ما هو الأنا الخاص وكيفية وضع حد لها من التعتيم السلام الداخلي الخاص بك وغير المشروط الحب
ملاحظة المحرر : هناك كثير من الأحيان بعض الخلط بين هذا التعريف من الأنا وللتعريف فرويد. موجهة في هذا الارتباك حول الأنا .
هذا هو الوعي والوعي الخاص بك. انها جميلة ، والكمال ، وسلمية. هذا هو "أنا" داخلك ، وأنا "" التي تسيطر على الجسم والعقل والعواطف. هو صحيح " أنا ". هذا ما كنت عليه قبل الحياة حدث لك.
هذا هو ما يغطي السلام الداخلي الخاص بك. وصعدت الأنا الخاص بك في والحياة وترك ندوبا في. وقد سلامك وجمالك تحجب ندوب لا تعد ولا تحصى -- علامات القبيحة التي تستر على وعيه الخاص الحقيقي.
(والآن بعد أن كنت قد حصلت على الرعب والاهتمام الخاص مع مهاراتي فوتوشوب هائلة ، أود أن أضيف أن هذه هي وظيفة طويلة على محمل الجد -- ما يقرب من 6000 كلمة ، كما انها المفضلة وأصدق حتى الآن ، ولكن عليك الحصول على قيمة أموالك من القراءة 
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ملاحظة : لقد انقسم أيضا في هذا المنصب حتى في صفحات ، لذلك لا تنسى لقراءة صفحات أخرى!
الأنا أن يحجب السلام الخاص
ما هي هذه البقع التي تشوه الكمال الخاصة بك؟
أنها تمثل الأشياء الصغيرة التي كنت تأخذ لمن أنت : يحب الخاص بك ، يكره ، يحب ، الكراهية. هم التاريخ انه لا يمكن ترك. هم الذكريات والآمال والأحلام الخاص. فهي عادات الخاص بك قليلا ، والهوايات الخاصة بك ، السلوكيات الخاص بك. كل هذه ، كل واحد علامة ، والجمع بين لجعل شخصيتك ، الأنا الخاص بك ، هويتك.
ولكن ما هي السمات الخاصة بك؟ هو شيء التي مخطئ لنفسك. الجميع تقريبا يعرف -- أنهم لا يعرفون أي أفضل. اسأل أي شخص من هم ، وعلى الأرجح أنها سوف اقول لكم الاسم ، العمر ، أو وظائفهم ، عرقهم أو جنسهم ، تاريخهم ، والأحلام ، ويحب ويكره. هم يعرفون أنفسهم من هذه.
وهذه كلها جزء من شخصيتك. لكنها مجرد عنك. ولكنها ليست لك. وتصف لك فقط ، ولكن ما تمكنا من خفض لأنفسنا هذه الأوصاف ، وهذه التفاصيل الصغيرة. ونحن نسينا من نحن ، ونحن قد نسيت جوهر الحقيقي والوعي التي تم تغطيتها من قبل كل هذه التفاصيل. وأنه من المحزن ، وذلك لأن جوهر يحتوي على كل شيء نسعى -- بكل ما نبحث عنه في الأهداف التي ومطاردة -- السلام والفرح الذي لا يتزعزع.
قراءة هذا المقال ، ومن ثم قراءة جميع المشاركات السابقة -- حتى تلك التي تستند إلى علم النفس الحديث ، سواء كانت على الغضب والحزن ، أو الصفح السعادة ... ستجد هذه الحقيقة المخفية في مكان ما هناك.
وقف الأفكار قبل أن يدرككم. وقف العواطف قبل أن يأخذك أكثر. وقف الأنا من أقول لك أن الأمور لا ينبغي أن يكون بهذه الطريقة. هم كل واحد يؤدي إلى تعليم -- وقف الأنا من صفو السلام الخاص. وتستند معظم الأساليب ، من الديانات القديمة ، لعلم النفس الحديث ، للتغلب على هذه -- وصفوا فقط بطريقة مختلفة. إما ذلك أو أنهم يجهلون الأساسية وعيه لا أذكر ذلك.
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لاستدعاء هذا المنصب منذ فترة طويلة هو بخس ، ألبرت. بلدي التصويت؟ انقسام بالتأكيد هو فوق. في 6000 عبارة ، قد لا تحصل على ما تستحقه من اهتمام إذا كان قد تم تقسيمها الى اتخاذ سلسلة كبيرة. عدا ذلك ، هو كتاب رائع ، وأعني ما بعد.
شكرا لهذا التعليق هم! نعم أنا قد انقسم الامر الكالينجيون!
هذا أمر رائع. وأنا أدرك الناس في كثير من الأحيان لا ترغب في قراءة وظائف طويلة ، ولكن كنت قد فعلت أفضل عمل رأيته حتى الآن من الذي يغطي القواعد 'ما يجعل حتى بأنفسنا بناء. هناك عناصر كثيرة لفكرتنا 'لي' ، وأنه من السهل أن تعطي فقط انتباهنا إلى الأكثر وضوحا. في كل مرة كنت قد فكرت بعمل مثالي للرسم صورة كاملة ، التفت حولي وكنت فاجأني بواسطة المشاركة في في جانب آخر من الأنا! وهذا القيام بعمل كبير لمساعدة الناس على فهم يبنون الهيكل العظمي الذاتي من حولها. برافو!
مرحبا كينتون تقدير كبير ماتي! مجاملة منك يعني الكثير!
بعد يوم حار من العواطف وأشبال الأول ليرى النور... وأنا وضعت على موقع الويب الخاص بك ، والآن لقد وجدت لماذا. اقدر لكم صادقة والوضوح في شرح كيفية ويعتقد أن وظيفة وما هو الدور الذي تؤديه داخل الغرور لدينا عقولنا. أنا أشعر بقوة وركزت على اكتشاف بلدي الداخلية ذاتية حقيقية وأعتقد أن في يوم من الأيام سوف اجد جوهر حقيقي وتجربة حقيقية الجنة. أشكركم على هذه المادة "فترة طويلة". وإنني أتطلع إلى استكشاف المزيد من كتاباتك. السلام عليكم
مرحبا سامي ، شكرا لك على التعليقات الكريمة ، ونتمنى لك التوفيق في رحلتك! أنا سعيد ساعد.
وظيفة جيدة حقا. أحب هذا الوقت الطويل. انه يعطيني كل الإجابات وأود أن الحاجة إلى إيجاد مكان آخر. بعض الموضوعات تحتاج ظائف طويلة. أيضا ، وظيفة طويلة يجعلني اعتقد ان هناك الكثير من العمل والالتزام ، ولذلك أميل إلى أن يكون أكثر جدية. أعتقد أننا لا ينبغي أن تفعل كل الأشياء نفسها ولها نفس النمط. الجميع يوصي تقسيم وظائف طويلة ، لكنهم ينسون ان الجميع يحب أشياء مختلفة.
شكرا mrtptt. نعم ، حاولت زوجين من الطرق ، وقررت أن تقسيمها إلى صفحات ، والأمل لا أحد يخطئ في شيء Page12345 قليلا.
ويسعدني أن أقول وأدرج مقالك في الكرنفال النمو الإبداعية # 4. ويسعدني مع الجودة العالية للمواد من هذا الاسبوع ، عن تقديره الكثير لكم جميعا الذين شاركوا كتابة الخاص بك! يرجى ربط العودة إلى http://www.energiesofcreation......-growth-4/ لمشاركة هذه الكتابات الأخرى مع القراء.
استدعاء أكثر من `كرنفال جميل النمو' أن أقول كم استمتعت مقالك.
اصوت لا تقسيم عنه. ومن الجدير 30 دقيقة استغرق لقراءته! وظيفة كبيرة!
شكرا يا رفاق كثيرا جدا!
الأنا تساعدنا على الحلم وتتجاوز وسائلنا العادية ، ولكن دون ذلك يمكن أن يكون ركوب العادي من خلال الحياة ، ولكن هذا لا يعني أنها ينبغي أن تكون رائدة في كل الأوقات... وبالنسبة لي ، والناس الأنا تتغذى على بلدي ، وبعد ذلك أضع لاختبار في حلقة مفرغة ، وإلى فقدان الدهون.
مرحبا توان ، وأنا أتفق معك. أعتقد فعلا أن هناك مسارين لهذه :
1) استبدال جميع أجزاء الأنا السلبية بأخرى إيجابية
2) إزالة الأنا تماما والاعتماد على الحدس
ابن ترك الخيار للقارئ ، ولقد صيغت الوظائف بالتفصيل كل من المسارات على استعداد ليتم نشرها مرة واحدة في سلسلة أرسطو قد انتهى.
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منذ سنوات وكنت أنا في كثير من الأحيان كان شغلها مع الكثير من الغضب والغضب. وكنت مرة واحدة فكنت أحسب أن المصدر الحقيقي لهذا القلق كان لا يأتي من الآخرين ولكن من داخل لي ، وقادرة على بدء رحلتي لتصبح في سلام مع نفسي. بمساعدة من الكتب والاقتراحات السخية ورقيقة من زوجتي المحبة ، وكنت قادرا (بعد بعض الوقت) على التخلي عن بلدي الأنا. يتساءل الناس الآن لماذا أنا دائما ابتسامة على وجهي وهذا القليل فضلا عن أشياء كبيرة لم يعد يزعجني. هذا ليس اللامبالاة -- إنها التوازن. بالتأكيد ، أنا لا تشتعل بين الحين والآخر ، ولكن فقط على الداخل. أعتقد حقا لو تمكنا من معرفة كل شيء أن يتحول إلى مجتمع egoless ، فإن معظم المشاكل في العالم من شأنها أن تقلل.
Pamm ، وأذكر لكم هنا ترك رسالة مع سؤالين : كتبت ردا طويلا حتى توفي ولكن الخادم وانها ذهبت. من ما أتذكر ، وهنا ما كتبته أنا :
1) هل يمكن أن يكون الباحث ويكون لا يزال يعيش في سلام؟ نعم ، كل تعاليم يقول لك ان لا تكون الا سعيدة الآن. الآن كل ما هو موجود ، والمستقبل هو الترقب ، والماضي هو الذاكرة. ليس هناك وقت آخر يمكنك ان تكون في سلام.
ونأمل أن يسمح لهذه الوظيفة قد تحولت من كونها القارئ تحديدها مع الأنا ، والاعتراف بها كشيء منفصل التغطية عليها. مرة واحدة أنهم يعرفون أنه منفصل ، بل هو أسهل كثيرا في اختيار البقاء في السيطرة عليها. إذا لم تكن كذلك ، فإن رد فعل الأنا والعمل وتكون غير سعيدة بالنسبة لهم ، وانهم لا يدركون انهم لم يكن لديهم خيار آخر.
مع هذا التحول ، يمكنك اختيار أن يكون في سلام. إنها مسألة أن يكون المرء على علم بما فيه الكفاية -- في بعض الأحيان العادات القديمة لا تموت بسهولة ، ولكن لمجرد عادة. ويأخذ الثاني لتحقيق ما تقومون به ، واختيار. هذا كل شيء. على سبيل المثال ، عندما توفي خدمة بلدي ، وأدركت أنني فقدت نصف بلدي من الأعضاء ، التي عملت لشهور لبناء لأن موقعي كان باستمرار ، حصلت بالاحباط حقا ومن ثم أدركت أنها لن تغير شيئا ، وأنا هدأت على الفور. واستمر الإحباط بلدي 5 دقائق. وعادة ما يكون ذلك استمرت وقتا أطول.
قريبا وأعتقد أن هذا الوقت سيكون خفض أقصر وأقصر حتى لا شيء يمكن أن يزعج لي على الإطلاق.
2) ماذا في العالم يكون مثل إذا لا أحد منا كان طالبي؟
وجوابي : لا أعرف ، آسف.
انها مثل ما يطلب أن العالم سوف يكون مثل كل الرجال إذا أصبح العقم. ونود أن يموت الجميع إما خارج ، أو شيء يمكن أن يحدث جذرية لضمان بقائنا. في حالة عدم طالبي ، فإننا ربما تضيع جميع فقط في الحروب والمعارك ، والصراع على أي شيء ، أو شيء من هذا سيحدث جذرية من شأنها أن تحول لنا. في ماذا؟ لا أعرف.
وأنا أتفق تماما. لقد سعيت لتسليط غرور بلدي ولكن الرجل انها صعبة. ولكن سأستمر في المحاولة. هذا مجرد شيء حدث في مطلع الاسبوع الذي كان لي باستمرار ، وكنت أقرأ هذا قلت يا إلهي انها الأنا بلدي طوال الوقت وأنا لم تدرك هذه الحقيقة. سوف أقول لكم الحق بعيدا ، وعلى الفور شعرت بجدية غرامة.
وفي موضوع آخر ، لقد قرأت ، وبعد التأمل الروحي مسار ثابتة إلى حد ما ، وأنا أحب ذلك ، أجد نفسي يقول للجميع من حولي. انه لشيء رائع جدا ، وأريد أن يعرف الجميع. أشعر أنني أفعل ذلك كثيرا. أنا أعرف أيضا بعض [بيوب] كرهناه. وأنا أعلم أنني يجب أن تكون صامتة ولكن بمجرد تشغيله الاعتبار حتى تهب كنت اريد فقط ان نقول للناس. ماذا يمكنني أن أفعل؟. واضاف "اعرف واحد يعرف أن لا يقول ذلك ، واحد يقول لا يعرفون ذلك." أنا لا أتذكر أين قرأت ذلك.
مرحبا لورينا ، عظيم أن نسمع أن كنت على ما يرام ، انه شيء أن يحدث.
الرجاء توخي الحذر من تشويه صورة الأنا الرغم من ذلك ، لا تجعل من هدف إلى التخلص من الأنا. مجرد أن يكون على علم به والالتفاف عليها ، هذا كل ما يمكنك القيام به. لا تجعل من بعض الهدف في المستقبل أن تكون خالية تماما من ذلك ، لذلك يقوي الأنا الخاص فقط. يمكنك أن تكون فقط خالية من ذلك الآن.
رد : إخبار الناس الآخرين ، وذهبت من خلال المرحلة نفسها. كثير من الناس. وأعتقد أن كل "سيئة" الشيء في نهاية المطاف لصالح. أي إذا كانت تمر التعاسة ، وهناك ما سيتعلمون من ذلك. قد أكون مخطئا وإن كان. أود أن أقترح أن يبقيه على نفسك إلا إذا كانت تأتي إليك. مرة أخرى ، ولعب معه حول نفسك ، ماذا عملت بالنسبة لي لا يعمل بالضرورة للكم. أنا والتخطيط لسلسلة من الوظائف على الحواجز والعقبات التي والتنمية الشخصية بعد هذه السلسلة الأنا هو القيام به.
نعم يا واحد آخر شيء : من الطبيعي بالنسبة للغرور ويريدون العودة... أكثر من مرة عند اكتشاف الأنا تشعر أنك عظيم ، رائع ، وسلمي... ثم الأنا يعود... إذا فعلت ذلك ، ندرك أنه في العادة.
وبمجرد إجراء تحول بين لمعرفة الأنا ، ويجري تحديدها مع الأنا ، انها مجرد عادة العقلية... لا يمكن ان تعود. انها مثل معرفة سانتا كلوز لا وجود لها... يمكنك أبدا العودة إلى الاعتقاد في سانتا مرة أخرى بغض النظر عن ما تشعر به...
حتى إذا كان لديك شعور السلام يذهب بعيدا ، فقط تذكر فيها الأنا ، ويتلاشى ببطء العادة...
ملاحظة المشرف حذفها بطريق الخطأ ، ووضع لذلك مرة أخرى في كل من :!
مرحبا ألبرت ،
هذا هو في الواقع نسخة من رسالة كتبتها للتو
لكم ، وduhhhhhhhh ثم بزغ الفجر على لي
أن قلت لك هذا في تعليق
على هذه الوظيفة.
أعجب لذلك أنا مع هذا المقال :
وبوضوح أنت الأنا وتعرضها على ما هو عليه.
كيف لنا عقد العديد من لحظات مجيدة من العودة في هذا
يحب الحياة لأن الأنا الوضع الراهن. !!!!!!
هذا النوع من شيء يزعجني من منصب الأنا وكان هذا....
في غضون ذلك المادة 2 أوقات مختلفة ذكرتم أن
لم تكن المستنير لك. ثم قرأت على خط الخاص
في الصفحة الاولى ان لم تكن من سيد المستنير.
ربما انها مجرد بلدي يأخذ على الكلمة نفسها. أنا بالتأكيد لا
عرض نفسي كمعلم مستنير ، ولكن أشعر بأن هناك
مستويات التنوير. أريد فقط أن أدعوكم للترفيه
تلك الفكرة التي كنت بالتأكيد قد بلغ مستوى من التنوير.
نيكول ابنتي هو 25 وانها على مستوى من الوعي الروحي
(أو التنوير) أن معظم عمرها لا يشاركون.
ومع ذلك ، فهي في كثير من الأحيان بالإحباط مع غيرهم من الناس الذين لن حتى
النظر في بعض المواضيع التي لها مكيدة التفكير على أساس يومي.
لقد شرحت لأمور لها بهذه الطريقة....
"عسل ، انها مثل هؤلاء الناس عميقة نائما. وهم يختارون
لا تزال نائمة وأي قدر من الصراخ ، أو الحديث أو أي شيء
سوف يكون لها تأثير عليها.
بين الحين والآخر كنت تأتي عبر شخص على الخاص
المستوى. هم معنوياتك المشابهة. وهي تعكس بالرد عليك
ما يقرب من الرحلة نفسها التي كنت على.
و......... في بعض الأحيان ، ونحن يأتي عبر شخص ليس في
مثل هذا النوم العميق.... لدينا وتبادل الحديث معهم فقط
~ واستيقظ دفع ~ التي تحتاجها.
أشعر أن 'التنوير' ويمكن تفسير في مستويات أيضا.
))))))))))
لو كنت لشرح نفسك 'غير المستنير' التي من شأنها أن
إشارة إلى شخص بالغ نائما ، وكنت فقط أن نقول أن لا
ألبرت عن نفسك.
فمن الضروري للغاية للتقدم إلى الأمام أن نعقد
أنفسنا في أفضل ضوء ممكن.
أنا لم أقرأ كل ما العديد من المقالات الخاصة بك على بلوق ، ولكن أنا
إشارة مرجعية له. لا يزال لدي شعور بأن لديك التغلب على
ليلة مظلمة ضخمة من الروح ومن مهمتكم لتقاسم
تحسن مع العالم الجديد وألبرت. أو ينبغي أن
ويقول ألبرت جديدة وتحسين....... ونحن على تحسين جميع
كل يوم واحد. لا يوجد زر قيلولة بعد الظهر وليس هناك
الذهاب تماما العودة الى النوم مرة كنت 'المستنير.
وكانت مشاركة سليد في بلوق ، نفسية قنوات ،
الإشارات والضوضاء
http://sladeroberson.com/praye... noise.html
بدأ لي أن التفكير في كيفية الأنا
وكان في الحصول على الطريق لارتباطي
أدلة على روحي.
وكان هذا المقال الذي جاء بعد ذلك من خلال و
حثت لي لجعل وظيفة على بلدي بلوق
حول الأنا الطريقة التي تم عقد لي عودة
من هذا الصدد.
شكرا لكم! شكرا لك!!
مع الاحترام العميق وتمنيات ،
اكس اكس
ديب
مرحبا ديب ، وذلك بفضل لتعليقاتكم. وقد رددت على البريد الإلكتروني الخاص بك ، ولكنني سوف تبقي بعض النقاط البارزة هنا (في الاشياء التي هي مفيدة لجميع القراء) :
بادئ ذي بدء ، شكرا جزيلا للتعليق الكريمة!
هذه المقالة هو أن تصبح بسرعة مقالتي الأكثر شعبية ، وانها بالتأكيد المفضلة ، وأعتقد أنه من وظيفة مفيدة للغاية على بلوق.
لقد تم العمل مع ويتمان كينتون من http://www.kentonwhitman.com الذي يتحدث لي من خلال الأفكار المسبقة بلدي التنوير. صاحب بلوق هو عظيم حقا ، لديك لقراءته.
أعتقد أن أقول إنني لست المستنير ل2 الأسباب :
1) لدي يسبق أن التنوير هو أبيض وأسود ، أنت أو كنت لا. وأعتقد أنه إذا enlightenend لكم ، لن تكون مفاجأة على أي شيء. كينتون انه تم تقول لي هذا ليس هو الحال لكنه ما زال ما أسعى ل=)
2) وإذا ذهبت في جميع انحاء بلدي بلوق يقول ابن المستنير ، وأنا يبدو وكأنه حقيقي العلاقات العامة * المسيخ هاهاها!
لقد قمتم بعمل رائع يصف العقل الأنا وكيفية اتخاذ السيطرة على أفكارنا -- وظيفة كبيرة!
شكرا Torilink ، قضى بعض الوقت على بلوق الخاص بك ، بعض الاشياء العظيمة على وجود كذلك -- في الاول خاصة مثل قوانين المحكم سبعة -- لقد كنت أبحث عن مجموعة من القوانين للجميع لفترة طويلة!
أحببت هذه المادة. وكان واضحا. وحتى لو أنها طويلة بعض الشيء ، لا حاجة لتغيير التنسيق أو ترقيم الصفحات.
شكرا لك ،
جان
شكرا جان ، وهذا هو بلدي بلوق أول تجربة لذلك أنا فقط مع عدد قليل من مختلف الامور والحصول على ما نرى لمثل القراء. شكرا لإدخال الخاص بك!
المادة العظمى. منظمة تنظيما جيدا واضحة جدا. من المفيد جدا. شكرا جزيلا
أنت طيب جدا جيمس ، ونظرة على متابعة مختلف عمليات لسلسلة
أحب قراءة مقالك. الأفكار الكبرى ، بالاضافة الى عرض وشاملة تماما ، وطولها على ما يرام معي. وإليك بعض الأفكار لدي الزوجين. كنت أود أن أقرأ عن الأنا في العمل مع الحب وبيينغ في الحب.
وعلى صعيد شخصي لك : أنت كنت لا أذكر تماما المستنير عدة مرات ، على الرغم من أن هذا قد يكون جيدا بالنسبة لك أن تظل متواضعة ، قد تبقي أيضا لكم في هذا الواقع.
شكرا لتقاسم الأفكار الخاصة بك. ناماستي
مرحبا ايزابيل ،
شكرا لتعليقات ، انا مسرورة لانك تتمتع هذه الوظيفة
. كنت قد يأتي في الوقت المناسب ، والحب والأنا هو شيء أنا بدأت في الحصول على -- انها ستعمل يكون موزعة على سلسلة واسعة من الوظائف التي تستعد الآن أنا الحق ، لذلك ترقبوا لذلك.
وعلى التنوير... عدد قليل من القراء وأشار التكرم بالضبط الشيء نفسه الذي فعله ، وأنا أقدر ذلك. أنا بس قلت سوف يبدو وكأنه حقيقي العلاقات العامة * المسيخ إذا ذهبت قائلا حول "مشاهدة هذا الفضاء انا المعلم المستنير" hahah! كل شيء على مايرام ، لقد قطعنا شوطا طويلا منذ كتبت هذا المنصب... شكرا ، وأنا أقدر ذلك حقا.
ناماستي في العودة!
بعد ممتاز ، وأنا أحب القراءة عن هذا النوع من المواضيع. ليست هناك العديد من بلوق الى ان هناك حديث عن هذا النوع من الأشياء ، ممتاز
شكرا جزيلا
يرجى إلقاء نظرة على بعض من عمليات متابعة!
مهلا.
يمر القلب كسر رهيب والأمثلة على كل ما تبذلونه من مساعدة الكثير من الحب ، وجعل لي unidentify مع كسر القلب؟ ومع ذلك لا يزال صباحا بشيء من الارتباك. وأود لا يزال للبحث عن الحب. يتم إرفاق دون أن التسمية من الحب ، وكيف يمكن للمرء أنه واضح والسماح لها تنبع من صلب واحد ويجري؟
مرحبا نور ، وأعتقد أن الخطوة الأولى هي أن ترك ذهبت من يريد الحب. ومن ثم ، وملء نفسك مع الحب مع الحب والتعاطف التأمل ( http://www.urbanmonk.net/122/t.....ompassion/ ) ، حتى ببطء يملأ كل كيانك وبعد ذلك سوف تجتذب الحب . على الأقل ، سوف تكون سعيدة جدا أن الناس سوف تلقائيا مثل الكثير!
أحب الكتابة الخاصة بك ، وكان مفيدا جدا بالنسبة لي والآخرين ، وأظهر هذا أن أشكركم.
يبقيه : ف
شكرا ادريانا!
اهلا وسهلا بكم جدا! وينبغي أن الضحك بصوت مرتفع وأشكر لكم! لكتابه هذا ، وجميع الآخرين أنا لم أقرأ كل شيء ولكن الامر قد يستغرق بعض الوقت لول لي ولكنني لن يقرأها.
وأنا آمل حقا أن لا مانع أن ط يجب أن لأشخاص آخرين. اعتقدوا أنها تساعدهم أيضا.
شكرا مرة أخرى!
هاها ، والمزيد من الناس كنت اقول لكم المزيد من يساعدني! شكرا
مساعدتهم يساعدك؟ thats بارد لطيف جدا ومنكم للتفكير من هذا القبيل.
هذا هو بلدي ثا قرأت أول وظيفة منظمة الشفافية الدولية ، وأنا مدمن مخدرات aready. يبدو أنك تعرف السلام الذي يتوق الجميع ل.
مرحبا الملك الدماغ ،
اسم رهيبة! والشكر لتكمل! السلام هو شيء والذي نريده جميعا بقوة ، وبينما أنا لست هناك 24 / 7 حتى الآن -- وأعتقد أن هذا شيء جيد ما أستطيع أن حصة كل الامور قليلا أتعلم على طول الطريق على بلوق.
مرحبا هناك ألبرت ،
تعثرت فقط على موقع الويب الخاص بك. انه رائع. لقد تم دراسة والتعلم وتوسيع الوعي وعي بلدي حتى بلوق الخاص بك هو مفيدة حقا.
الأسئلة التالية هي ما كنت شخصيا مع كافح وممارسة الوعي الأول. وقد ساعد وإدراكا مني أن ندرك أن كل شيء على ما هو مجرد. ومع ذلك ، للتنقل من خلال الحياة ، وأحيانا أشياء لا بد من إعطاء معنى (أي مرشح ، تصور) ، والفكرة هي أن تكون على علم ما اذا كان رد فعل الأنا أو عينا واعية ويعطيها معنى وإذا كان معنى يخدم جيدا.
لذا سؤالي هو :
هل من الممكن تصور الحياة من دون أي مرشحات؟ إذا كان كذلك ، ومن ثم من الممكن أن تكون egoless وحتى الآن قادرة على التنقل الحياة القائمة على الحدس وحده؟
المثال الخاص حول الفكر غير egoic في الماضي يدفع القيادة في حالة سكر ، أنت الآن لدفع responsibily. ليس لكم أن جزءا فعليا من الأنا... فلتر التي تقوم بعرض والشرب والقيادة الخطرة ، والفرق الوحيد هو أنه أعطى معنى إيجابي؟
في الواقع ، لو كنت تعلم من هذا المنصب وبالتالي أتعلم الوعي ، والحب... عندما egoless ثم موضوع الحب يأتي -- أنا أتكلم الرسم من خبرتي ومعرفتي من ما تعلمته في هذا المنصب ، وأيضا من ممارسة بلدي. غير أن المرشح الذي أتكلم؟ بالمعنى الدقيق للكلمة ليس هو أيضا الأنا وإن كان موجبا؟
إذا طلب منك أن يتكلم في الموضوع -- يقول التطرف الديني ، وسبل التغلب عليها... لن يكون لديك لرسم جوهر الخاص بك من التصورات في العالم ، والناس ، والحياة ، وغيرهم من الناس وتجاربك السابقة الخاصة؟ كيف يمكن أن تتصل ثم يجري مع egoless؟
لدي هذا الفكر أن معظم الماجستير أو 'منها المستنير' هي تلك التي حققت دولة egoless ولكنها قادرة على التحرك والخروج من حالة egoless وegoic لأنها تعيش من خلال الحياة على الأرض. ما رأيك؟
ملاحظة : وأنا آمل حقا أن لا تأتي عبر رعايته أو فظ مع جميع الأسئلة لأنه شيء لقد كنت مع المضطربة منذ بعض الوقت.
مرحبا 1 و د ،
هم... وقبل كل شيء ، أنا لست المستنير ذلك لا استطيع الاجابة مع أكثر من المعارف من جهة ثانية ، والتي قد تكون خاطئة (بسبب سوء تفسير بلدي ، ربما).
1) من ما سمعت ، نعم. ولكن هذا لا يعني أنك تعمل من خلال الحدس. لا استطيع تفسير ذلك ، وأنا لا أفهم تماما نفسي ، ولكن egolessness لا يعني ان كنت تعرف شيئا ، أو ليس لديهم ذكريات أو أي شيء. لا يزال لديك كل ما الاشياء.
2) لم يكن هذا من وجهة نظر التنوير. لم أكن الكتابة من هذا المنظور. كنت أكثر من وجهة نظر وقف المعاناة. أنا لم أكتب أكثر في الوقت المحدد ، وبهذا المعنى ، ومرة أخرى ليس لدي خبرة مباشرة.
3) حب Egoless والدين -- إذا جاز التعبير ، ثم بالطبع كنت من الرسم ما كنت قد قرأت. ولكن لا شيء الأنا لديه علاقة مع المعارف أو الذاكرة ، بقدر ما أعرف.
ما يجب أن ندركه هو أن فقدان الأنا ليست سوى ذلك ، لا تفقد الذاكرة أو نسيان ما حدث بالأمس ، الخ ، الخ. إن الأنا هو مجرد مفهوم اخترنا للاعتقاد ، مثل المال.
على أمل أن يساعد. اعتقد انك الخلط بين الذاكرة والمعرفة مع الأنا. انهم أشياء مختلفة جدا.
مرحبا ألبرت. شكرا للاستجابة السريعة. لست مربكة الذاكرة والمعرفة مع الأنا. تبقى الذاكرة والمعرفة في اطار واحد منا ولكن الأنا هي التصورات وعوامل شكلت بناء على الذكريات والخبرات والمعرفة. سؤالي هو : على الرغم من أننا ندرك وجود الأنا ، لا يمكننا أبدا أن يكون دون ذلك الحق؟ لجميع من الحياة يقوم على الفلاتر والتصورات. ولا حتى وجود أي مرشح هو مرشح نفسه... مثل عدم اتخاذ قرار هو قرار نفسه.
خذ على سبيل المثال المرأة التي أعطت من اللطف -- هل يجب أن يكون المرشح أو التصور أو المعتقدات نحو الحياة التي تسبب لها قيمة العطف والرحمة. وهذا يعني انها لا تمشي حياتها من خلال مرشح واحد وإن كان ذلك يسبب لها أن تكون عينية. ولكن أنت ووصف تصرفاتها كما egoic غير. أنا فقط فهم أن مشكلة.
يمكنني أن أكون مخطئا ولكن إيمهو جميع الأعمال والأفكار سواء كان ذلك العطف والرحمة والسلام والوئام والعنف والغضب والكراهية وتتحمل الخ من الفلاتر وتصورات ومعتقدات كل فرد. انها مجرد مسألة ما إذا كانت تلك الإجراءات هي رد فعل من المرشحات دون وعي أو لا نوجه وعينا إلى تصور مختلف.
مثلا -- معظم بوذي يحمل تصورات معينة عن أي تعاطف أنها تصفية الحياة من خلال الاعتقاد بأن جميع الكائنات الحية تستحق السعادة والاحترام على قدم المساواة بحيث أنها تعيش مع الرحمة والعطف حتى على أعدائهم. الفرق هو أنهم من خلال التأمل والتفكير أكثر وعيا من ردود فعلهم egoic من معظم الناس وبالتالي فهي قادرة على مباشرة مشاعرهم لمرشحات جديدة.
السلام.
هم... وهذا شيء لم يحصل أيضا. ولكن هذا لأننا عالقون في التفكير المزدوج -- أي إذا كان هناك سبب وجيه ، لا بد أن تكون سيئة. بقدر ما أعرف ، من دون غرور ، والإجراءات التي تأتي من نظرة جيدة وإلى نوع العقل الثنائي ، ولكن هو في الواقع ليس بدافع العطف أو الخير. كينتون وصف ويتمان على نحو أفضل في منصبه. انتقل إلى kentonwhitman.com وابحث عن أسئلة ما بعد مواقع مسيحية لبوذا (في الحقيقة كل ما قدمه من وظائف هي رائعة ، ولكن هذا واحد يجيب عن سؤالك.
شكرا جزيلا ألبرت. سوف ننظر من خلال هذا الموقع. انا اطالع كتاب ايكهارد توللي ل... هناك الكثير من الاشياء عن الأنا ، وأنا هضم المعلومات ببطء.
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ألبرت :
وكان هذا المقال الرائع على الاطلاق ، واحدة من العديد من لقد قرأت في بلوق الخاص بك. قرأت المقال بأكمله في جلسة واحدة. أن يخبرك كم من الوقت لدي على يدي اليوم.
Not only was it extremely well written but it truly gave me a chance to make sense of what my ego is all about. The value and power of letting thoughts slide through my consciousness and out the door. The idea of how everything just is. I look at a lamp and see it just as it is.
Fascinating, fascinating piece. أحب ذلك.
اقتراح واحد بالنسبة لك. وبما أن هذا هو منبر الفسفور الابيض ، قد ترغب في النظر في أن كل الارتباط الذي تقدم ، وجعله يطفو على السطح في إطار آخر عندما ينقر المستخدم على ذلك. لماذا؟ لأن القارئ لا يفقد مكانه حيث وصلت للتحقق من صلة ، وخاصة إذا كانت المادة لفترة طويلة جدا و / أو هناك روابط كثيرة. الطعام فقط للتفكير.
هناك الكثير من الناس والمعارضة لهذه الفكرة. الأول ، لأحد ، وجعلت من هذه العادة مستمرة لمساعدة القراء لا تفقد مقامه عند التدقيق في وجود صلة.
مرة أخرى ، المادة العظمى. وانا ذاهب الى بداية متعثرة لذلك لك. هذا كم أنا أحب ذلك.
يا ستيفن ، شكرا للرجل الثناء! نجاح باهر ، والكالينجيون. ابن احمرار الآن. وأنا أقدر ذلك حقا.
إعادة : الإطار الجديد في مقابل شيء نفس النافذة ، وأنا أعلم ما تعنيه ، ولكن يمكنني الحصول على ازعاج لذلك عندما يحدث شيء من هذا القبيل أن أتردد...
هذه وظيفة كبيرة. من الإعلام والفكر في الواقع استفزاز. أنا لا سيما مثل الخاص "صور" انه قد يكون له معنى لخلق سلسلة من الوظائف ذات الصلة الأنا لأن بعض الناس قد تجد من طول هذا واحد قليلا شاقة. الحفاظ على الأفكار الرائعة. لرفع مستوى لتبادل الدروس المستفادة في الطرق التي يتم تقديم المعلومات. ويمكن للقراء أن تأخذ في اختيار ما يختارونه.
بفضل هيه Liara ، وأنا أحب وجود لك هنا ، وكنت تنفق الكثير من الوقت هنا ، وأنا أقدر ذلك كثيرا!
مرحبا ألبرت ،
كما لاحظت وأنت بالتأكيد ، وهذه المرة في موقعك وأنا على اتخاذ المزيد من الوقت للقفز نحو وقرأت أكثر من ما لديك المشتركة.
هنا في هذا المنصب عن الأنا لي تجربة مرة أخرى من نفسك ومن كثير من التعليقات ما لا أستطيع وصفه إلا بأنه نوع العلاقة متعددة السمات ، اضطراب في هذا "الشيء" ندعو الأنا.
ما هي الأنا؟ ما هو الواقع؟ هل هناك تكنولوجيا المعلومات يمكن ان نسميه الأنا؟
الأنا هي محض اختلاس اللغوية؟ الكلمة الإنكليزية "الأنا" مستمد مباشرة من غرور الكلمة اللاتينية التي تعني لفظة "أنا".
هذا شيء كنت قد وناقشت بإسهاب على أكثر من وظيفة في http://www.urbanmonk.net/70/ho.....ss-part-1/
ما هو هذا "أنا" نحن خائفون جدا من وافسدت حول من قبل؟ والذي هو الحصول على افسدت عليه من قبل حول هذه الأنا ، وهذا أنا ""؟ كما قال آلان واتس مرة واحدة ، "من هو أن يعلم أن هناك أي غرور؟" -- فيما يتعلق شخص يعتقد أنهم الآن خارج الأنا ، أو التخلص منه.
هل نحن قوة للتغلب على الطفل والتخلص من طبيعته الطفولية؟ حسنا ، نعم بعض الناس ، ولكن في عموما انها ليست شيئا علم النفس التنموي أو ما سيوصي أي محبة الوالد حقا أن تفعل. في الوقت الراهن أن يكون هذا الإنسان هو "طفل". وقالت إنها لن تكون دائما على هذا النحو ، ولكن في الوقت الراهن هذه هي الطريقة التي هو عليه. بعد هذا الطفل العزيز لا ناضجة من سحق والتخلص من طبيعتها الطفل. لا ، في ملاحظتي ، أن طبيعة الطفل يتطور ويتطور مع مرور الوقت ، وكما تبدأ لإدراج المزيد والمزيد من ما يجري على الإنسان الكبار يعني لها داخل المجتمع خاصة أنها تنضج في ذلك أيضا (أو بعض التباين منه). الطفل في بلدها لا يحصل ممرود ، بل يتضمن السائدة (الاجتماعية / الإنسان) الواقع من حوله ، ونضوج. وكذلك الأمر البذرة ليس التغلب عليها والجرثومية ، ولا جرثومة التغلب عليها وبرعم ، ولا تنبت في التغلب على الشتلات من قبل ، وهلم جرا. المصنف يتضمن ببساطة إلى كونها تمثل في زيادة (أ) التعبير الأكمل لإمكانات حتى يحقق في نهاية المطاف هو الغرض كبذرة تحمل شجرة أو ما إلى ذلك.
هل هذا غرور ، وهذا "أنا" ليس فينا أيضا البذور؟ أليس كذلك مثل الطفل؟
نعم ، إن الطفل يجب أن تكون موجهة وموجهة بحيث أنه قد وضع في مثل هذه الطريقة التي تستطيع أن تتعامل مع الحقائق يوما بعد يوم في العالم الذي ولد فيه. لا بد من قال لا لعبور الطريق عندما تتسابق السيارات من قبل ، وهلم جرا. هل هذا غرور الرجل ليس في مثل هذا الطفل؟
I've observed what happens to people who were demonised as children, in that they were forced not to be children and “made” to grow up. My observation is that people raised in this way are deeply traumatised inside and have a very challenging time coming to terms with themselves. I could go on, but I don't think it's required. I am sure you know people in this situation, Perhaps you were raised in this way, or someone you know?
I suspect the same goes for the ego that is squashed and denied and “gotten rid of”. This aspect of the human self will reassert its influence. Not because it's a persistent little shit, but rather because it's an innate aspect of what it means to be Human. Just as being a child early in our life is an innate part of being Human — and many people as adults now try to rekindle a sense of love and relationship with their “inner child” precisely because it was squashed out of them without allowing that aspect of their psyche to mature in its own natural way.
I see you suggested to Loreena to “please be careful of demonising the ego” yet you also go on to say “it is normal for the ego to want to come back”. Yet this implies the ego is something we get rid of and that it is something which will then try to reassert itself. Again we are back to the proposition that here we are dealing with some form of multiple personality disorder! One part of me wants this, the other part of me wants that, and this this ego, well it wants me to go and do such and such…” I think modern man is suffering not from his ego but perhaps from a form of schizophrenia. What about you?
I really enjoy your writing. I like the fact you share so much as you do, and I encourage you to continue feeling more deeply into this “I” within you, and see where it takes you. And consider who is this “you” being taken “there”!! and where is that exactly?
Welcome to the Mysterium Tremendum.
يا جوناثان ، شكرا للتعليق مفصل. كان لي حقا أن آخذ وقتي لهضم ما كان ليقول. أرى ما تعنيه حول البدء في التفكير في الأنا كشيء السمات متعددة.
ما كنت أحاول أن أنقل إلى أن الأنا هي مجموعة من المعتقدات التي نراها في العالم من قبل. وإذا اخترنا لرؤية العالم بطريقة معينة ، ثم نقوم في كثير من الأحيان بعض الأمور التي يمكننا أن نأسف لاحقا.
وقال إن الأنا كله يريد أن يعود شيء مجرد وسيلة للقول ان لدينا الكثير من استثمارها في طرقنا لرؤية العالم ، أو تستثمر في الكثير من الأمور التي تشكل الأنا (الممتلكات ، والوضع الاجتماعي وغير ذلك) ، أن نختار في بعض الأحيان إلى التصرف بهذه الطريقة الغبية.
على سبيل المثال ، دعنا نقول أنني كنت جزءا من ألف النادي ونحن نكره جميع أعضاء نادي باء ، وبدأت العديد من المشاجرات. في المرة القادمة أراها ، أشعر بالحاجة لبدء القتال ، ولكن هذه المرة أرى -- هم.. هذا هو مجرد الاعتقاد بأن وقد اشترط أن أرى العالم من خلال. لكن في بعض الأحيان نختار الخروج وبدء معركة على أي حال. وهذا شيء على ما قصدته عندما قلت الأنا يريد العودة.
اقدر لكم القادمة في ويشيرون إلى هذه الأشياء بالنسبة لي ، فإنه يتيح لي اكتشاف أين أنا فاقد الوعي نفسي ، أو قد كتبت سيئة.
Hi Albert,
Thanks for your article explaining the whats & the hows of the Ego in such a vivid way. Really liked the Photoshop circles too!
But what I missed in your article was the possible 'dangers' of a Spiritual Journey… wanting to let go of the Ego can also be quite dangerous if you're not well-balanced enough! And a lot of people tired of being hit & hurt by the things happening to them in their life (or perpetuated hurt caused by their negative filters) often want a change by clinging on to meditation or other forms of Seeking Themselves. But by doing so the tension between the Ego & the Self (another ego-duality of the less conscious one, I guess) might raise peak levels which may be harmful to body and/or mind.
When saying something you always mention something about yourself, so I guess I too am talking about myself… So here we go: I was tired of all these millions of thoughts raging through my mind, almost taking control of me (me, the imbalanced person), so a year and a half ago I decided to join a Vipassana meditation course (more info: http://www.dhamma.org) (it, the Meditation that was going to help me gain more Inner Peace) – Imbalanced >< Meditation, another Duality... On this course Something awakened in me which was at the same time frightening and blissful: It put my body in different positions causing mental & physical pains, made me feel very insecure, confused. I felt heat and cold, couldn't breathe properly, at certain moments had trillions of thoughts replacing the millions I had before, but times of inner peace as well... I don't have the time and the space to go in detail, but later I found out that this was the Awakening of Kundalini in me (a rollercoaster ride into the Occult). I guess that my inner strength & some good friends I could talk to saved me from going bananas, although I think I'm currently a bit of a banana (but that's ok!)...
I know I'm being a bit vague here, but if you like to know more about people that had a similar Kundalini experience I suggest the wonderful website: http://www.kundalini-teacher.com.
Anyway, I guess I just wanted to add to your wonderful (theoretical) description a little bit of individual experience and, for anybody reading this, to make sure you are earthed/grounded enough before you start any methodical Self Progression.
Greetz,
Cogito Ergo Dim Sum
Hey Dim Sum, Love that name, it gave me a good chuckle!
That's very interesting, I have only heard of Kundalini once before, but have never explored it. And thank you for the perspective, I had never thought that stuff like this could actually be painful…hmm. I don't know what to say, but a heartfelt thanks!
Albert, thanks for such an insightful article!!
I printed it out and took the pages with me for my vacation. I read your article sitting in a sunny beach and it was an incredible experience. I felt a great sense of mindfulness while reading it — I actually felt like I detached from my ego for a few moments — amazing feeling!
Hey Luciano! Wow that is one heck of a compliment, thank you so much! And your experience, another wow.
Thanks for this insightful article Albert. This is the second time I read it. The ego can be quite a sophisticated artist.
You have mentioned thoughts and feelings made negative my the mind and ego. I 'm curious about your experience with the other side of that coin. The thoughts and feelings of love that float by.
I have found myself using a magnifying glass over these to fill my consciousness with them. Works great at first quite an exhilirating and blissfull experience until the ego sets in and wants to grab, renew and hold on to these experiences. Then they either vanish or turn into a longing or an intense burning desire that could easilly drive one insane. Have you had experience with these? I'd love to read more about it.
Hey Isabelle – that is a fantastic question! The Buddha said that the root of our suffering is attachment. And that applies to the “good” too.
You've already experienced it with the internal states. Many meditation teachers state that you shouldn't cling to happy thoughts and emotions too. Enjoy it while it is there, but let it go when they go. I've also found that the more you let go of happy thoughts and emotions, sometimes – just sometimes – they get even stronger. But again the temptation is to hold on to them.
On the external level, attachment to the good things can be seen in the heartbreak and drama when a relationship breaks up, when we lose our job, someone steals our car, etc. Not to say we shouldn't be upset at all, but the stronger the attachment the more we get upset.
And again, when we realise that at some point all these things will have to disappear, strangely we enjoy them even more while it lasts.
مهلا!
Great article, I'm going through some odd times in my life in achieving peace and enlightenment and my God, you have done a very well job in clearing things up with, I thought ego was just a small thing like showing off or like being boastful. But wow. شكرا لك. You have made me a subscriber to your stuff
Much love and appreciation.
Hey there Basim, glad you liked it. Check out The Book by Alan Watts, and some of the works by Eckhart Tolle if you want more information. Science of Enlightenment is a good one too, but it is hard to find. Thanks for subscribing
i must say that getting rid of the ego is one of the hardest things that human being can do because ultimately when you rid yourself from your ego nothing in life would be so hard, ya know?
i cant wait to get rid of this damn ego sometimes mine runs so freely and when i do take notice i get so frustrated! but ur blog did really help and i appreciate thetime you took to wright this, keep up the great work
god bless!
Thank you Dora, encouragement like yours really puts a smile on my face
Great post. This is what I needed to see that I can keep going. Hopefully you have more.
Thank you Jeff, good to hear that it helped.
واو!
هذا شيء عظيم! it reads great and is very understandable, at the same time being so true.
looking forward to reading more articles from you!
Thank you Jeff, poke around the archives some more, maybe you'll find something else to your liking
This reminds me very much of Robert Anton Wilson's “reality tunnel” lectures
Thank you for that! I'll have to check him out. This is based on the teachings of Alan Watts, Eckhart Tolle, J. Krishnamurti, with a bit of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy thrown in. (I heard Tolle was inspired by Krishnamurti though).
I'd recommend reading Robert Anton Wilson's most popular book, Prometheus Rising.
His Reality Tunnel writings (well, 'Reality Tunnels' were actually penned by Timothy Leary and popularised by Wilson) are basically about how we all have our own 'tunnel' through which we view life, with our own filters based upon our beliefs and disbeliefs (both about ourselves and others). It kind of branches out into more further-reaching territory but I think the idea is along the same lines. The combination of that and your article kind of allowed what the idea of the 'ego' is to click into place for me
Glad I helped, I'll put that book on my list when I next stop by the bookshop then
Great clarity Albert.
The one of few thing that differetiate humans from animals is the
abillity to OBSERVE ower own ego and behaviour, then to
make DECISIONS.
To observe I mean to be conscious of…
That is a great gift to us Albert.
It is sad there are some people that live their entire lives without
this knowledge and never using these previlages.
You do realize that The Observer/Consciousness is a Lesson Loop?
The living organism (human) theaching itself to BE.
The Universe is Conscious of Itself Through US.
(We are the creations of the universe)
*It's my theory so judge me
So being Aware or Conscious of something, especially to owerself is the GREATEST power we humans have.
I am very greatfull to be a conscious specie of evolution.
(And its only the begining of it)
*Consciousness = Momenterily closing a LOOP
{I was close} )
(Don't think about it to hard you'll might go insane
Thanks Albert for adding to my Quest for Self-Control.
Hey ilya – you know I've been expanding my knowledge of the ego and your comment has really contributed tremendously. Thank you for the kind words.
Here's a little bit of a twist – what if the split between awareness and ego is imaginary? That there is no one watching? I think this split, watching the ego, is just the first step. What if we realise that the thoughts that go through our head is just the thought, and that is all there is (ie no watcher?)
You may be right albert.
Maybe there is no watcher, maybe there is no consciousness.
Maybe its all concepts in ower minds?
But the important thing is HOW can I use this “abillity” to my advantage and accelerate the growth and control over my own mind
in the FASTEST and EASIEST way possible.
This is the first steps to change and growth, is:
AWARENESS and SEPERATION.
(Emotional Mastery, EGO Removal)
It all talks about DISSOLVING unwanted Emotions and Character.
)
(I'm almost clean
I neen the “Tools” to BUILD one easilly and fast.
Can you help me Albert?
I guess I'ma bit confused and I'm not necessarily trying to knock down your ideas Albert. I don't understand why ego is such a bad thing. For instance all though you may not believe my opinion…I think that you are doing a great thing by sharing your knowledge and experiences, but you are doing it because it makes you feel good to know that you are helping people…thus you are getting something out of it. And heck I'm not saying that's a bad thing at all.
Also I feel like after reading this article that the goal you have in mind is something that I don't fully understand. I mean isn't the goal of your ideas to be happy? My impression of the article is that the end result is to be happy, but it almost seems as if it's a mindless, procedural, robotic type mind state. Plus it's just really hard for me personally to imagine living egolessly. If anything I would see my goal regarding my ego to eliminate the parts of it that make me unhappy…with things like social anxiety, basing who I am on how much money I make, etc.
I also don't quite understand what the core really is, I envision it as my physical body and nothing else. It seems that what defines me is my thoughts, feelings, and my life experiences. I guess I don't understand what you mean by the core? From the article it seems like an empty word, basically you take away everything you have or do know and that is the core. From the day you are born you are experiencing things and it shapes and molds your being, whether it is good or bad. Here I do agree with the mental filters that develop. But what is a person without their mental filters. How do you decide to act on a thought without mental filtering or basing your act on experience?
I'm not writing all this to defy what you have written only to understand what you are saying more fully.
مرحبا ،
Brilliant! You cuaght & taught me from the first paragraph.
What an exciting journey I'm about to take.
شكرا
Sue
@ Ilya: Hehe all I got is in this blog, have a poke around. I think you might find the emotional series and the love series the most relevant – check the “start here” page for more on those series.
@ John: Fantastic questions – and no there is no offense seen or taken at all! There's nothing wrong with the ego – it's not necessarily evil or anything. Just that belief in the illusion of the ego – for the ego never really existed – is very often painful. Eg There is nothing wrong with being in a club or proud of your car or house or whatever, but when we get attached to it – that's when we start boasting, comparing, fighting over relatively nothing. It is actions like these that I'm trying to highlight.
Pleasure gained from such egoic activities tend to be short-lived, and often have opposites. I gain pleasure from achieving something, or sex, or whatever, but it's never permanent. And what if I lose my sex partner, or my accomplishment is overshadowed by my rival? Boom – no more pleasure. On the other hand, if you simply enjoy your achievements or pleasure without the ego, it is different.
I didn't describe the core because it is essentially undescribable. Different traditions call it different things – the Tao, Consciousness, Awareness, oneness, etc, etc. So covering that is something 1) I am not qualified as I haven't experienced it directly 2) will take 10 posts or more
. For now, just something to muddle your mind. What if there is no core. What if there is no one having those thoughts? What if those filters belong to no one? Have a think about that 
Blogs that cover the “core” include kentonwhitman.com and takuin.com.
Thanks for the stimulating comment.
@ Sue: Thank you! That's high praise
Funny thing is, im reading the last book of eckhart's The New Earth and half way there but not quite fully understand all the meanings, however by googling it, i found this page and you really expand few meanings into visual (circle object and filters) which made things more clear to me. شكرا لك.
صريح
My 50 cent for what i think about “The Core”: is indiscussable only you are the only person can feel it.
Hi Frank! Thanks for the compliment
I agree with the Core – it's indescribable, beyond the duality of language, I've read. Again, I've been recommending http://www.kentonwhitman.com for stuff like this – he knows what he's talking about.
Hi Albert,
Thank you for an absolutely riveting post. I loved your husband and wife analogy which helped explain much in a very concise way. At the end of your post I found what I did not realize I was looking for.
Last year I moved back to London from USA. I left my family (wife & daughter) with all money, property and possessions, save $25 for the train journey from London Airport and a bag of clothes. I had identified with my success and the money that came with that for too long. As a result I had become spiritually bankrupt. For the last year I have lived on less than 5% of my previous income (so just enough to cover my food and lodging but no more). I have eshewed work, instead spending the time trying to regain some of the spiritual self I know was once a part of me.
I did this on instinct, and so I thank you for explaining that all I have done is to remove part of my ego, and that I am not (as some have said) insane. I do know that I am today a much happier person and certainly more at peace with myself and the world at large. I also know that I will be returning to some form of work and be able to appreciate and enjoy my family and myself more.
شكرا
جون
PS although I dwelt on the last paragraph of your post I found it all absolutely fascinating and could not put it down.
Hey John – thank you for sharing! Be careful that you are not replacing part of your ego with something else ie “I am more spiritual than you are”.
Thank you again for the comment.
Hi Albert, nice post u did here…really helped me out in balancing myself in life…had some serious problems dealing with ego…But after reading your post i was clearer in understanding ego.Thank you for this great post…
And a small doubt i would like to ask also…regarding your reply to Mr Tuan…the one below here…
ألبرت
مرحبا توان ، وأنا أتفق معك. أعتقد فعلا أن هناك مسارين لهذه :
1) استبدال جميع أجزاء الأنا السلبية بأخرى إيجابية
2) إزالة الأنا تماما والاعتماد على الحدس
ابن ترك الخيار للقارئ ، ولقد صيغت الوظائف بالتفصيل كل من المسارات على استعداد ليتم نشرها مرة واحدة في سلسلة أرسطو قد انتهى.
شكرا لزيارتك!
My question…
2)u said “remove the ego altogether and rely on intuition” which means we try to not become attached to whatever we identified ourselves with is it Albert?or how do we do this actually?
Hello my friend! Thank you for the comment. You know the strange thing about my reply to Tuan was that my understanding of the ego has changed since then. Nowadays it leans more towards the non-dualistic understandings or Zen-type stuff – such as the teachings of Alan Watts and so on. I think the best blogs to read for the answer to your question would be: Kenton at http://www.kentonwhitman.com , and Takuin at http://www.takuin.com .
على أمل أن يساعد
Hie Mr. Albert, thank you for such a quick reply…appreciate it lots…;) thanks for the links to the awesome websites too…i am eager to find more information about the non-dualistic understandings…thank you for sharing the info…keep up the good work friend…i guess it helps many of us, really…
Hi Albert,
I know its not just me that is suffering but i feel that it really is only me that is suffering the way i am suffering… I understand the ego and all but i dont seem to understand why I am able to ignore thoughts so easily sometimes and sometimes they come back and never want to leave. Or why I can ignore thoughts and anxiety comes out of no where… WHat bugs me the most and pisses me off the most is the random anxieties i get, it started with anxieties then to random heating up all over my head and sweating (feeling like steam is coming out of your head), then i started getting prickly feelings all over my skin as if a million needles are poking me everywhere, and recently now iv been getting severe head aches. So in 2 years i have managed to get all those symptoms from one thought which then became 2 thoughts then 3 thoughts then a hundred thoughts. The killer question for me is I keep asking WHY WHY WHY. I dont want to know WHY but yet they pop in my head and since they popped in my head I feel like there is a reason they popped in my head. I used to be very spiritual all my life and it got me very far in life never thought negative thoughts did what i wanted to do and was who i wanted to be, but now my mind keeps saying why do you believe, why are u straight and why are there gay people, why are there killers, why this or that but those are the ones that stick to me. I kept saying it was god doing this at first and its a test then i said its god punishing me, then I gave up i dont know what it is. i had a period of almost 2 months i was good then it came backk all over again and it kills me to say it but i am losing hope?? I dont believe doctors and their medications, cause they really dont care they give meds to everything. So tell me what you think?? What i dont understand also is why I get them in the most random times it kills me, Also I know that when im busy with other things it disapears but yet i say im tricking myself it should just disapear and not pop up. I think im completely done for in this life sometimes, i know im a fighter but this has been killing me making me try to prove who i am and why i am the way i am. I used to be proud of who i am now i try to prove everything and thoughts stay in my head in a loop 24/7. PLEASE HELP ME and let me know if you went through this or NOT. How do i rid of this ego, how can i think positive and be myself without thinking and being self conciouse everytime i hear GOD or gay i want to be myself. I know my self, but yet these thoughts wont leave????
Hi Wees, I feel your pain. But as mentioned in my contact page, I am not qualified to give such advice. I'm very sorry, but perhaps a professional would be the best for you. This is not the type of thing someone can help with over the internet.
Hello Wees,
Please check out http://www.kundalini-teacher.com . From what you're saying, it seems like Kundalini has awakened in you because of (excessive) spiritual practice and you were not ready for it yet. You could compare it to a rocket engine connected to a small city car. If you can't master it, your car etc… But if you do know how to steer your new vehicle (and this is what you can learn), well, that's a wonderful thing! (Now let's not get this to go to your head… cuz that's ego on the go, oh no!) I guess I know what I'm talking about, because it happened to me about two years ago (I posted a comment here on dec 23, 2007) and it's still riding with me… but sometimes I can hold the wheel as well, which is nice! . Don't take it as a dogma, but check it out. It's important to understand the larger picture so you're not riding this mental & physical & spiritual rollercoaster without a safety belt.
Please understand that this Kundalini-website is not all about the truth either… it's a truth, but, in your… our case, (it might be) a helpful one.
Peace & good luck,
Cogito Ergo Dim Sum
Dear Albert,
I asked a question to the universe and the answer I got was your web site! I cannot thank you enough for you. I read your article on the ego. I understand about the thoughts passing through and all…….I have a question….if I may? If someone upsets you,do some thing right? I spoke to them of my feelings and a few comments made hurt the ego! Ok,if even after speaking your problem out to the person/s it continues…..does that mean i accept that that's how the person is?or do i change?it seems like We do so much for this person and don't get much acknowledgement yet this person does so much for other people that don't do as much? I know this is the ego talking……BUT WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE WHEN EVEN AFTER SORTING OUT THE PROBLEM IT STILL OCCURS PLUS YOU CAN'T AVOID THIS PERSON AS THEY ARE FAMILY? I am confused. i hope your not after all that! If you can,can you help suggest an answer? شكرا لك.
Hey Jani, thank you for the kind words
You can't change another person, so the only thing you can do is to change your own reaction to it. Letting the thoughts past, and perhaps doing some emotional work (check the welcome page) will help on this end. After some work (days, weeks, or months, depending on what you are upset about), most verbal abuse probably won't bother you much anymore.
However, if the other person is hurting you, you do also need to take steps to ensure this doesn't happen again. How you handle this depends on what they have done. Perhaps you can speak to them again, with slightly firmer tones, decrease contact, refuse to give them what they want unless they respect you, etc. Naturally, physical abuse requires immediate and stronger action, but it doesn't sound like it from what you have written. The recent series on boundaries is a closer look at this – check the welcome page for it again
على أمل أن يساعد. This might not be the perfect answer, because it is just my opinion, but play with it, and see if it works for you.
hie Mr Albert,
just want to clarify a doubt that came to me, u wrote that all your writings are not about Enlightenment and Spirituality…but most of it sounds like its Spiritual…say for example this page u wrote on ego…is it not related to Spirituality at all?
Hi V! It's up to you how you want to interpret it
Hi Albert,
كيف حالك؟ You are a busy man on this forum Alb,
anyways Its been awhile i havent been here, but yeah i checked out that Kenton Whitman website and been reading a bit, it has been interesting!
Appreciate your sharing, thanks again.
صريح
Message Reply from:
ألبرت
Hi Frank! Thanks for the compliment I agree with the Core – it's indescribable, beyond the duality of language, I've read. Again, I've been recommending http://www.kentonwhitman.com for stuff like this – he knows what he's talking about.
Apr 3rd, 2008
Hey Frank, glad you liked Kenton's site, I gained so much from what he writes about, and heartily recommend it to anyone and everyone.
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The part with “I am” is great. I have come to this realization differently but when I read it here it made me happy and put a smile on my face to know that others realized the “I am” as well. Thanks albert for posting this article.
Joel, thanks heaps. Would love to hear about how you came to your realisation, if you would like to share
Sure I'll share. Just like you said that the “I” inside of the body and mind controls both. The one that controls the body and the mind is the actual you. I came to this through a different point of view and that is simply just the basic fact that no human on earth has ever gotten to pick and choose their mind and body (size,color,….etc), or at least I don't ever recall doing that. Not your parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts or even the people you know. So how is something that you call “mine or me” really you to begin with if “you” never chose it? I know when the time comes when I have children, I as a parent will also have no say on what he or she will “be”. This has lead me to feel as if all people are as one, or the same, in the very essence of just being human. I find that just being here and living, regardless of class, color, size…etc, is truley the way to live since we had no choice to begin with. Thanks again albert.
Mate that is an amazing realisation. My understanding of the “I am” has evolved somewhat since the time I wrote this article, and you've put it wonderfully into words. Who does the body belong to? Who does the mind belong to? Something to be experienced, I think, not to be discussed intellectually, and it sounds like you've definitely experienced it. شكرا لتقاسم
much appreciated mate!
Another amazing post! I'm really impressed with your blog and will certainly become a regular reader.
Thank you Healthy Simplicity and KPSS!
To say that humans have fragile egos is indeed an understatement. I'm glad that you have made such a comprehensive post about such an undermentioned fact.
This is a great article. You did an excellent job explaining. Keep up the awesome work.
The information you presented in this article correlates to a trail of events in my past that began subconsciously. Meaning, I didn't consciously put forth the effort to accomplish/ become/ reach my core – rather, my core just seemingly started fighting with my ego to rid the Self of it. I'm assuming because it was a subconscious effort that it took the length of time that it did – it began in 2003 and I wasn't consciously aware of what was happening until earlier this year (2008).
Approximately 5 years – it was substantially emotionally painful, which if I understand correctly, was the ego's pain because it needs control for survival and it didn't want to lose control.
I read this earlier on another site. “…it can be substantially painful … but everyone I know that has gone through it wouldn't trade it in.”
Have a great 22nd friend (=
Thanks a lot for that TA!
Albert,
Great post by the way. Seems very well organized and very easy to understand/read. I have a few questions off the bat:
1) What is the origin of the ego? Did we become infected with it? Did it develop somehow before we incarnated here on Earth? Was having the ego voluntary? Just curious if you had found any theories/writings on this.
2) Are you familiar with Ken Wilbur's works? If not, they may be something you may find interesting regarding Consciousness Evolution/Development.
ابتهاج ،
تشاد
Hey Chad! Hmm… the ego is not something we are infected with per se, it's more of a… false belief. According to Sailor Bob Adamson, the child is repeatedly drilled with the name “John”,”Mary”, etc. After a while, the child starts believing that it is restricted to this one name, and in doing so starts believing in separation and so on. The trick is not to try and figure out where it came from, since that is more thought, but just to see things as they are, without thought. This doesn't necessarily mean trying to stop thinking, just to see without believing your thoughts. Or something like that. That's my current understanding at least.
I've browsed through Ken Wilbur but never actually digested him. Just spent a few minutes skimming through it, he seems a bit too dry and scientific for my tastes (I get enough of that at uni, hehe).
This entire post was an amazing eye-opener. You have no idea how much it helped me with what I am going through at the moment.
Thank you.Thank you.Thank you!
I have also lost my business recently – and was so closely associated with it publicly that it became my persona – and it was so WRONG – because it was not really who i am – in fact I actually do not even know who I am anymore – but slowly taking steps to discover myself again. This post was just what I needed in this extremely confusing state I find myself in. Tomorrow is a new day.
Thank you and thank you again!
Charles, I'm really glad I made such a big difference. You're very welcome, and good luck with it all – I know you'll come out of it really well.
Do you think its normal to feel so confused – as you do not know who you are – and do you have methods to discover your true self quicker than just going from day to day – like an personal exercise or something? It feels like it takes for ever to get back on track.
First off, what exactly are you confused about? What's wrong with not knowing who you are? Why is it painful? Can't we live without knowing who/what the true self is?
Secondly, if you do want to know, you can try the famous Ramana Maharshi's “Who am I?” inquiry. This is something to be felt, experienced, not to be intellectualised about. Google him or perhaps get one or two of his books – this inquiry is pretty famous. Of course, this is getting into a whole new realm…
Albert,
How would you handle a situation with another 2 people in the room, you work full time with them 38hours week/ 5days. Task needed alot of mind energy, like organising, designing etc.. and also be present.
However, a person above you and the other worker is kind of a talker, a little bit insecured about himself and could get sensitive and start talking randomly while your in the thinking mode in your task to do but we cant help coz we have to listen or turn around to pay some attention to it or else it would be plain rude right… And im so out of it that i cant even look at him in the eyes now, coz it seems like their ego just loving it to produce more egoic energy around the room and same time, i felt very exhausted.
The other person now is a little in a natural side but has an ego and very attached to the emotions, fully get excited, upset and let it out when upsetting stuff happens and young adultish attitude – of a like. And also highly socialised.
So my point is, im stuck on these 2 different people, especially on their social role. I've reach in the moment that, tension is just getting higher sometimes. It would be easier if i only work with one of them so i can communicate with their real nature no matter who they are but i do get confused myself and actually struggle on the speaking, social side of it and i can never lie and never good at it, being in a different race isnt very helpful aswell. I also admit that i have my own insecurities and on the stage that i already isolate myself from friends, families and other. So after work, i go straight home and on weekend i just do my own individual thing.
Im not trying to label these guys however, its one of the easiest way i can describe my point. I sometimes just had tears in my eyes from frustration ad energy inside this room however being “The Watcher” of your emotions is kicking-off after i felt those tears. So there's suffering and there's Spiritual gained.
I know this is pretty open to the forum on how i describe this situation however i just need a little advice from you.
Thank you Albert
Im happy to pay you back even just a little gift of appreciation. However please dont make yourself feel like you have to answer. I live in Australia and if you know any connection around here would be helpful too.
Hey Frank – Thanks for asking me such a question, it is really quite a compliment. However, I'm not in the best position to answer stuff like this, the only thing I can give is my opinion, which might not be the best. However, let me have a shot at it:
There are a few series that might be applicable to the situation (all of them can be found in the “start here” page). First of all, is the emotional meditation. Try to do some letting go of the emotions that you feel in such a situation. That alone might free you up to react in a way that is healthy to all involved. Next, you can have a look at the boundaries series to see if there are any ideas in there that might apply to you.
I can't give a definite rule – “this is how you react to such and such.” But while it can be hard, imagine yourself loving all involved unconditionally no matter what they are doing. What would you do in such a situation? Remember I said all involved – this includes yourself, naturally. You also have needs and wants that need to be respected, you also have to be protected and treated well, just like everyone else.
Note that truly loving them might take a while, especially if a lot of emotions are being involved. So just keep doing some emotional work and being watchful and slowly you'll get there. It won't happen overnight but it will.
Just some random thoughts. Hope they helped. No gift required, I'm just typing some words into a screen
Hi Alb,
Thank you for your opinion on that complex question of mine. I didnt expect anything from anyone at all however a little note of yours is hard enough to crack some parts open “All involved unconditionally”, energy of these words is undescribable in my perspective. Thank you Alb, maybe i shouldnt be thanking you too early just incase i got another extra one to ask.
jks, this is the only one. 
and yes, i shall keep going.
I also found an Eckhart Tolle's Club around my area. I might have to give that a shot. Funny thing is though, after work, i usually passed this place in traffic and always wonder what that place was coz its always attracts me everytime i passed by and i always try not to look at it coz i felt weird and with all different kind of people gathered just outside the gate. I never knew what it was until i was surfing the net for spiritual community just after i wrote that message to you.
Appreciate your support Albs and talk to you soon. Hope is well in your side too.
I appreciate the post. From my point of view, the writing style is good and continuous and content thought provoking.
No problem FL and Frank
well done mate.
I m in buddhism for a while now, and i must say that your post is great. It s interesting that Buddha discovered all this over 4500years ago…and still…look at the world and people now days.
im hoping one day, we ll all look on people as one, and stop this pain, this illusion;and go from “i want” to “just be”.
love to all
again, well done
Thank you Awsy!
Awesome post!
I'd recently heard about the ego perspective and wanted to learn more. This was the first thing I clicked on.
I found it very easy to read and extremely insightful.
وذلك بفضل!
Thank you David.
This is the most constuctive writing I have ever come across, I'm not sure how to put into words how valuable this is to me. All these different self-help people and philosophy's all point to losing the ego, and now finally, a plain and simple, and most importantly a do-able explanation and method. I feel blessed. God bless you sir. TYVM
I feel as if now I have a real chance to shed this thick heavy coat (layer by thin layer) I have acumulated and worn my whole life. Let me tell you again, God bless you.
Thank you so much Mark, I'm grateful for your kind words.
Albert……man i discovered a blotch……what appears to be a big one,maybe they all will seem big, but i am amazed to find out how i was in denial of it being there,how at the speed of light i came to its defense, how at the speed of light,strong ,very strong emotion was attached to it and how it was always causing me to get in arguments with my wife about it,and i had a dream that i feel i was a able to breifly experience the core for which i can not find any words to describe……it was an entirely new feeling ……and i really can't find any words to describe it properly…even these baby steps are amazing……man what a trip!!!
Awesome to hear Mark
And oh yeah it all started with a single thought………………crazee…lol
Hi Albert, I read the love and aloneness one, it ofcourse makes perfect sense, seems all of the times i find myself getting “out of shape” it is due to ego, pride, vanity. It was really nice to see it's OK to want to be alone. I find myself wanting that more and more as I have aged,and others (wife and kids and relatives) label me as somethings wrong with me, and half the time I've been believing them. It just seems to be easier to be at peace with myself when I,m alone,but I have quite a ways to go to in that area. Anyway the more I am discovering just how many things I (ego) am attached to and just how strongly I am attached to them, it feels overwhelming. I seem to be attached to everything,materials,image,ideas,etc. And the strength of attachment seems overwhelming,like I'll die or diappear without these things, it's scarey, more like terrifying when I am able to be honest and feel the true attachment. The true feelings come to me in dreams at this point. I seem to be in denial in the waking world of how strong the feelings are. Boy one thing I have found is it seems impossible to find anyone to discuss, try to understand this with me. And that leaves me not sure if I am understanding or getting these concepts correctly, myself. I have the desire but feel unsure at this point. Oh, what I would do to be able to have an hour of your time in person. Priceless at this point in my life. Yea I,m 53 not getting any younger, feel the need to understand and improve my existence. But like I was saying …..I feel like I have gotten a couple “good bites” of this ego thing now and it suddenly doesn't seem like a fun thing to deal with anymore. It would be more comfortable to just let things stay the way they are. If you could please let me know if I am on the right track or not, especially if I am not, and maybe give me some advice on how to proceed I will be extremely grateful………..I suddenly feel no so sure. ح
Hey Mark – first of all, don't get too caught up in the aloneness thing. As in, don't neglect what you have to do, or your family. I was writing it more as a way of giving yourself time to be introspective – but of course we should attend to our necessities too.
Secondly, don't worry about the ego too much. It's just a recognition of your thoughts and attachments, etc. If you are beating yourself up, isn't that just the ego again?
I would say, forget about the ego for now. Take a break, you're being overwhelmed, and I would say have some subtle misunderstandings of what I'm trying to say. Best thing to do, take a break, get refocused, reconnect with the people around you.
When you feel like restarting, take it in small, bite sized chunks. Don't beat yourself up over anything. Do the attachment and behavioural mastery series, but slowly, on one thing at a time. Something small and easy to manage.
The most important thing is to not get overwhelmed. Yes, sometimes this work can be uncomfortable, but if you are so upset, then ease up on the pressure and take things slow. Especially since I can't really judge what's going on over the internet. Slow and safe and steady is the only thing I would recommend. Mental and emotional health is paramount.
على أمل أن يساعد.
Thanks Albert, sounds like a good idea to me……..sincerely appreciate u taking the time to reply.
Although I can use a lot of flowery words to say … let my simplify by saying:
I am learning through your writings,
I am growing.
شكرا لك!
Andriette, thank you so much!
Albert,
I found your article after searching for a way to remove an ex-girlfriend from my thoughts. Have you identified the core as being the core of peace, love and joy. Is this a total coincidence with the fruits of the Holy Spirit, as believed by christians? “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22),
regards,
Reuben
Hey Reuben, yes I do believe the big Self is pure peace and happiness… I'm not sure about that quote though, I don't know much about Christian teachings.
The idea of the ego was brought up by Sigmund Freud. Fascinating how society has taken the idea and ran with it. The ego is completely intangible and invisible. How is attempting to explain it any different than trying to explain god? If your center is filled up from the time your born then you are born empty. Once you are enlightened you have only but one purpose, enlighten others. You can't go anywhere past the point of enlightment. So everyone's purpose is to be enlightened? We are all enlightened we are all at peace. ماذا نفعل الآن؟ Everyone's enlightened we have no purpose. We enjoy life. A tree falls on one of us. Whatever, we are at peace. They had no purpose anyway. Is this reality? No this simply cannot be. It could be, but then it would be like the movie Equlibrium. The people in the society would be drugged to have no emotion and the government would remove anyone who was “feeling”. Seems like the opposite of our society. Anyone drugged and not “feeling” is removed. As Till Lindemann says “Loneliness sometimes gives me a quantity of creativeness – you're drinking another glass of wine and you're feeling even worse. Art doesn't work without pain; art also exists for compensating pain.” Deep down everyone is afraid of the unknown so they try to make it tangible and give it names like god and the ego. The only way to truly compensate the fear is knowledge. Whether it's knowing how to fix a car or perform surgery. People that perform heart transplants don't just blindly go in and start cutting stuff up, they have some sort of obtained knowledge. That in itself is proof that there is knowledge and it can be obtained. If they fail, then they must not despair they must learn where they went wrong. When they are successful people will flock to them for they have knowledge. Knowledge most certainly is power.
Hey Nick, thank you so much for that comment. There are two things I'd like to say: first of all, the reason why I removed and/or added disclaimers to my future series on ego (and don't write any more) is that there might be subtle misunderstandings on what it is, and that might have crept into my writings.
Secondly, the ego as we discussed here has been much misunderstood because of confusion with the ego of Freud. Freud's ego is part of the whole trinity together with the id and the superego, and is actually different from the spiritual concept of the ego. Then there's the whole pop-social view of it – “he's got one big ego!”, etc. It's a bit more complex than this of course, I have half written something on this, and will post it soon.
Thanks again for that brilliant comment and have a great New Year!
شكرا
You are very welcome!
Happy New Year Albert
Thanks Frank! Same to you!
نجاح باهر! What a great illustration of the ego and how it plays a part in our lives and others! It seems like pride is the foundation of the ego and directly correlates with how large or small the ego is. I'm really looking forward to reading more on this site!
http://charactergrowth.com/200.....p-disaster
This is not too long at all, it is such an interesting and well-written article I didn't even notice how long it was I just wanted to keep reading. I stumbled upon your site while looking for something totally different and I am was pleasantly surprised at the depth of your subject matter, I guess I was supposed to find it because everything I read was about things I have been questioning lately. I have bookmarked the site and will continue reading, this is my first time here so I have alot to read. I appreciate what this site addresses and will refer some of my friends to check it out. Keep doing what you do.
Thank you so much Adam and Dalila!
Hi Albert:
I was feeling my ego is going amok lately. I read in need to get an understanding of myself. I am a Buddhist Priest of 30 years experience. Thought you might appreciate that we too need guidance. Thanks for your cogent analogies to understanding how my thoughts work. I am supposed to know all of this, I think, but I find I don't. A work in progress…
Hey Brother James – I am really, really, impressed with your humility. I don't know what to say, but thank you so much for considering my opinions and theories too.
I never go anywhere without a copy of “The Power of Now” by Tolle – and although I understand the concept of being in the moment — your commentary has enabled me to see things in a way that empowers me to carry out my goals– you have capsulized a practical guide that I can actually use –which of course has shown me the way to keep my ego where it belongs —
I was so locked into my thoughts and the resulting emotional pain– I really had come to a point where I couldn't deal with it anymore– Your thoughts (excuse the expression) are the key that I needed as a practical guide for life — and I cannot thank you enough. 
Hey Lynne, thank you so much! I'm glad I managed to help
Albert,
Your article is simple and refreshing in comparison to much of self-help bunk that I have come across. I am in a life cycle downturn and struggling to find peace after the failure of a long term relationship. What you call filters I recognized as preconceptions, but was never effectively able to remove them from my psyche … let them go. Like you said, knowing better does not necessarily mean doing better. Here is to doing better! Cheers
Hey David, cheers to you too
Hello David—I'm only finishing page three of your wonderful piece, but feel compelled to drop a line to thank you. What a meaningful, delightful and inspiring essay. It is bringing a soothing insight into my inner self—I can feel my chakras reacting.
As far as the criticism of it's length, how can so deep a subject be brought down to 50 woods or less. I find each paragraph moves me deeper & deeper into my psychic.
Thank you for these thought provoking insights—bringing more peaceful inner growth.
Lol, back to page 4—Peace.
Tom,
The author you want to thank is Albert. I'm just another poster searching for the core
ديفيد
Lol, thanks David— am addressing my note to Albert—
Thanks for the correction–
Peace–
Tehehehe, thank you guys
Peace to you both!
Morning Albert—
Early last evening I finished your essay on EGO. I must admit I did not sleep well last night. Your words and insight were with me throughout the night. Meditating on your piece, I felt my psyche going deeper and deeper into my inner self. Then I realized my chakras were reacting.
Sitting here, sending this message, I find myself stopping often, and realize I'm looking into space, relishing the wonderful feelings within, realizing I have reached a new plateau. A plateau of a greater appreciation of love—-a new “tool” to express love for my wife, children, friends—without cluttering those expressions up with ego.
Not expecting appreciation from others for saying, “I love you”, not trying to make points, even if it was unconsciously. Even trying to delete the “I” before, “love you”.
Now, time for me to move forward with these new realizations—to feel, and express love without conditions attached, with out ego—-to love for the sake of true love.
Thank you Albert–
Is there any like pieces in your archives ?
Peace—-
Tom, you really do have the heart of a poet. شكرا لك على المشاركة. My personal fave articles are in the sidebar under best of urban monk. Since you are focused on love, you might try The Blossoming of Love first.
Wow, impressive post and some nice poetic insight..
Thanks Timon!
Setian, because of your fake email and website and all the abuse in your comment, I deleted it. You raise a very common misconception, however, and I would love to address it. So if you want a proper response, please retry your comment minus the spitefulness and insults.
Hello Albert–
Regardless of what Setian has said, your essay on EGO is excellent and well taken.
To update my views–I found it excellent and after meditating upon this concept have begun to practice what an alteration of my EGO means.
In a sense I stepped back and “watched” my inner self, what I see, I like. Excluding EGO from my view of love, has given so much a deeper appreciation of what love is. The unconditional love,– love for the sake of love,– not seeking nor expecting any recognizing from giving unconditional love—if there is a reaction and reciprocity, that only increases my inner glow & joy—like watering a beautiful growing flower—which is my inner unconditional love for all.
I must add, this adjustment of EGO does not erase all EGO. We must have some controlled EGO in everyday life. EGO is important to our self protection, and yes, the GOOD ego/pride that gives us all the push to improve ourselves.
Thank you Albert for your many insightful essays and in your comments on the negative words that were posted by someone who needs a large dose of unconditional love.
Peace–
Tom, thanks so much for the words of support. I must admit I got quite annoyed when I clicked through to find a fake website – I just wasted time considering his words and typing a response only to find that he was just being rude. Being annoyed is not a good thing on a post that is about transcending the ego
Are you a writer of some kind? I really enjoy your words and your perspective. If you aren't, it would be a big waste
Thank you for all your comments.
Hey Albert-
I really appreciated your article. Your writing style is intriguing and maintained my interest throughout.
Also the fact that you take the time to respond to each comment is nice and exhibits the caring that you speak of- giving for the sake of giving with no expectation of praise or recognition.
I look forward to reading more of your posts
Thank you so much Oliver and Chris!
Hi Albert
Great article
I would need your permission to copy the articles
Hey Sum, thanks. What are you planning on using the article for?
You are so wellcome, thanks for the quick response.
I just wrote a blog all about EGO combine with javanesse spiritual tradition
in Indonesian language so have to translate it first. I realize people often don't like to read long post.
Hey Sum, that's fine then, if it's a personal blog, no problem. If you are planning to publish it or something then I would prefer not.
Thanks so much Albert
It's just personal blog in indonesian and javanese language.
” But they are merely about you. ولكنها ليست لك. They merely describe you, but somehow we have reduced ourselves to these descriptions”
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yes, but 'descriptions' are observations of behavior and I AM my actions, no? So they 'describe' my actions as viewed by others (assuming they are accurate across multiple sources) then they ARE ME, how I act, how I carry myself.
My hand picks up the water glass. My mouth drinks the water. The water enters my stomach.
So one can say “HE drank the water”
Of course this is only a 'description' (a map to the territory of doing) as a reduction of overwhelming (infinite) stimulus and attentional focus on particulars of concern expressed dictated by the usefulness of such a communication??????
How can I say that it is NOT me that is screaming at the guy in the car next to me? How can I say it isn't my MY hand that shoots the gun? The gun didn't shoot itself.
Language is limited and dualist, a fact of it's nature. Is there 'thought' without language? (pre-linguistic) or only 'being', are we not then reduced to mere id, does not ego or super-ego imply larger 'JUDGEMENTS' as realized by the mind?
8th Jhana is neither object nor subject, perception or non-perception, yet without perception, Is there an act, without action (heart beating, lungs breathing), doesn't life ceases.
Am I not bound by 'life' – 'existence' – 'being'?
Please don't think me snide or being a jerk, these are issues that are barrier to my meditations and buddhist practice.
These are my 'attachments'.
Isn't the essence of life 'entanglement' with the processes around me, thus I am 'attached' to the universe and it to me.
Ok, my being, soul, self is a non-localized event expanded to fill the void of the universe, yet there is a significant localized event within the wake of this moving form that seems endless to befuddle itself.
؟؟؟؟؟؟؟
Hi Fred, thank you so much for your comment. I think there are some basic misunderstandings but as discussed in my comments policy I really can't spare the time to get into a discussion that is too in-depth. I would recommend finding a good Buddhist teacher and discussing these concerns with them. شكرا مرة أخرى!
نجاح باهر!
This is the answer to my life…
لول
Absolute truth in the sentence.
You cannot choose to hurt yourself if you are fully consious. Basically meaning you cannot be depressed, angry, or maybe even sad. لماذا؟ You can observe your thought instead of acting upon them
Book maybe in the future? hehe joking
Thanks Albert
You're welcome WL
Great article and very informative, I have a question though.
You mentioned earlier that the ego keeps on asking for more no matter how much you feed it and becomes restless.
Isn't that considered as a positive thing as well?, because a healthy human being is always on the go looking for new things to improve it and discover stuff. If we loose that motive we get depressed and vice versa.
I think it's a negative thing. It's like a carrot dangled in front of us and we keep striving for it but we'll never be satisfied because we never reach that carrot. Wouldn't it be more fun to go on looking for new things but without the restlessness that comes from trying to reach a carrot we'll never get?
So what keeps the person motivated if its not the ego?
لا أعرف. But I do know you can still go for things non-egoically.
(The spirit of youth)
A community maintains its liveliness through the spirit of the young and flourishes through it. When a community loses this spirit, it fades and withers away.
Source:
Towards the lost paradise
M.Fethullah Gülen
Awesome, I must say awesome! Well written, good illustrations, I love it man! Keep up the good stuff!
Thanks Cameron! I appreciate it
Hi Albert—-
I'ma Reiki 2, I just finished a Reiki session with a friend. The session was to be one hour, but extended on to an hour & half, it was fantastic. The receipent said she has has never had such a good session before—This is where my ego comes in—I felt very fattered, but if it had not been for your great piece on not letting ego obscure inner peace and unconditional love and my meditation upon this often— i'm affraid my ego would have raised it's head.
As it turned out, I accepted her reaction & her thanks in the simpleist manner–reveling in her great peace and the wonderful peace & satisfaction I feel in my inner self,— being able to bring healing and peace to another, with love in an unconditional manner, just for the sake of love for others.
Working hard at keeping ego at arms lenght, has brought me to a deeper understand of my true self — or maybe call it a higher pleateau.
Lol, just know it works—-
Thanks again Albert—Peace—
توم
Tom, that is a really wonderful story. Thank you for sharing, it put a big smile on my face!
I know its not just me that is suffering but i feel that it really is only me that is suffering the way i am suffering… I understand the ego and all but i dont seem to understand why I am able to ignore thoughts so easily sometimes and sometimes they come back and never want to leave. Or why I can ignore thoughts and anxiety comes out of no where… WHat bugs me the most and pisses me off the most is the random anxieties i get, it started with anxieties then to random heating up all over my head and sweating (feeling like steam is coming out of your head), then i started getting prickly feelings all over my skin as if a million needles are poking me everywhere, and recently now iv been getting severe head aches.thanks
Hi mirc, can I suggest visiting a health professional (mental or medical). My material is in no way a replacement for the care provided by a professional.
This is the clearest explanation of the ego that I've ever read! It cleared up some longstanding questions for me. شكرا لك!
Jeremy, you're very welcome
I met with a nun yesterday and she spoke about the ego becoming stronger and uncontrolable as we listen to it and make choices by it… I was trying to get some advice to help my daughter deal with her jealousy toward her sister and the mean things she does and says to her… she knows her actions are not right, but she also says she is unable to control her actions and is not sure why she does things…
Your article was very informative… and I don't mind long… I would have read more… I do like your writing style.
شكرا
Cindy, thank you! I would recommend the companion article to this too, which is simply letting go of the underlying desires for any actions:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/332/t.....etting-go/
There is a considerable amount of truth this article.What if I wanted a house though, or a praise? Does the ego want everything though?
Thanks for the comment, it's a great question. In my opinion, not all wants are egoistic. For instance, if I see a child crying and I genuinely want to comfort him, that probably isn't an egoistic want. But we have to be aware, sometimes it is.
Maybe I want someone to see me do a kind deed, and think “oh he's so nice”. But if I want to comfort him for the sake of comforting him then it isn't. Ego is selfish, but non ego is an out-flow Hope that answers it.
i'd like to say…that this post (along with the general content of my life situation) has been a powerful stimulus for me to seek change within myself. looking back at it now, i can definitely see the inspiration you draw from eckhart tolle. he has been my most powerful teacher throughout this process…helping me to realize the being within myself that i had forgotten. so, thank you to both of you.
i'd like to comment also on the concept of 'removing the ego'. i can appreciate this perspective, but for myself, it has been much more a case of becoming the observer. my ego remains as the thinker (the tool of thought). it is present, but i don't take it all that seriously anymore. it is only a tool to be used when necessary. would you consider posting your thoughts on presence? this has been the real key for me.
thanks again for your inspiration.
Hi Darrell, thanks for that heartfelt comment. I'll definitely do some thinking on presence, although I've moved on from Tolle a long time ago and don't think I will have much to say… heh.
may i ask what you've moved onto?
Carl Jung mostly, who is the most “spiritual” of the prominent psychologists. A lot of other psychological stuff, mostly because I am advancing up my studies for psychology and I don't have time to explore 2 different (and sometimes contradicting) fields. But Jung is awesome I am very personally into him as well.
thanks for the reply.
might be something to look into.
simply lucid an clear..but for the losing of the blotches part.
excellent article. felt like a dissection of the mind.
One thing I read about Anger Management and Stress Management – Stress and Anger are supposed to be wiped out.. Why would someone want to keep it and MANAGE it..
Thanks Riaz! I have a feeling that trying to wipe out stress and anger might be interpreted the wrong way. People might feel it is 'wrong' to be stressed and angry if they think that way, which leads to repression and denial, actually making worse. I do believe anger and stress (and their root causes) can be processed out, but saying so is quite dangerous as many will misinterpret or misapply it in the way I just described. ما رأيك؟
شكرا لك. This will change many lifes.
You're very welcome D3N, I appreciate that comment a lot.
وظيفة كبيرة. I've been studying Buddhism and noticed a lot of similarities, but I haven't seen it explained this way. I think it was very helpful and gave me some more angles to look at the enormous process of actually putting this into practice.
Hi Tony, thank you very much for your kind words.
Absolutely stunning and fabulous writing. Must appreciate your very useful insights and especially the way you have explained the movement of thoughts using visuals.
I wish to make two points here:
1. The problem sometimes is that you don't know if the action you are taking to resolve a problem is a result of your logical mind or is it because of ego or is it a result of both. In such situation how do you act?
2. Agreed that we behave/act differently as a result of our thought/experiences but tough to know if we are necessarily changing for the better or for worse.
I will offer an example for my points:
Example for point 1. At times you give your best to let your love know what is hurting you but it doesn't change anything. You know there are problems but you tend to ignore them because you have committment and you have seen that things don't change. Eventually there is point where you decide to move on and you find someone else. At this point your old love comes back with all explainations and promises to change and be better. Your logical mind tells you that it is difficult for a person to change but your emotions somewhere still pull you back. You still decide to move on despite repeated requests from your old mate because you can't forget times when you were repeatedly hurt earlier. However, looked differently you were ready to accept the same person earlier with all her obvious problems. If at all anything now she may be better than earlier. So is your decision to move on a result of your ego or your maturity/foresight/logical mind?
Example for point 2. Continuing previous example, as you move on your behaviour with your new partner is different as you fear that if you get too involved and it doesn't work you will feel the pain. So you become much more moderate in expressing your love/feelings. Also your tolerance to take things that hurt you becomes less. Is it change for better or for worse? How to know the fine line between being balanced or being reactive to earlier experiences.
Hi AP, thanks for your comment and very thought provoking questions. It is very hard to answer these questions as it is very individual. The questions you raise are very complicated and can't really be answered via the internet. It involves a lot of thinking and work, and I am afraid I can't help you there. Have you thought about seeing a professional?
Thanks Albert. I understand such problems are quite individual and tough to answer. Haven't thought about seeing professional yet. Discussed with friends and family though
. It seems there is always an aspect to every alternative and hence noone has been able to give a clear cut answer. I guess at some stage it has to come from inside only. Would you like to reccomend something.
AP, if I may offer some thoughts on your example with Albert's blessings I hope, since i feel inspired to respond.
Pain or feeling hurt is always a result of ego/mind being involved. It is the result of resisting what is. Resisting the experience of the moment, wanting it to be other than it is so it fits with your thoughts on how things “should” be or should not be for you to be happy. If the moment is in accordance with what your thoughts and beliefs tell you of how things should be, then you are happy. If they are not then you are feeling hurt, unloved, lonely, sad or whatever.Not a powerfull place to be at.
True Happiness lies beyond thoughts. It is your deep nature, but you can only feel it when there is awareness and a distance between you and your thoughts.
When you really look into it, thoughts and beliefs are not real they are just thoughts. The only real thing about them are the power we give them by believing them and identifying with them and the emotions they arise within us, which our minds then interprets as good or as bad, as pleasant or as unpleasant.
It is all a conditioning we abide by. Most people start to find happiness by trying to change the external conditions they are in, a better work,a better girlfriend, a better house whatever… Then they realize that it does not work or if they do succeeded, they still are not happy. Or they may try to change their conditioning and replace it with a better one where they replace victimhood with self confidence, and that does help, but it still does not bring happiness. There are still sources of unhappiness arising from our interpretation of external conditions.
There is another approach where one learns to see thoughts for what they are, and one stops identifying with them, and resisting, and one starts seeing the mechanisms of the mind at work. A mind is a great thing to have.It is a wonderful tool to solve problems, but there is more to the moment than the interpretation of our thoughts tell us. Most people are enslaved by their mind and thoughts.
When mind and thoughts are met with awareness then Freedom and choices become available. Then our actions come from a place of truth and the right action or knowing just follows and just is.
Wishing you the best in your search for meeting yourself in all forms.
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Isabelle, this is very kind and thoughtful of you. I have no words to thank you and Albert for this great help.
You are absolutely correct. We tend to paint a picture of the world or our future or any situation and till the time the things fall within the frame of our thoughts we are happy, any deviations make us unhappy. Rightly said that it is a never ending cycle of happiness and unhappiness that evolves from our dreams/desires being fulfilled or unfulfilled. However, i confess that even though i know these facts at a mental level but do not yet have the depth yet to follow them to core in the day to day life. To a certain level i am trying to control my mind by making a deliberate attempt to weed out undesirable thoughts but am still am nowhere close to attaining full control.
Can you please elaborate a bit more on 'Awareness' and how it will bring Freedom and choices when met with mind and thought. I guess i beleive in most of my decisions but somewhere in a this particular case i tend to lose my confidence in the middle of the road and everything falls apart.
Albert, please feel free to interrupt me here if you feel this is not in the true spirit of our blog.
AP,
You cannot control the mind. It's like trying to control the waves of the ocean. Albert explained it nicely in his article. Thoughts arise out of nowhere and pass through conciousness. Then the mind/ego focusses on them, grasp at them and it starts growing and becomes huge leaving an imprint.
That's what minds/egos do they make and assign meaning to the formeless, classify it, and gives it names and attributes so it can use it now or later as a piece of info. Its very busy in there isn't it? You can try to control it but you'll find it an endless battle. Thoughts constantly arise so let them do so.
What you can do is become curious and aware of this process, watch it unfold. What you are aware of cannot control you…. It still happens at first but now there is a space for something other to happen. “Oh there is anger in me…” its not the same as I am angry. I am angry has no space it it. Now,uhmmm… what thought is behind that anger or what belief is behind that thought? Ok, I see how that works now. Part of you becomes free then, is aware. So watch your thoughts arise without judgement. And if you catch yourself judging then just notice it, which means you already stepped out of it, so be kind with yourself. That is one part of what being aware means. Don't try to change it, just become aware of it then change will follow on its own if it wishes to. Thinking you can change it is another thought coming from the mind trying to regain control.
That's all I can say within this context. If you are enclined to, you can read Eckart Tolle and Adyashanti, they both talk about developing awareness and consciousness and how it frees one from the dream state of identification with thoughts.
Beautiful discussion guys. AP, I would recommend the Sedona Method if you want to some solid action steps. We can't control the mind, as Isabelle said, but I've found my mind becomes progressively emptier/more positive as I release. It's not a quick fix though. A sample of the process can be found here:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
I can't express how enthralling it feels to realise that there is someone who understands you.
I guess now i understand better what it means to be aware of our thoughts as we cannot stop or even control them. The trick is to let them pass unhurdled without getting attached to them no matter how ugly they may be. Will try to practice the Sedona method to my best. Already i am feeling some peace at heart and can let some thoughts pass by without enraging the internal anger and frustraion that it used to build earlier.
Only worry is that it makes me feel as if i am escaping/ignoring issues by not thinking/exploring about them. I know i am wrong because i was anyway not able to act even when i was thinking day and night about them as nothing would give me conviction/satisfaction to go ahead. I guess by the Grace of GOD and the new space/freedom in my mind created by your guidance will automatically bring me more clarity, peace and confidence and will guide me to the right path.
I feel blessed to be guided by friends like you and glad to share how things evolve
I wanted to know what people meant when they said that they found clarity in loosing their ego, and i think you did a great job answering that in the beginning pages.
I will disagree that it is the cause of most problems, for me anyway. I see it in myself when I loose a game or get a low grade. I think this is what causes some of my suffering, yet isn't the source of my misdirected actions. I think that personally, a fear of loneliness drives my ambitions. Trying to be physically fit, well groomed, and eventually getting a high paying job. It's not to develop a higher impression of myself, but to be “attractive”, so I won't be alone and I can be happy.
BTW the update link is 404.
Hi James, thank you so much for your comment. A fear of loneliness is definitely one of our core issues, and it's great that you recognise it
What update link? It would be great if you can tell me? وذلك بفضل!
on page 8 you say that: “I have received many questions that have highlighted the common mistakes and dangerous obstacles which follow this post. The first of these can be found HERE. ” and the link is broken.
Oh, thanks. Yea I took off that article as the information got a bit outdated. Link fixed, much appreciated.
This really got to me bro, this is absolutely amazing.
Thank you Steven!
I've read a bit of the power of now, and applied it. It was a great start, and it got me a good feel for what the ego is and what true consciousness feels like, but this article is way more clearer than what I've read from The Power of Now. It's a great book though.
الاشياء العظيمة. I'm learning to turn off and and turn on my thoughts when i need to. شكرا لكم على هذا.
You're very welcome Kamran. If you find TPN a bit too confusing, try his sequel, A New Earth.
It wasn't confusing, but this is just easier to relate to.
Albert..thank you so much for this article. I especially appreciate the visuals (the blotches, the thought, the magnified thought, the large thought still visible). It is undoubtedly an ego statement of sorts to say that “I am a visual person”…but I definitely learn things much better when I see some sort of graph/chart/visual interpretation. The images you put together are perfect to describe the thoughts in this essay. I do not think the article too long at all. I even read all the comments.
I am sorely tempted to even tell you that I “was” a graphic designer…and therefore that is why I am so taken with your good graphics. (why should you care? lol..I just have this habit of continually telling people about “who” I am).
Through your article I have come to see how constantly and relentlessly I identify myself as a tall, talented, Irish, cat-loving, depressive, oil painting, over achieving, under achieving, blahblahblahblah person. Believe me, I have so many blotches and leftover magnified thought shadows I suspect my core doesn't see the light of day! But…wait. Yes…it has….because I read this article. It's brilliant and generous. AND I'm super grateful for the illustrations.
Hi Celeste, thanks for the comment
I'm glad it helped so much. Be careful of going on a “witch-hunt” though, and turning this kinda stuff into some obsession. It doesn't seem egotistical to tell someone that you were a graphic designer. 
thanks buddy, i am now one step closer to understanding the mind, you see i am trying to get in touch with my 'pinial gland' and to do that one needs to let go of his ego . i didnt even know what ego ment or was. i was luck to come across your artical, i belive the 'core' is the pinial gland which helps calm, sooth, relax, and remind you of you to help you get to where your goals are taking you, with more confidence and will power than a 'nomal person'(not that i would be better than anyone elce just better prepard…maybe lol), i can see how the 'ego' makes life hard on our selfs and will now take the slow road to numbing it down. thanks mate.
Hey Adam – you're welcome! I've never heard of the ego being correlated with the pineal gland before – I'm going to go Google it now
This is very well-presented. The filter diagrams are simply fantastic. You have a real art of expressing these things. I would love to become an affiliate with your site. Peace and love to you. May you live a long and sweet life.
Hi Tom, thank you so much! Peace and love to you too.
thanks mate
you think you have really helped me with this post.
You're welcome sunny
Hey Albert,
Can you please provide addtional resources or excercises on how to stop the ego? الرجاء المساعدة
Hi there – I've actually moved on from all this ego stuff, so I can't really help. Besides, trying to destroy it just makes it stronger. You can try some books if you want – The Book, by Alan Watts, is a good one. Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth or Power of Now was very inspirational for me also.
More importantly, if you are in a bad way – please seek professional help!
مرحبا ألبرت.
You may have said as much but aren't “true” love/joy just a different set of filters that just aren't attached to substantiating/negating our sense of self? The ultimate nilistic philosophical stance is that nothing matters so we let all thoughts pass through and nothing registers against a value system. I have never been satisfied with the teachers (Ramana Maharishi lineage especially) who emphasize the nothingness and then come back with their own set of personal values. Which values to abide by is a slippery slope fraught with cultural underpinnings. There doesn't really seem to be any ground to stand on. So we just muddle through trying to be kind to ourself and others, not use people and situations to bolster our sense of self (ego) at someone else's expense, and let go of the thoughts and beliefs that are more egoic in nature. Have you ever read soemthing solid and integral on this subject?
Thanks for your efforts here, I have come seeking respite as I deal with my ego in my work and how it has offended people as I tried to assert my influence. Relaxation (letting go) is key and also approaching with a curiosity about what the right approach might be have been helpful for me these last few days.
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Hi Al, thanks for your comment. There is a lot of conflicting information about the spiritual ego (add to that the confusion of the psychological definition). Unfortunately I don't follow the different arguments and so on all that much, and have been spending my time on other forms of inner work, so I can't really recommend anything to read. I definitely agree, though, that most teachings have that personal bias underneath it. Perhaps it's just a matter of trial and error, and maybe that's part of the fun
Al,
true love/joy aren't feelings and thoughts. They are states of being. They're not represented by a specific emotion, or induced by thought, but actually occur when you get passed all the internal noise within. And for that reason, they are not filters.
“Which values to abide by is a slippery slope fraught with cultural underpinnings.”
There is a point where you just go with whatever feels right. You abide by whatever you're feeling within your natural state of being (which is one of unconditional love). I would recommend meditation for cultivating the state and clearing out negative emotions buried in your body.
Thanks for your comment Kamran!
I've been reading and studying the likes of E. Tolle and others. I know of my weaknesses because they have been many. However, with all my other studies I felt that I had to go back and back again for further study. Don't misunderstand me; I think Tolle is awesome.
However, your post has taken me to a new height of understanding. It is so simple now. I read this post last week and I truly believe that I'ma new person. (without sounding egoist) Thank you soooooooo much. I am forever grateful! Forever grateful!
جيري
Someone in a previous comment asked for some exercises to 'stop the ego'. I found that by recognizing it in the way you described was the only exercise that I will ever need. Actually, the ego is the source of all misery, anger, and anguish. You have shown me the direction to the source. Now, as I recognize the ego at its source it is going, going, and hopefully mostly gone in the near future. شكرا مرة أخرى.
Hi Jerry, you're very very welcome. I was feeling a bit tired of blogging the past couple weeks, so your comments made a big difference. Cheers, mate!
Great article (even if I haven't finished it yet).
My body has 18 years and my consciousness (or my ego, I don't know which one) has reacted a lot to this article.
Hi Albert,
Thank so much for your article. I can now visualize what ego is in my mind!
I have 2 questions:
- Why it is more painful to be able to identify other people's actions are the results of Ego and unable to do anything about it? Suffering does come from myself but also from people around you.
- How do you improve your writting skill? As I have always having much more difficulty to learn languages since young, and have always wonder and amaze with those who can writte very well and articulate.
@ Raul: I'm glad it's made a difference
@ Guest: Thanks for your kind words! هم.. – is it true that suffering also comes from those around you? Or is it just your reaction to what they are doing that is causing the suffering? I'm really not saying yes or no, I'm just asking.
With the writing, I don't know. I just wrote and kept writing. I got a book on common grammar mistakes, style guides, etc. I also read a lot of books, and I looked at the way they wrote. At first it felt like I was copying (and I probably was, for a while), but after a while it will become your own individual style. Oh, if it helps, I imagine myself talking to someone about these things first. And I also imagine what questions they might have, that way I can cover it in writing.
Hi Albert,
Thanks so much for your response. Good question and I will need to figure it out and medidate on it. It may be my Ego again
In addition, I found this YouTube video
( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FuqcTp0SHU ) that is about Ego and Equanimity. There are content about some praying stuff that I don't understand. Just ignore those but the main content may interest you.
can you compare and contrast intuition and ego for me?
Hi Tanner, thanks for your comment. Unfortunately I don't have the time to do so. Hope you understand.
مرحبا ألبرت ،
I'm the same Raul as before.
I have a tough question (tough for me at least).
Could I say “I am a man”? Or is this ego?
Hi Raul – it depends. Are you building your identity on it? If someone says to you “you are not a man, you are a little wimp”, how do you feel? The degree to which it makes you feel bad/angry/whatever is the degree to which it's become a part of your false identity.
No, it doesn't make me feel bad.
I was just referring to being a man as being a male from the human race. (even if they call me a wimp I'll still be a male)
Regarding my question last time:
“- Why it is more painful to be able to identify other people's actions are the results of Ego and unable to do anything about it? Suffering does come from myself but also from people around you.”
I think there are different sources.
1) How my perceptions/opinion on the actions of people around me that I don't agree on. That will be due to my own Ego. That can be slowly resolve when I come to realize it.
2) It does due to the people's Egos that cause suffer. One simple example may be their jealousy (part of product of Ego) on you that they just make your life so difficult. This does create negativity on you and knowing that you can't do much to enlighten them.
Thanks for reading…
my life has been changing slowly. my ego has taken a blow and i am trying to wrestle it down now. so i can lock it up and examine it like some little gnome on an information binge. i rely on the realization of my own thoughts now. the first thing i do when i think of something look at it from every angle i can take what i can get cast it aside and apply what i learned if applicable that moment. if i think that because i ride my bike with no handle bars someone will see me and think about me then i ride my bike most comfortably and feel the sensation of motion. i just want to thank you for the unending wisdom you have bestowed upon me. never will will i live in the shadow of my self made shield. the shelter is gone and the winds of change have never been so harsh. actually sharp not numb pain. an ocean of emotion can't drown me now. for deep down i know i am only human.
Hey Tanner, thanks for your comment. Be a bit careful about “trying to wrestle” down the ego. It probably leads to more inner conflict. Why not just be aware of it and peacefully choose not to react?
HI Albert,
Like your reply to Tanner. Be aware of your Ego is very effective.
IMO, not everytime one can be aware of one's Ego, especially when one is very tired, when emotion overcomes everything, and one doesn't medidate. Meditation is very important key to train one's awareness.
Thanks Guest – definitely meditation is very powerful technique. The most famous one is the “Who/What am I” technique or maybe just focusing on your breath as it goes in and out, if anyone is interested.
I am starting a new relationship and getting triggered a lot more frequently so this subject is much more alive for me. I have been addressing it in several ways I'll share now and I'll try to report later whether they are working.
The focal point of my different triggers is fear. My coping strategies are somewhat unique to me (each of us). They fall into a group I broadly label “dependency patterns” and include obsessing about the other person, wanting to be cared for and not taking care of myself, fear of rejection, needing to be special, and hunting for validation.
My fresh approach has 2 main components. The first is returning to center. I take the following steps:
* take a timeout from the stimulus
* relax my body, breathing, feeling my feet on the floor and reducing any dissociation/spacy-ness I have
* finding empowerment, capable of handling what ever happens, remembering ways I source my own joy, and placing value on the needs of others and open to how they might try to get them met however clumsily
The second component is about shifting my focus from fear, freezing, or avoidance to acceptance of reality and becoming curious about what is happening and why. The root is usually a conflict of competing values or a judgement that something should not be happening to me or someone else. I try to develop compassion by asking myself or someone what is the motivation for the behavior which probably has a core universal need (like love!) I can relate to and find acceptance. I'll often google a phrase in my head or subject to see if someone has blogged about it and uncovered some nuances that reveal what is true for me. I'll then find a way to communicate about it which helps me step deeper into self-acceptance and transparency in relationships.
Hope this helps!
Wonderful contribution, Al! I normally do the emotional work (find it in the “Best Of” section in the sidebar) for stuff like this, if anyone is interested.
المادة العظمى. I took time to go through it bit by bit over the course of a couple weeks. It was worth enough to make me, who has a TREMENDOUS fear (ego) of financial insecurity, donate to the site. Keep it up and thank you so much!
Hi Jim, thank you right back. I'm grateful for the donation and the affirmation that I'm doing the right thing!
This is a good article, thanks.
You're welcome Troy glad you liked it!
I found this blog by chance or was it fate, karma – looking at myself with the idea of filters and the thoughts that get stuck really has given me a different way of looking at things. I found the articles very interesting – food for thought a totally different way of looking at myself and others. It is somewhat scary to think our filters alter another beings filters. I wish I would have seen information on this years ago. Decades ago.
Hi Cheryl, thanks for the big compliment. However, what do you mean our filters alter another's? هتاف
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