Why are some people so nasty? We’ve all heard that it is because they are in pain, because they are emotionally impoverished. This post explores this idea, as well as the possibility that we are not at fault. Lastly, we discuss some practical methods for processing out the hurt they cause.

They say the root of all fears is the fear of death itself. Other teachers talk about something different, a variation – that we are ultimately afraid of being nothing, of being no-one. But what does this have to do with me? In understanding this, and processing it out, we can begin to loosen any fear we are struggling with – even if it’s everyday nervousness and shyness.

Why do some things – certain words, certain people – hurt so much? You know it shouldn’t affect you that way, and yet it does. In my own work, I’ve found these events touch my unfinished emotional business – these people represent others from my past, represent issues larger than I suspected. Find out more in this post, together with some questions to help in your own search – is this true for you as well?

When it comes to healing and understanding our negative emotions, there is one important thing to realise: Some of our feelings are inauthentic. They cover up other feelings, beliefs, and inner states. What really needs to be healed? A companion to the UrbanMonk.Net Core Practice.

This post presents two basic practices for working with your emotions – allowing them and releasing them. These form half of the core practices of UrbanMonk.Net, letting the reader use the various “booster” techniques described in the rest of the blog.

There is a child inside all of us, whether we realize it or not. And sometimes we return to that state, with all of its vulnerabilities, dependencies, and insecurities. Many of us try to become an adult by pushing away and ignoring this child – but the real path to adulthood is recognising and making friends with him or her. This post introduces a simple and yet very powerful process for reintegrating your inner child.

There was something I discovered recently, something that sounds so absurd and yet so simple. As much as I want to be free of whatever I am suffering – there is a part of me that wants it. Getting in touch with this part can be the next step in finding inner freedom.

We are all living on one planet, in one physical reality. But there is one common mistake many of us make – we think we are living in the same world. This post introduces a process that builds on some of the most powerful methods offered on this blog, taking them to a deeper level for more freedom.