This will sound harsh – but until we move out of our own sorrow, perhaps it is better to keep quiet. Until we find the blissfulness and serenity within, perhaps it is better not to think about compassion and kindness towards others at all. There is so much guilt based on finding peace and Love within ourselves; it is all the result of false conditioning.

Compassion, the helping of those in need, is espoused as one of the greatest virtues a person can have. And there is no doubt it is a great virtue – but what if there are right ways and wrong ways to go about it? What if, in trying to help, we sometimes end up hurting ourselves – or the person we are trying to help?

Conversations between a Christian blogger and the Urban Monk. The approaches to the servant heart – the heart of Compassion, and the contrast between self sacrifice and self love.

Self Esteem - it has to begin with compassion for oneself, stopping our self-violence in our actions and our thoughts. Here are the psychological perspective and techniques to change your life around.

Why is loneliness so painful? Loneliness is a curse because we don’t know who we are - and that is our basic anxiety. When you are alone, all your self knowledge, your identity, your personality - your ego begins to unravel.

The first step towards compassion is to cease the judgement of value. It is so insidious, so destructive - it hurts everyone involved. You bottle them up, you stick them in a bottle, and put a sticker on it - you’ve killed them.