Most of us are uncomfortable with strong displays of emotions in others, in our loved ones. We ask a few polite questions when we see they are upset, and let it be – but it is not enough. What contributes to unconditional acceptance? Allowing them their full experience with respect and dignity.

There are obstacles – inner impulses – that prevent the gentle miracle of unconditional, non-judgemental, attention. Be mindful, can you catch these impulses when they arise, let them fall away again without acting on them?

If we are alert enough, we’ll notice that we are always on guard. We watch our words; we watch our actions; we don’t express our beliefs. But have we ever stopped to see what we are really doing? We’re cutting, trimming, and breaking ourselves – we spend our entire lives alienated from ourselves.

The next time we are with our lover or our child, there is a question we can ask ourselves – how do we truly love them?

What a strange question! The foundations of loving, healing and nurturing, are simple: gentle attention and non-judgemental acceptance.

Have you ever been convinced into doing or buying something you later regretted? Have you ever stopped halfway through a favour for a friend, and thought – “Why did I even agree to this?”

Chances are someone has used one of these techniques on you.

Touch, properly applied, can heighten the entire range of human interaction. We go in-depth into a sex and love, parent-child touch, and the secrets to a proper handshake.