Questions closed!
It’s been a long time since we’ve done something like this, so here goes!
This post is plain and simple – ask me whatever you want in the comments: from the personal, to the silly, to the philosophical, to whatever. In fact, the sillier and fun-ner the better 
The only thing I request – please do not ask anything related to mental disorders. I tend to get quite a lot of such questions, and the answer is always the same – stuff like this cannot be fixed on the internet in general. There is no shame in finding professional help.
A quick disclaimer: I’m just a normal guy. I’m not the Truth, I’m not an expert, enlightened, or whatever – and everything that I say is just the opinion of a guy with a blog (Which anybody can start, by the way. Just because someone runs a blog doesn’t always mean he or she is suddenly an authority of any kind.) This might defeat the purpose of having a “ask me” post, but hey who cares And if I don’t know, I will simply say I don’t know.
Also, if any questions are too big to be answered in the comments, they will be saved and made into blog posts in the future.
For some excellent reading this week, head over to Joyful Days by Daphne. The tagline for the blog is – Think deeply. Speak gently. Love much. Laugh a lot. Be kind. (and more). Isn’t that enough? 
A recent post: No more crappy days
And a big hello to a blogger I met a long time ago – Patrick Meninga from Spiritual River. An amazing resource for non-traditional recovery from addiction. A recent post you might like: 101 tips for recovery
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Hi there … I love your posts – such wonderful common sense that I have been searching for and haven’t found anywhere else.
I have a question though … when you talk about feeling one’s emotions, step one seems to be to quiet the mind. I find that if I concentrate on my breathing and my mind quietens, the feelings quieten and disappear also. Am I missing something here? I know it’s great to get rid of the emotions in this way but it’s not very useful if I’m trying to purge them. To get them back, I have to think about them again and then my mind starts up. Any suggestions? thanks heaps.
Hey Tabiti, thanks for your kind words. The idea isn’t strictly to quiet the mind, but to stay out of the story, if that makes sense. Bring up the feelings, and then try to feel it without going into the story – the raw emotion can be felt by itself. When I say story, I mean “oh, how dare he do that”, “oh poor me”, etc.
I’m not sure if that answered your question, so please let me know if it doesn’t.
Albert-
How does one best turn off “real” fears when trying to resolve a major problem? For example: Someone will lose their home, their pride, their credit…..if they don’t solve their money issue quickly. They need a full, focused, confident effort and this fear of impending doom that keeps passing across the mind weakens and sabotages the effort…What tools, meditations, mindsets can help?
Yes, this is me….
thanks
Grant
Hi, recently came across a book that was very compelling in the explanation about ‘JUDGEMENT’ being the main cause of our discomfort. all judgement boils down to self-judgement. and it strengthens the ‘me’ identity, when there is no ‘me’. offcourse, this is the biggest hurdle i have noticed, in all of us that ’seek’. the book also clearly explains how judgement means we seek outside when we are already there inside. book is ‘guide to awareness and tranquillity’ by william samuel. found it in a theosophical library.
grant, there is a quote by william blake. ‘when the doors of perception are cleansed, everything will appear as it is, infinite’. jesus,by the way, is just another ‘pointer’ and he said ‘become passers by’. all pain leads us (eventually)to get to know who we really are. infinite beings.our attachment to the world is ridiculous seeing we will pass on. but it’s a tough hurdle, my friend. so all the best.
Oh, mahaguruji, there is one question, the answer of which has eluded my earnest inquiries: Why does the porridge bird lay his egg in the air?
(Fans of Firesign Theater will catch the reference.) Well, you asked for silly questions! Mainly I just wanted to say hello, and wish you all the best.
Great idea! My question for you is… Would you be willing to write a guest post for Positively Present? If so, could you email me and let me know!
Hey, I find it hard to do tonglen, and I’m currently trying osho’s dynamic med, what do u think about the dynamic med.
Who do u think will win the world cup? lol
and u said that recently u felt that ur life is going towards an outward stoke, howz ur life now compared to when u started learning about spirituality?
thanks
How do I get over a man who does not want me?
Hi Albert! Thanks for the shout out there. Glad to see you getting active on your blog here, I always benefit from your posts.
My question: do you think medicine will ever cure addiction?
Hi Albert,
This is a great idea. Very cool. My question to you (drum roll please…) how would you define happiness and would you call yourself a happy person? Okay…that was two questions. Oppps.
Hi Albert,
I love your blog. What a great opportunity! Thank you kindly for this. My questions are:
1. What 3 Books have changed/helped you the most?
2. If you could recommend one book to readers to help them really understand the fundamentals of Buddhism, what would that book be?
3. What are you studying lately? What is capturing your interest these days?
4. What was the biggest epiphany you ever had?
5. Could I one day do a guest post for you? And or vice/versa, if you do them.
Cheers,
Miche
Hi Albert.. Thanks for shaering your knowladge with us its priceless..
My question is, why do we need to go through the task of letting go of emotions when the root of the emotions are tied to our ego. Would cleaning our filters in order to release our ego achieve the same result and then some?
Cheers.
Mark.
You don’t talk about NLP, or mental strategies such as having a mental picture of “you”, or creating a sense of self as much to help gain confidence. Why not, and wouldn’t this make people unconscious spiritually speaking?
Your situation about approval seemed devastating. What helped you get out of that situation with the angry client, was it a person who talked it out of you or was it a book that you came across,ect? What I don’t get is the man said what he said how does wanting approval change the story?
How do you know if what you Love to do is not just the egos need to make its sense of self stronger?
Thank You for this wonderful
opportunity.
Cheers!,
Alex
@ Grant: Hi Grant, first of all I have to say it must be horrible to go through that. One of my favourite methods is the Sedona Method for dropping the fear. You can find the basics for free on their website or I have a basic article on it here:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
Simply feel the fear completely (if you can handle it, make the fear stronger) and then drop it. You might want to see if there is anything underneath that fear too:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/811/i.....-emotions/
It has to be made clear, for the other readers, that dropping the fear doesn’t mean we don’t do anything about our problems. As Grant suggested, it allows him to take the right actions with a clearer and more powerful state of mind.
Hope that helps. Good luck with it Grant, let me know how you get on.
@ Kevin: Thank you for that reference!
@ Reddy: Heya! I missed you and your sense of humour
I’m doing well, how are you going?
@ Positively Present: That is a very kind offer, and I’m very honoured! Unfortunately I have to turn it down, I don’t even have time to write for my own blog these days (I can’t even meet my weekly schedule of posts nowadays, my last post was 10 days ago).
I’m really, really sorry.
@ Jag: Hey mate! Tonglen can be a bit hard at the start as it goes against the conditioning of our entire lives. I still find it hard sometimes – giving love to my enemies? ^*%$@%*. Haha! What I would suggest is to spend more time giving love to yourself (it’s strictly not tonglen, but a variation someone taught me). Once you feel enough for yourself, it makes it easier to give it to other people.
I’ve never tried dynamic med, so I don’t know. World cup? Don’t know either LOL.
On the outward stroke, it’s amazing. Comfortable and relaxed in most situations, no matter how awkward (although some I still have a lot of sticking points). Slowly able to see other people’s pain for what it is and increasingly reacting with compassion rather than my own pain. Again, not always, but increased when compared to 2 years ago. Stuff like that.
@ Elaine: Hmm…many people will suggest many different things, so mine might not be the best. For me, the way out is to go through it. Sit with the feelings, whatever it is, anger, hurt, loneliness, longing. Feel it completely. As with Grant above, see if there is anything underneath these emotions, as well. And just keep searching and feeling them completely, and then releasing them.
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
http://www.urbanmonk.net/811/i.....-emotions/
Hope that helps!
@ Patrick: You’re welcome buddy! I have no idea, to be honest, as I don’t know much about addiction. My best guess would be partially, although it is just an uneducated opinion. It might be similar to mental disorders which can have genetic and chemical roots, which medicine can address. The other contributing factors to addiction might need other measures.
@ Nadia: Heya! That’s a very good question. I don’t really know. I have a problem with the idea of happiness as being some sort of blissed out zombie state, but I really don’t know what it is. Maybe the eastern “enlightenment” definition?
Where all of life is a game, and we can indulge in everything – even the “bad” – that comes along? So maybe we can be unhappy but it’s not really unhappiness since it’s a game. Did that make sense? Haha! I’m not even sure if I’m interpreting those traditions right.
I heard an analogy about playing a computer game. Say I’m surrounded by monsters in a game and I’m going “OH MY GOD I’M GOING TO DIE!” I will be feeling fear but it’s not real fear since I play the game precisely to get these feelings (it will be boring if I was invincible). Kinda like that, except applied to real life.
On that basis, no I’m not 100% happy, but on the normal happiness level, I do have way more peace and “normal” happiness than 2 years ago. What do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts.
@ Miche: Heya!
1. A New Earth, while I don’t read it so much anymore, it was a perfect introduction to the “search”. On the psychological side Schema Therapy: A practitioner’s guide, for an overview of psychological techniques on all three levels (cognitive, emotional, behavioural). Er…it’s hard to pick just 3. I guess I would say the Sedona Method book?
2. Hmmm… Again, hard to pick, but I would say “The heart of the Buddha’s teaching”, by Thich Nhat Hanh.
3. Repressed Anger. (I have a feeling that while I’ve dealt with surface anger, there might be some that is “locked up” inside me). Sub-personalities and the Jungian concept of the shadow.
4. Haha, this might be unexpected, but the biggest I’ve ever had was the simple realisation that I didn’t have to be upset, and that I could actually do something about it.
Maybe an explanation would help. When I was depressed, it lasted many years, and I simply just accepted it and thought I would have to live out the rest of my life that way. Then I realised I could do something about it. So it’s not like some spiritual “enlightenment” moment or something, but a simple realisation.
5. Sure!
I’ll email you so you have my email address.
@ Mark: Thanks for your kind words! I don’t know how to answer that as I’m not enlightened… to be honest I’m not really seeking enlightenment that much anymore. I’m doing the emotional and psychological work for its own sake, and I don’t really know how it ties into being enlightened.
According to some, you release enough of the junk in our minds (automatic and unconscious desires, thoughts, memories, emotions, etc), and eventually its enough for us to see that we aren’t the mind. So it’s kinda like “preparing” the mind for the big realisation. But I can’t confirm that as I’ve not been there. That’s all I can think of, sorry I can’t help more.
@ Wonder Lover: Hmm… It’s probably just me, but I never got much benefit out of those techniques (NLP and visualisation), so I don’t write about them. Doesn’t mean they don’t work, as I’ve heard amazing results from other people.
The angry client is a very unique situation. There are many facets involved, which I haven’t written about in the blog. He triggered childhood pains, he represented my “shadow” (my repressed and denied traits), etc etc. So there isn’t just 1 book or person, it was many layers and many processes that unravelled him.
As for the last question, I don’t know how to answer that. As I said to Mark above, I stopped exploring the ego and so on like 2 years ago,so I really don’t know the answer. Sorry!
Hi Albert,
I am trying to bring awareness into every activity that I do (eating, drinking, talking, watching, walking, etc) but I find it so hard to do and I keep forgetting. Is there any hint or tip you can give me to speed up the process or should I simply be patient and keep reminding myself to be aware?
Thanks in advance,
Arvind
Hey Arvind! I’m trying to do the same too, it is very hard. I would suggest if you find something that you always tend to have troubles with, to do some releasing around that topic.
For instance, I find it OK to be aware when not doing anything, but when I am driving I automatically go into “zombie” mode. Turns out there were a lot of beliefs and other junk in my head around driving (i.e. I have to be tense all the time or I will crash).
Doing a bit of releasing on these situations will make it easier to be aware in that particular event –
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
Hope that helps
Thank you Albert, Really appreciate it. By the way I simply love your site, its been quite helpful to me.
Thank you,
Arvind
Albert, It’s funny that I write now after all this time (I’ve been following your blog for several years now), … but if I may ask… what question would you ask yourself?
:0)
@ Arvind: My pleasure mate
@ Janee: Thanks for your years of support! Your question stumped me haha. Maybe I would ask myself – is there an end to all this? Will there ever be a point where I can put away the inner work and the books and just say “OK, that’s it, I’m satisfied”? And then my answer would be “I don’t know but I sure bloody hope so!”
Many people will tell me this means I am looking towards a future, which takes me away from the Now, which is the only time I can be satisfied, so this seeking is counter-productive. Confusing, eh? Heh.
Hey Albert!
How are you doing? Is life still hectic? Hope things are going well for you
Peace
Diggy
Hey Diggy! I’m good mate, how are you going? Your blog is going awesome man, I just popped by just now.
My hectic-ness is slowing down a little but that just gives me more time to get busy…if that makes sense
Hah!
My question: How’s Uni been for you?
Hiya Evan! Hmm… there’s two ways I can approach this question – if you’re asking after me, then it’s very good and thank you
If you’re asking in terms of how good psych is at uni, I can’t complain.
Initially, some of the things (statistics, neuro, perception, etc)that were taught made all the students scratch their head and wonder what the point is.
Strangely only after several years do they link what we study to real world, and that made me realise that this stuff is actually important, and I should have paid more attention to them haha. I previously only paid attention to the stuff that I liked or thought relevant (abnormal psych, counselling skills, personality theories, etc).
How do you tell the difference between rightfully putting your foot down to get what is really important or just being a pain in the arse?
Hi Rob, this is a very hard question to answer. I can’t answer it without knowing you in real life, since it is so individual, and I would have to see you in action to know. It is almost impossible to just give some guidelines like this. Hope you understand!
You said: ‘What I would suggest is to spend more time giving love to yourself (it’s strictly not tonglen, but a variation someone taught me)’
what is this variation? lol
thanks , ur site has been very helpful to me
ok, then, how do you turn lead into gold?
Hey Albert,
Love the blog, it provides a fresh perspective on many issues for me. I am wondering if you are a vegan/vegetarian?
Hi Albert-
I am a young woman(24) who just got a new job that requires travel and meeting new clients. I am also very petite. My question is.. how do I get over the fear of traveling alone on business trips and also meeting with new clients(many are older men). I often feel inferior to people because of my size and age.
@ Jag: Well instead of giving love to other people, give it to yourself? Isn’t that what tonglen is? Taking on their suffering and giving them your love and happiness. Unless I got confused somehow haha!
@ Rob: That’s my secret
@K Shah: Heya, thanks for your compliment. No I’m not a vegetarian.
@ Ash: Hi Ash. I’m not the best person to ask for safety tips, you might want to ask an expert. I would say take all necessary precautions. I can’t think of them all, but for example, knowing the right numbers to call for the police, knowing who and where to avoid, stuff like that.
As for meeting new clients, you might like to question your beliefs. Ask yourself questions like – why do older people intimidate me? What is the worst that can happen? Maybe you say something wrong, or you don’t get the sale. What can you do to minimise the chances of that happening?
Once you take action on the physical level, you can also do some inner work on it. Either emotional work or inquiring into those beliefs.
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
http://www.urbanmonk.net/welcome/#thework
I don’t know much about these topics so I would suggest having a chat to a mentor or someone more knowledgable at the same time. All the best
What’s the saying, “Live and Let Live” me to you?
Albert,
Thanks so much for the mention. I’m a great admirer of your blog and you as a person, and am deeply humbled that you find my writing good enough to recommend. Thank you.
Albert-
Thank you for your comments and suggestions…..I have not gone to the sites yet as I have been out for the past day and just read your comments….I am sure they will be beneficial.
Love your blog and spiritual insights….keep it up!
Grant
@ Jared: I guess the usual? None of us are perfect, we can’t really change the other person. So live our own lives to the best we can, and let others live their own lives the best they can.
@ Daphne: You’re way too kind!
@ Grant: My pleasure
I don’t have a question for you, Albert, but thought that I’d like to thank you for your authenticity. You truly write from the heart!
Dear Albert,
Whew!! Lots of stuff here.
I’m going out to lunch, wanna come with?
Mary
hmmm, ok I see.
And yeah searching about the ego creates more ego ironically I’ve been seeing. Good choice
About the client, how was the processed unraveled though. Let me put it this way, was there a book that helped you, or a series you might say these are recommendable for approval seekers? Any you can name please?
In relating to approval.
One article about aloneness struck me. My aloneness felt so good that I actually stopped wanting a girlfriend; it was a radical experience, pure Love. Just one friend directly said to me, “You don’t want a girlfriend because you can’t have one”. It’s been hurting, but I’m starting to think it’s because of my sense of self was shot, and I searched approval from him because I “trusted” his judgment. My first reaction was to prove him wrong.even though I was open for girls
I’ve been seeing it might be approval, but it might take a while to heal.
Whats your take Albert?
Thanks,
Alex
@ Evelyn: You’re really too kind!
@ Mary: Haha, only if it’s delightfully sinful food. I’m on an eating binge lately.
@ Wonder Lover: Hmm… I covered everything I did in my blog, I don’t remember exactly which ones though as it has been 3 years since I started writing. The only part which I haven’t written about is the Jungian concept of the shadow. One of the best processes I used for shadow work is Ken Wilber’s 321 process, I think you find a basic intro on his website.
I wouldn’t recommend any books; based on our conversations in the past, I think you’ve enough knowledge. Try the Sedona Method and putting some time into that. Same with the aloneness thing, start releasing on it – use some sort of process on it, anything at all; nothing I say intellectually will make a difference I think. I guess what I’m trying to say is – I’m a big fan of action and understanding; from what I know of you, you have enough understanding, time for some action.
Hi..I just loved the questions and answers. They have given me a lot of food for thought and have actually made me a better person..Thanks a lot Albert. I love your blog
Priya, thank you for your kind words, I’m grateful.
Hi Albert,
Thank you for answering my question. I totally get what you were saying. As for me, happiness is more of a feeling of inner peace. Meaning you know all the crap that is out there and you know that it is an illusion. So there is peace in seeing the world for what it is and realizing how things come and go. I tend to take the Buddhist approach to it.
As for being happy, for the most part I am a happy person based on the definition that I used for happiness.
Hey Nadia – that is a wonderful definition. I actually read somewhere that most people don’t know what happiness is, nor do they know how to pursue it – if they have it, it appears to be quite “accidental”. So thanks for helping me clarify this for myself; I never thought about it properly until you asked
Hello Albert, just wanted to let you know that I “borrowed” your disclaimer to write my own in my latest post. I have provided a link to your site from my post. Thanks for the inspiration!
With love,
Evelyn
Is it better to be a firework, or a bonfire?
Well its all thanks to you that I know “enough”. You were the reason I got into Personal Development. It all started when I search Loneliness on Google, and boom there I was reading my first article a year ago.
@ Evelyn: No problem!
@ Wonder Lover: That’s good to know, it really is. Thanks
@ Rob: Heh, I’m not sure if that’s a metaphor for anything, but if the question is taken at face value – I prefer a bonfire. Warm and comforting, plus it lives longer than a firework haha!
Why do bus shelters’ form not follow their function~ ever!
It’s raining I get wet; It’s sunshiny I get sunburned; It’s windy I am chilled…
Hi,
I have this problem. i just do not seem to do anything. i just do not want to work. it just seems like that the world has just stopped. i work a full time job and am really good at it. i plan to build up a businees online and i have all the time in the world for it. i have build some websites but i need to do a lot more but i just keep sitting on my laptop and never do anything. i know what i need to do , i just do not do it. its something like something invisible is forcing not to do it. and it is affecting every aspect of my life. i do not know if its a psychological problem and whether i should seek professional help. can u pls guide.
@ Char: Haha! I think they want us to get in touch with nature…
@cristina: If it is a long standing problem and really affecting you, I do recommend professional help. Many seem to think that you really have to hit rock-bottom before you seek help, when really it doesn’t have to be like that.
Hi Albert
Thanks for the quick reply. i just this other post of yours on the guilty part and i am trying to so something with. i am just a little harder now to go deep into my inner self and dig out the resons for my behaviour. i do not know whether i should post this here but it will just help me clean up the sytem inside.
My parents were born and brought up in a village and both got a chance to study and settle in city. my father was the only one who was able to study amongst his other brothers and sisters due to lack of resources in the family. even though my father could have helped his other brothers and sisters to study by taking up a job while studying instead he chose to see himself in the company of rich guys and therefore demanded money from his family which they could barely afford. so he has this inferiority/superiority complex in him and it is satisfied by not allowing people to get ahead from where he is now. what he has done with his brothers and sisters, same he has done with his kids. me. as i m the brighter one amongst the siblings. i have always been told to not try out new things and have been gagged all my life. so i have this inhibition of not speaking even when somebody is doing something wrong to me. As i just do not find the strength t resist. i mean i just do not know how to react as i have been told to keep quiet right from the childhood. my father used to behave like a king. and expected that we should understand the change in his mood and behave accordingly. I do not know why i am suddenly writing this but i feel that your post on finding the reson for the way i am behaving has given me these answers.
My mother also suffes from the same thing. she has spent all her life in being important in the eyes of people outsie her family. Even when i studied and got some award, it was described in front of relatives as a achievement of my parents and me being the object through they could obtain importance in the eyes of the relatives.
i just feel that what i m trying to do is i m just taking revenge from my parents. i just want to fail. i want to show to the world that my parents ar not as good as they show themselves to be.
i really think so. i am just geeting this feeling that i need to accept the fact that i am affecting my life and nobody else’s by this behaviour. i am having butterflies in the stomach while writing. o god i never thought i could just write this.
Now i need t get this out of my system. thanks a lot albert. i will keep posting my progress here. about my feelings and changes in my behaviour.
Once agai thanks for the guilty post. frankly its not something i have come across or the first time while reading about this topic but your post just made me think deeper.
Hey cristina, thanks for having the courage to share that story. It sounds like a very painful thing to go through, and I don’t know what to say except all the best, and I admire your courage.
My mind is in a sad state these days. Every time I think something positive, another thought will arise finding away to blame myself for it, and somehow convince me I’m still not innocent, and I’m guilty.
Anyways, I don’t like the fact of taking anti-depressent medication, as I feel it’s a useless money grabber for big corporations, but I don’t know what else to do. There’s not much opportunity to do anything where I am, and I’m stuck in the same self-defeating routine.
I’m considering therapy… but am also shy and don’t wanna end up crying in front of the therapist, that’d be too akward and I know I would. Always afraid I’ll get the therapist who it’s just a paycheck for… how should I comfort myself into growing the balls to do therapy, or should I just take anti-depressent meds?
Hi Jordan, thank you for your comment. I am really sorry, but I really can’t say much – as mentioned in the main post I am simply not qualified to, and it’s very difficult to know the full story via the internet.
What I can say – there is no shame in finding professional help. (I might be a bit biased, as I am training to become one myself)
If you’re worried about finding a lousy therapist, remember that it is perfectly in your rights (and to your benefit) to move on to a different person if you think the current one is not good for you. Also, there’s nothing wrong with crying. In my experience, it’s a very healing thing to do.
Hi Albert!
Me, again.
I don’t have a question, but I do have a comment. I,also, have been in some similar depressive areas of my life. I read a book called “The Four Agreements”. Turned my whole attitude around.
Living in the present moment is key to a successful way of getting joy in life, no matter what. Hope this helps.
Go’in out for ice cream. I don’t care if it is November. I like ice cream.
Mary
@crisitna Hello there! It seems to me that you are halfway to the solution already – you have recognised your problem and you seem to have an excellent grasp on it’s definition and origin. This is a positive step for you and you have taken another tentative step by asking for help. It is clear to me that you already have the capability of fixing this problem with your own willpower and imagination. The most common way to deal with procrastination is to make a list of everything you want to achieve and break it down into the smallest possible tasks. You must then set yourself a target to achieve one small task in a reasonable time limit. Make it easy, stick to this target and when you achieve it, pick another task or two, set a new deadline and achieve it. You can then begin to order and prioritise the remaining tasks and before you know it you will be more than half-way done. Once you have achieved this milestone you will have momentum on your side! If web design is something that interests you and you enjoy doing it you will have no trouble once you get started and you will be blessed with a job you enjoy – surprisingly, not many people take that chance. So you need to be brave and do what you want to do. You must train yourself not to mind if others take credit for your achievements – as long as you are enjoying it, what does it matter? No one else can share your own sense of achievement so you must learn to celebrate your own success and reward yourself in your own way! When you get past that 50% mark, buy yourself a treat, something that is for you only like a spa day, a telescope or tickets to see a show. When you start to acknowledge your own achievements in this way you are reinforcing your own positive behaviour and when others notice you doing this, perhaps they will also want to do the same, however you must not be disapointed if they don’t. You create your own opportunities in life and by working hard and displaying dedication and a professional approach, you will eventually get noticed by the right person, who will offer you a new opportunity with a new challenge and bigger rewards – you must have faith in yourself and your ability to create your own destiny.
Good Luck.
@ Mary: I love ice cream too. And even better cos November is summer here
To be honest I did read the 4 agreements but didn’t get much out of it. Maybe I should check it out again.
@ Rob: Thanks for that, the support here for other people is absolutely great.
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