Is uniqueness an asset or liability? Can you accept others when they behave differently from what you consider to be the norm? Do you love your own uniqueness?

How do we deal with the various intrusions on our boundaries? This post goes in slightly more depth, outlining unskilful response styles, and detailing a healthy and mature response.

In the previous post, we spoke of the importance of developing personal boundaries. The question remains, then – how? This post covers recognition, reflection, preparation, and finding the internal courage; all important preparatory steps.

What are boundaries? Are they a sign of selfishness, or a sign of strength? Is saying yes a sign of weakness, or a sign of generosity and compassion?

Boundaries can come in many different forms, but at its core, they simply involve saying No. No to giving something you don’t want to give; no to behaving in a certain way; no to being treated in a way that will hurt your heart, your body, your totality.

The fundamental difference between living your dream and stagnating is fear. Fear of losing it all; fear of what another might think; fear of being less than enough.

This is a guide with practical techniques to overcoming these fears – psychological methods, with a touch of Zen.

We never, ever, see the world as it is. Our awareness – our beliefs, past conditionings, upbringing, the list goes on – these distort everything we see. One of the most painful misinterpretations lies in self-perception. Weaknesses are magnified, assets and strengths are ignored. This leads to low self-esteem; a strong feeling of inadequacy and constant unhappiness.

Here is a mixture of cognitive psychology techniques and Zen, that will make a difference.