditation is the only way. I’m just beginning my healing journey and hope to be successful. Thank you for your wonderful words.
Hey Tired of Crying, thank you so much. Wish you the best – you’ll be fine in no time!
hey albert….I was doing so well. As i thought, then walked straight into
something new with my un-healed heart all ablaze. Bonding with another
broken heart. Oh dear it led to more tears and anguish…..I thought i was stronger, but it was like the blind leading the blind. No clear boundaries.
More time needed now i think.
Hey Lucia, would you be “Tired of Crying” in the comment above? Hmm… try letting go… I’ve found that to be quite powerful too.
http://www.urbanmonk.net/332/t.....etting-go/
I have been googling this healing process since the break up. I am having a hard time with it but I am finding it bittersweet. We celebrated our 4 year anniversary wednesday but in my heart I could feel the end coming soon. Friday he ended it because deep down we know its not working.I did not respond to his message and kinda just sucked it up. I know if I talk to him it will only make me walking away harder. I love him with all my heart and soul but I cannot force him to keep trying so I am trying to accept his decision. The sad part for me is I moved here to texas with him for his job from ny. I was trying to make the best of it here but I was miserable, I missed home. So we had a lot working against us. Now that its over, I need to be strong and make the best decision for me. I am going to return home soon, which means I will be far away from him. It is killllling me to try to keep myself strong about saying goodbye but I know I need to do it in order to move on. It almost feels I am grieving someone who has passed away.this is not what I want to be, but it is what has to be. The hardest thing about this break up is there was no one reason, no fight, our relationship has just run its course and I have to let it go.its hard for me to walk away because he is truly my best friend, but I have realized true love is wanting the best for your loved one, no matter what, even if it means letting them go. Anyway, if you are going through this too you should listen to james blunt “goodbye my lover” its a beautiful song.
Erika, thank you so much for sharing. It sounds like you’re going through a very tough time. I just went on YouTube to look for James Blunt, and I agree – it’s a very touching song.
Hey Albert….Well funny you should point me in that direction, because today i already started to take action in letting go. i realised i had just manifested the feelings left behind in my old relationship in the new one. this was a sure sign I’d been kind of running rather than healing. I took all my grief and placed it firmly in front of me as if it’s what i am. Today I began to think
how i had become to think of myself as part of a twosome rather than a onesome and although i miss my ex, is it me i miss more. So I will now work more on getting back in touch with me. Today while working
as another colleague expressed her grief about her broken relationship,
I was just taking a breath to relay my troubles and stopped myself in my tracks. what would I gain from this only to perpetuate my ‘now’ self
as still grief stricken, another day in grief. instead i got us both busy doing something that was relevant to the here and now.
As for crying it is a wonderful release….cry, wail, sob…whatever you need…..Do it on your own so it’s not about getting comfort from someone else, who may, with the best intentions try to stop you…but do it for your own release…don’t worry how you look at the time, the day after you stop crying you will see the look in your eyes….to me they always look clearer and brighter.
Beautiful stuff! It’s all about sitting with your grief, and not trying to run away from it. Relax into your sadness… keep it up
Albert, I have gone from web page to web page, looking for some insight or some sort of help for this agony. Not one of them has shown me what yours did. And I know you didn’t do it just for me, but for some reason I feel as if it were written just for me. I want to thank you so very much.
Now, if you don’t mind, I want to share what I saw. The long path was extremely rocky and on a wide open plain. As I was walking I was bare foot and my feet were getting cut, I was wearing a thin raggedy gown, and my hair was tangled. When I opened the doors the room was very large and empty but on the walls were dirty fingerprints, every where. The pedestal was a large rock but my heart was missing. I ran up the stair case and there was my heart lying on the floor covered in dust and alone. I hastily got down on my knees and picked it up. I held it in my arms and cooed it like i would an abandoned child.
Hey Savannah – thank you for that description. Really great to hear, it sounds like you’re doing some amazing work. In my experience, once we go back (maybe the next day) the heart will be back in the same place, except maybe this time a little bit less dusty, a little bit less cracked… just have to keep going at it – it’s been through so much punishment it will take a lot of loving to get it back healthy.
i am planning to try this i wish this works for me… its really so hard when u find that the person u love and adore commits infidelity.. it not by just hear say but he does admitted and it was equipped with evidences. i dunno what happen to me this fast few days. i am not in a mood of talking to him.. i dont even like to see him, nor to be near to him, i feel like he is having a dreaded disease that when i come to see him i will be dead and poisoned… real so hard i dunno how to start the healing and where to start.. please unleashed me…
Hey abbieh, I understand your pain. Must be horrible. If this meditation doesn’t work, try one I discovered after writing this one: Releasing.
http://www.urbanmonk.net/332/t.....etting-go/
THO THIS WAS INTERESTING TO READ – WONDER IF VISUALLY HEALING OURSELVES IS POSSIBLE ? NOT THAT IM DOUBTING ANYTHING HERE BUT I EXPIRENCED KINDA SORTA DOUBLE WHAMY MAYBE A TRIPLE WHAMY – 12 MONTHS AGO MY WIFE LEFT ME FOR THE PASTOR OF OUR CHURCH – SHE LIVES WITH HIM TODAY – HE WAS EXPELLED FROM THE ORDER AND ALL THAT GOOD STUFF AND THO I HAD LOVE FOR HER – BASED ON MANY YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND RAISING KIDS TOGETHER AND ALL THAT GOOD STUFF – I AM PRETTY SURE NOW – I WASNT INLOVE WITH HER – BUT I DID LOVE OUR LIFE AND CHILDREN – ALL OF THEM ARE OVER 18 AND MOST HAVNT REALLY EVEN NOTICED OUR DIVORCE – BUT MY YOUNGEST GOT STUCK IN IT AND SHE WAS COUNSILLED BY THIS PASTOR AND WORKED WITH THE CHURCH FOR 2 YEARS – DURING THIER AFFAIR – SO WATCHING HER STUGGLE THRU THIS HAS LEFT ME WITH A BROKEN HEART – THAT HER MOTHER COULD LEAVE US BOTH BEHIND IN FRONT OF HUNDREDS OF CHURCH GOERS – BRUTAL STUFF HERE GUYS AND GIRLS / MY CHILD FOUND SAFE HAVNT IN A BOY – UNHAPPY BUT NOT STOPPING HER – I WANT HER TO BE OKAY ! – I FOUND A GIRL RIGHT AWAY – AND 12 MONTHS LATER -I REALIZED IM HOPELESSLY IN LOVE WITH HER AND ITS UTTERLY OBVIOUS THAT SHES STILL SHOPPING MEN ! – OKAY – IM PATHETIC? OR … JUST LOVE HARD?? NOT SURE BUT I HAVE LIKE 3 BROKEN HEARTS AT ONCE AND IM SURPRISED AS ARE ALL THOSE WATCHING THAT A. I HAVNT KILLED SOMEONE – B. KILLED MY SELF AND C. BECAME A DRUNK OR A DRUG ADDICT – MY CHILD THOS STRUGGLING WITH HER GRADES ONCE SHE FOUND OUT ABOUT THEM MANAGED TO RECOVER AND GET HER 8TH GRADE DIPLOMA 2 FRIDAYS AGO – LIKE MOST MEN – I GAVE THE WIFE THE CAR THE KID AND THE MONEY – THE CHILD CAME BACK TO ME 10 MONTHS AGO ON HER OWN AND HAS REMAINED -I NEED ADVISE – I NEED HELP LOVE – IM NOT SURE ??
WE HAD a decent sex life and a broad history -then ,,, she left – im told i am a beautiful man head to toe – he ,well looks like a priest kinda dorky!
super confused about this all -
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Hi buddy, sounds serious. If you are having suicidal thoughts I would highly recommend seeing a mental health professional. Many things can’t be fixed over the internet.
I think it’s too soon for me to do this. I only accepted the breakup yesterday. When i enter the castle, my heart is missing. He still has it.
Hi Jane, it must be horrible. But keep it up you will be fine.
Hiya Albert….I think it’s nearly a whole year since i found your site. What happened to my heart? It’s no longer grey, in fact it’s truly pink with purple edges, these being the wisdom i have from the whole experience. i don’t know if this helps anyone but a year on from complete heartbreak, I learnt, with sometimes two steps forward and three steps back, to re-claim my heart for myself….to let it heal in it’s own time, and learn to be a single being. I am happy to be just me right now and found out i actually love being with myself…..it’s a revelation.
It all takes time and commiting yourself to taking care of your heart, the heart meditation helped me so much…it’s a brilliant way to look your grief in the eye and accept it as part of life. i remember feeling so lost and alone,armageddon was round the next corner, but the heart is tough when it has to be and everyone can and does heal.
P.S. me and the other broken heart i bonded with have become the best of friends.
Thanks L.x
Hey Lucia – that is wonderful to hear! What a healing you have performed! Thank you for sharing.
My heart had a sword pierced all the way through it. I imagined pulling it out with all my strength. Then I hugged my heart, kissed it and placed it on the pedestal. Then I took the sword and threw it as hard as i could out the door as flew down into nothingness and disappeared. As I imagined all of this I started to shed some tears. I will do this every night in hope to returning to my happy self which as been lost for 6 long painful years with a lying, cheating man.
Hey Jill, thank you so much for that comment. I hope it works for you. It sounds like it is working, as heartfelt crying from the soul is a very healing thing.
I have done it once a day for about a week, and around the 6th day I started to enjoy it as more ‘light’ was in the room. Thanks albert
Hi buddy, glad it worked for you. I remember how wonderful it was for me in my early days, too. Maybe I should check in on my own heart, it’s been a while
I tried this exercise, and had a rather interesting result.
I could not form a clear mental image, just a faded, blurred outline. I felt as if I were rushing the entire time. When I got to the castle, I slammed open the large wooden doors and burst into the room. The inside was all grey-ish blue. Everything was made of stone, and cracked. I stroked my heart, much like you did, and it gradually became translucent, shiny, and rose-colored…as if it were made of glass.
Hm. It’s all very curious, I’m quite sure there is some significance behind it.
I am so glad I stumbled upon your site. I will most definitely be trying this meditation again.
Thank you.
Hi Anna, you’re very welcome. I’m glad you’re hear. Do let me know how things go with this meditation – it can take a little while for the results to “stick”. I remember my heart kept felling off by itself for the first couple of weeks.
Cheers for all this pal. Feel like an absolute idiot for the state ive been reduced to now. Took about 10 minutes for this whole thing to take action, and it’s actually cheered me up. In a way, all us with a broken heart are like, sorta lucky, ’cause it’ll make us stronger in the future. Just wish you didn’t have to go through months and months of heartbreak to get there =/. Anyway, good luck to everyone else. Come through in the end!
Hi Tom, this meditation works wonders, doesn’t it?
This is fantastic…I’m going to try this in my desperation to heal as quickly as possible. As many times as my heart has been broken it still doesn’t get any easier to get over the pain of it all. However, where is the meditation for trusting and loving someone else again?
Hi Gina, good luck with it all. I’ve never thought about a meditation for trusting and loving someone, but I would imagine that once your heart is fully healed, that would be a natural response. Take your time and let it happen, the results might be quite surprising.
Hi Albert.
I have just gone through your five steps and… well, thought I will share the experience, even though it lasted maybe 15 mintues.
I have been recovering form a serious relationship for around a year now. And, somehow, even though I thought I am ok, I am still stuck and, well, something isn’t right.
) that I had to share.
I tried the 5 steps. I went to the castle and found my heart on the pedestal lying on a pillow. Big, bright, red heart with a nasty violet bruise. It felt cold and lonely in that room so I picked the hear up and moved it to another room. That one was cozy and I could put the heart in a warm corner on some sort of fur. Than I picked it up and started stroking the bruise. But something still wasn’t right. And than I realised my heart is a cat! And everything fell into place. It has been lonely and uncomfortable on the pillow on pedestal in the other room. It needs nice, cozy room, place to rest and play and plenty of food. And – hey, it’s a cat – so it needs a lot of stroking and play. It feels better now, even though there is a lot more exploring to do here – I had no clue it’s a cat!
The whole experience is so unusual to me (however, I love cats
Thank you for this.
Hey : )omi
That’s amazing. I’ve never heard of that before, but it seems like a very big discovery. Play with it, and see how it goes. Would love to hear more in the future
Hey Albert,
You really seem to be a great guy for helping the needy like us…i followed ur five steps and it helped me a lot…plz plz for god sake will u post or atleast email me some more methods plz brother help me to overcome this pain and God will help u in ur problem….i’m really expecting some help from u…plz
Hi mate, thanks for your kind words. Check around the “start here” page or the “best of urban monk” on the sidebar, my whole website is pretty much about freeing ourselves from emotional pain.
Any ideas on individuals suffering intense unresolved transference pain in psychotherapy to the point were their therapist abandon them. I see this happening a great deal. Many thanks!
Hi Carla, sorry, I don’t know enough about transference to write anything substantial.
My thanks to you and this website. I just found out about it by accident. What a blessing to others you have given. I will continue on my path to finding more about the pain of unresolved transferences. There really isn’t alot of information out there and I see many people suffering severe broken hearts. I will tell them about this site. I think some of them will benefit from it. Again my thanks!
It really is my pleasure, you’re very welcome!
Oh god I hope this can help me we lived together for 6 years. he proposed in January, we wnet out for dinner two weeks ago for my daughters birthday we came home he drank too much argued smoked pot in front of my daughter, two days later I was side swiped when he left. two weeks ago we were booking our wedding no reason nothing how can I even find my heart it is so broken, I cried so hard I tore the cartilage from my sternum.
Well I tried it and I got to a path it was narrow and full of rocks the castle was on the edge of a cliff baarely visible in the distance it was all black the wind was howling around me and the see was crashing against the cliff i kept ripping and falling and no matter how hard i tried or how fast i walked or ran i just kept ripping over and could not get any closer I will keep trying.
Hi Sharon, I can’t imagine the pain you must be going through, and all I can do is to wish you good luck.
If this technique is a struggle for you, do try this: http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
Thank you at least i know someone has some emapthy and understanding, I am in the eye of a terrible storm but I am stronger than that and I am deep breathing I will take a walk along the cliff top to the castle and see if I can find my poor broken heart again tonight and I will re read your article again tomorrow. I know it was not my fault but it is so hard to grasp hold of closure when there is no reason and you are just left second guessing over and over, and then I find a moment of stillness and breath it in, maybe I will make it to the castle tonight? thank you for being there, and for your guidance it does help.
You’re welcome – do let me know how you get on. Good luck with it all.
Albert, please read my response in it’s entirety before responding.
First, I’ve been through a number of deeply bruising breakups though my life, so I have past, tried real world history to compare my current situation to. I’ve also studied martial arts from a physical and mental stand point which included meditation, visualization and “just being”. On top of that, I’ve done deep soul searching which lead to a college degree in psychology. I’ve spoken to many people from different faiths and backgrounds. Friends and people that “have been there before”. I’ve been part of support groups for others and myself. I’m putting that out there so it’s clear I have some valid experience for where I’m coming from. And, yes, what may be true for me may indeed not be true for others. But I’ve done the search path.
I find it strange that there are no negative replies to your suggested meditation. I am_not_ saying it will not work for many, but I would like to know what your response is to those that say it doesn’t work for them because the damage returns. That the healing is not permanent. That distractions and therapy do not work for them.
Please. Do not say “it must be tough”, “Time heals all wounds or at least dulls them” or “That’s got to hurt” or such euphemisms. They don’t sound sincere to a broken heart.
Just what do you say to someone that had it all and lost it through no fault of their own, but due to the impartially, provable interference of others?
What do you say to the person that can only be calmed and healed by actively seeking to rebuild the relationship from scratch but is denied doing so by the same people that caused it’s end?
Thank you for your thoughtful response in advance.
Hi BledDry, thanks for a thought-provoking question.
The first thing that comes to mind is that not everything works for everyone, this is why most therapists, for instance, have different techniques from different traditions in their “toolbox”. I’ve heard that there are emotion-based, cognitive(thought)-based, behaviour-based, and relationship-based techniques, and each person will naturally gravitate towards one of them, and perhaps find the others useless.
If this meditation does not work, then perhaps it is simply a case of poor “fit”. There is some research being done on person-activity fit in positive psych, if you are interested you can have a look.
Personally, I have moved on from this technique – this article was written many years ago. But from what I remember, this is an emotion based technique. One thing we must remember with emotions is that they come in waves. This is why people think it is not permanent, that it comes back. When it actually doesn’t, it’s older, deeper stuff resurfacing, and it just feels the same as what we’ve just healed. That is the second possibility, and is especially true when it comes to heartache (which actually carries elements not just of the most recent relationship, but every single heartbreak prior).
Regarding the last two questions, I can’t answer as each person and situation is unique and I simply don’t know enough.
it has been two weeks since i lost my best friend, family, lover. It has been super hard. Every day when I wake up I say WOW because I go throught it all over again. Wow. My face is so tired of crying, my eyes havent cried this much since I dont remember when. I’ll try this every night and post back in a week. But I just wanted to say thank you. For sharinf, for taking time to write it all down…thank you.
Hey Nikolina, you’re very welcome, and it definitely sounds like you’re going through a lot of pain. I don’t know what to say, but I do wish you all the best with it. Like the old saying goes, this too will pass.
Thank you so much for sharing this article. After reading this article I went to the shower room and cried. I put my right hand in my left chest and feel the beat of my heart. It’s beating too fast!! Faster! Then suddenly I can no longer breathe. I grasp my chest. I felt pain.. so painful!! The pain becomes unbearable. I’m wondering where the pain comes from? I can’t figure out.. Then I realized something’s missing.. My heart.. yes, my heart where is she??
I looked at the mirror… on the reflection I can’t see myself image but rather an incident that what happened to me. It was a mistake! I have loved the wrong person. I know he will only hurt me but I still choose to love him.
And because of that wrong decision I put my heart in a fatal situation. I saw my heart lying on the floor bleeding and dying, she was stab emotionally and in great pain. She’s really hurt! I rush her to the emergency room and I’m asking for help.. Help! Help! Nobody answered! Then I realized no one in that emergency room except me and my heart.. I kept on talking to her shaking her hands just to make sure she’s still conscious. I hold her hands tightly and I tell her how sorry I am.. I apologized for what I have done allowing her to get hurt by other person. I am so devastated to myself that I did not take good care of her. She just smile.
Then slowly, she closed her eyes.. I check her if she’s still breathing. She is breathing but she can no longer respond when I’m talking to her. I started to pump my heart. No sign of life! I started to cry no! no! no! I can’t let you to die.. I went outside the room asking for help.. then I saw a man in a white gown. I said to him Doctor my heart is dying.. please bring her to life.. the doctor said I know.. stay here. Immediately the doctor went inside the ER.
After few minutes the doctor advised me to see my heart. When I saw her unconscious and with an oxygen mask I ran to her and hug her. Seeing her in that situation is killing me. She is deeply hurt! And I blame myself for what happened because of my carelessness.. I almost lost her.
Then the Doctor Heart talks to me. “You see your heart? That is where you are now.. Dying. It is you who can bring her back to life. It’s only you who can heal her. She was hurt several times because of your wrong decisions, because of your carelessness. And those mistakes will keep on repeating if you will not guard your heart. Your heart is fragile.. Nurture here with Love by taking care of her. Love her first. Love yourself first. Do things that can really make you happy and that you will have peace of mind. And let go of the people who will only hurt your heart in the end..
Each time when I’m in the situation where I know I will get hurt I imagine when I saw my heart dying with oxygen mask and unconscious! Then I just tell myself I won’t allow it to happen again..
Wow – that is truly an amazing experience, and sounds like you got a lot out of it. You know, I do believe you have the power to heal your heart… we all do.
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