Koji je vaš ego i kako ga spriječiti da zamagle vaš unutrašnji mir i bezuvjetnu ljubav
Editor's Note: Tu je često neke zabune između ova definicija ego i Freudova definicija. To se rješava zbrka oko ego .
Ovo je vaša svijest i vaš svijesti. Ona je lijepa, savršena, i mirno. To je "ja" u sebi, "ja" koje kontrolira svoje tijelo, um i emocije. To je istina " I am ". To je ono što ste prije nego što život Vam se dogodilo.
To je ono što obuhvaća tvoj unutarnji mir. Vaš ego je stala, i život je ostavila ožiljke. Tvoj mir i ljepota su svoj zasjenjena bezbroj ožiljaka - ružan maraka koji pokrivaju svoje istinske svijesti.
(Sad kad sam dobio svoj divljenja i pažnje sa svojim ogroman Photoshop vještine, Htio bih dodati da je ovo ozbiljno dugi post - gotovo 6000 riječi. To je i moj omiljeni i najviše na srcu sada, ali ćete dobiti vaš novac vrijedi od čitanja 
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Napomena: Ive 'isto tako podijeliti i ovaj post se na stranice, pa ne zaboravite da pročitate druge stranice!
Ega koji prikriva svoj mir
Što su te mrlje koje Mar svoje savršenstvo?
Oni predstavljaju male stvari koje vas za tko ste: Vaš voli, voli, voli, mržnje. Oni su povijest koju ne možete pustiti. Oni su svoje uspomene, svoje nade i snove. Oni su svojim malim navike, hobije, svoje ponašanje. Svi ti, svaka marka, kombinirati kako bi vašu osobnost, svoj ego, svoj identitet.
Ali, ono što je vaše osobnosti? To je nešto što ste pogriješili za sebe. Gotovo svi rade - ne znam bilo koji bolji. Pitajte nekoga tko su oni, i najvjerojatnije će vam reći svoje ime, dob, svoj posao, na njihovu rasu, spol, svoju povijest, snovima, voli i dislikes. Oni sebe definiraju tim.
To su sve dio vaše osobnosti. Ali oni su samo o vama. Ali oni nisu ti. Oni jednostavno vam opisati, ali nekako smo se smanjiti na te opise, tih sitnih detalja. Mi smo zaboravili tko smo, što smo zaboravili pravi srž i svijesti koja je pokrivena od strane svih tih podataka. I to je tužno, jer jezgra sadrži sve što želimo - sve što tražimo u ciljeve koje potjere - unshakeable mir i radost.
Pročitajte ovaj post, a zatim pročitajte sve prethodne postove - čak i one na temelju moderne psihologije, bilo da su na ljutnju , tugu, opraštanje ili sreću ... naći ćete tu istinu skrivenu u tamo negdje.
Zaustavi misli prije nego oni stići. Zaustavi emocije prije nego oni vas odvesti preko. Stop iz ego koji vam govore da stvari ne bi trebalo biti tako. Svi oni vode do jedne nastavne - stop ego iz marring svoj mir. Većina metoda, od starih religija, do moderne psihologije, temelje se oko ovoga - oni samo opisuju ga na drugačiji način. Ili to ili su neupućeni jezgre svijesti i ne spomenuti ga.
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Da biste nazvali ovaj dugi post je nepotpuno, Albert. Moj glas? Definitivno to split up. Na 6.000 riječi, to ne bi mogli dobiti pažnju koju ono zaslužuje, ako je bio podijeljen napraviti veliku seriju. Osim taj, to je divnu knjigu, mislim post.
Hmm hvala za komentar! Da sam mogao to split up hehe!
To je strašan. Znam da ljudi često ne vole čitati duge postove, ali ste učinili najbolji posao sam vidio još od 'pokriva baza "onoga što čini naš self-konstrukt. Ima toliko elemenata za naše 'mi' ideja, i lako je samo da daju pažnju na najočitiji. Svaki put kad sam mislio te je učinio savršen posao slikarstva potpuna slika, te se okrenuo i mene iznenadio peering u na još jedan aspekt ega! To će napraviti veliki posao pomaže ljudima shvatiti da izgrade svoje kostur Self okolo. Bravo!
Hi Kenton velik dio poštovati drug! Kompliment od vas puno znači!
Nakon što je vreo dan sam emocija uspjeli vidjeti svjetlo .... Sam bio nacrtan na Vašu web stranicu, a sada sam saznala zašto. JA stvarno poštovati tvoj iskreni i jasnoća u objašnjavanju kako su mislili funkcija i koju ulogu igraju u našim egom naš um. Jako sam sam fokusiran na otkrivanju moje prave nutrine i vjerujem da ću jednog dana naći moj pravi srž i iskustvo pravi raj. Hvala vam za tako "dugi" članak. Ja gledati prema naprijed u istraživanju više od vaših djela. Mir s vama
Sami hi, hvala vam za tvoj rod komentare, i sretno na vašem putu! Drago mi je pomogao.
Stvarno dobar post. Sviđa mi se ovaj dugo. To mi daje sve odgovore bih morati pronaći negdje drugdje. Neke teme trebaju duge postove. Također, dugi post čini mi misliti ima je puno posla i obveza, tako da sam uglavnom da ga ozbiljnije. Mislim da svi mi ne bi trebali činiti iste stvari i ima iste stilu. Svatko preporučuje jak dugo postove, ali oni zaboravljaju da svatko voli različite stvari.
Hvala vam mrtptt. Da, ja sam pokušao nekoliko načina, i odlučio da ga razbiti u stranice, nada nitko nedostaje malo Page12345 stvar.
Ja sam sretan da kažem svoj rad je uključen u karnevalu Creative Growth # 4. Ja sam oduševljen sa visokom kvalitetom članaka ovog tjedna, koliko zahvalnost za sve vas koji dijele vaše pisanje! Molimo vas link natrag na http://www.energiesofcreation......-growth-4/ podijeliti ova drugim djelima sa svojim čitateljima.
Pozivanje se od `karnevalu Creative Growth" reći koliko sam uživala vaš članak.
Glasam ga ne razdvojiti. To vrijedi 30 minuta ga je uzeo da ga pročitate! Izvrstan post!
Puno hvala dečki!
Ego nam pomoći da san i otići izvan naše normalne znači, ali bez njega se može normalno voziti kroz život, no to ne znači da bi trebao biti pilot u svakom trenutku ... Za mene, ljudi se hrane moj ego, ali sam ga stavio testirati i na pokretnoj traci za izgubiti masti.
Hi Tuan, slažem se s tobom. Ja zapravo mislim da postoje dvije staze na ovu:
1) zamijeniti sve dijelove negativnog ega s pozitivnim
2) uklonite ega ukupno i oslanjaju na intuiciju
I'm ostavljajući izbora do čitatelja, a ja sam izradio postove pojedinostima oba staze spremna biti objavljena nakon Aristotela serija je gotova.
Hvala na posjeti!
Prekrasna jezgrovit i istinito
Hvala Richard!
I godina sam često bio ispunjen mnogo ljutnje i bijesa. Kada sam shvatio da je pravi izvor ovog angst ne dolazi od drugih, ali sa unutrašnje strane mene, bio sam u mogućnosti to početak moje putovanje postati u miru sa sebe. Uz pomoć knjiga i velikodušan i nježna prijedloge iz moje voli supruga, bio sam u mogućnosti (nakon nekog vremena) da se otpusti moj ego. Ljudi danas pitaju zašto sam uvijek osmijeh na moje lice i da se malo, kao i velike stvari ne smetaju mi. To nije apatija - to je bilanca. Naravno, ja to flare up nekad i sad, ali samo iznutra. Ja doista vjerujem da smo svi mogli naučiti morph u egoless društvo, većina problema u svijetu bi se smanjiti.
Pamm, sjećam ostavljajući poruku ovdje s dva pitanja: Ja kucanog gore dug odgovor, ali poslužitelj je umro i da je otišao. From što JA sjećati se, evo što sam tip:
1) Možete li biti tragatelj i dalje biti na miru? Da, svi učenja kažu da možete samo biti sretni sada. Sada je sve što postoji, budućnost je anticipacija, i prošlosti je pamćenje. Ne postoji drugi put možete biti na miru.
Nadam se da ovaj post će imati dopustiti čitatelju da se pomaknuo se od toga da bude identificiran s ego, i priznajući kao zasebna stvar ih zataškava. Nakon što znaju što je zasebna, ona se puno lakše odlučite ostati u kontroli. Ako nisu, ja bi reagirati i djelovati i biti nesretan za njih, a oni nisu shvatili da nisu imali izbora.
Uz tu promjenu, možete se odlučiti za biti na miru. To je stvar svijesti dovoljno - ponekad stare navike teško umiru, ali je samo navika. Potrebno drugi ostvariti ono što radite, i izabrati. To je sve. Na primjer, kada je umro moj server i shvatio sam izgubio pola mojih pretplatnika, što sam radio mjesecima izgraditi jer je moj položaj je dolje, ja stvarno je dobio frustriran i onda sam shvatio to neće promijeniti stvar i ja se smirila odmah. Moja frustracija je trajalo 5 minuta. Obično to bi trajalo puno duže.
Uskoro Vjerujem da ovaj put bi se smanjiti za kraće i kraće sve dok ništa ne može poremetiti me na sve.
2) Što bi svijet bude kao da nitko od nas su bili azila?
Moj odgovor: Ne znam, sorry.
To je kao molba te što će svijet biti kao ako su svi ljudi postali neplodan. Svi mi bi bilo odumiru, ili se nešto drastično dogoditi kako bi se osiguralo naš opstanak. U slučaju ne-tragaocima, mi bi sve vjerojatno jednostavno se izgubiti u ratovima, borbama, i sukoba oko ničega, ili se nešto drastično će se dogoditi i da će nas preobraziti. U što? Ne znam.
Ja potpuno suglasni. Ja sam bio težak to prolio moj ego, ali čovjeku je teško. Ali ja ću i dalje pokušavati. Samo ovaj vikend se nešto dogodilo da mi je bio dolje, kao što sam bio čitanje ovaj sam rekao oh my god je to moj ego sve zajedno i nisam ni svjesni. Reći ću vam odmah, ozbiljno odmah sam se dobro osjeća.
Na drugoj temi, ja sam bio čitanje, meditiranje i nakon prilično konstantan duhovni put, I love it, sam pronaći sebe reći svima oko mene. to je tako velik, želim da svi znaju. Osjećam sam to previše. Ja također znam neke peope mrzim. Znam da bi trebao biti tihi, ali kad jednom počnete, tako da um puše jednostavno želite reći ljudima. Što mogu učiniti?. "Ja znam jedan koji ne zna to reći, onaj koji govori ne zna." Ja se ne sjećam gdje sam pročitao da.
Bok Lorena, velika da čuju da se osjećate dobro, to je nešto što se događa.
Molimo budite oprezni demoniziraju ega ipak, ne čine to cilj da prolio ego. Samo budite svjesni toga i zaobići, to je sve što možete učiniti. Ne bi ga neki budući cilj da se potpuno besplatno je, za to ojačava vaš ego samo. Možete samo biti bez njega upravo sada.
Re: Reći drugih ljudi, JA je otišao kroz iste faze. Mnogi ljudi učiniti. Vjerujem da je svaki "loša" stvar će završiti na dobro. Odnosno ako su oni će kroz nesreću, ima nešto da će učiti iz nje. Sam mogao biti u krivu ipak. JA će predlagati ga zadržati za sebe, osim ako oni doći do vas. Opet, igra okolo sa Internet se, ono što je radio za mene ne mora nužno raditi za vas. Ja sam na planiranje seriju postova na osobni razvoj barijere i prepreke nakon ove serije ego je učinio.
O da jedna stvar: to je normalno za ego da žele da se vrati ... većinu vremena, ako znam, ja se osjećate odlično, fantastično, miran ... onda ja dogoditi se leđa ... ako ne, shvatite da je to navika.
Nakon što ste napravili pomak između znajući svoj ego, pa se identificira s ego, to je samo mentalna navika ... nikada ne možete vratiti. To je poput pronalaženja Djed Mraz ne postoji ... ti nikad ne može vratiti na vjerujući u Santa opet bez obzira što se osjeća kao ...
Dakle, ako vaš osjećaj mira odlazi, samo zapamtite svoj ego, i polako gubi naviku ...
Admin Napomena: Slučajno Izbrisati, tako stavljajući ga u leđa!
Pozdrav Albert,
To je zapravo primjerak e sam napisao
vas, a onda duhhhhhhhh ga sinulo mi
da sam trebao reći ovo vam u komentar
na ovaj post.
Bio sam tako impresioniran s ovim člankom:
Imate artikulirana ego i izložena za što je to.
Koliko slavne trenutke su održali smo natrag od u ovom
život, jer ego voli status quo. !!!!!!
Nešto što me smeta vrsta iz ega post je ovaj ....
U roku od taj članak 2 različita puta ste spomenuli da
niste bili prosvjetljeni. Onda sam pročitao liniju na
naslovnici da niste prosvijetljeni majstora.
Možda je samo moj odvesti na riječ sama po sebi. Ja zasigurno ne
sebe vidjeli kao prosvjetljeni majstor, ali osjećam postoje
razina prosvjetljenja. JA pravedan ištanje to vas pozivamo da se zabavljaju
da je ideja da su ga, naravno, postigli razinu prosvjetljenja.
Moja kći Nicole je 25 i ona je razina duhovne svijesti
(Ili prosvjetljenja) da većina njezine dobi ne dijele.
Ipak, ona je često puta frustriran s drugim ljudima koji će ni
razmotriti neke teme koje joj intrigama razmišljanja na dnevnoj bazi.
Ja sam objasnila da joj stvari na ovaj način ....
"Honey, to je kao da ti ljudi duboko spava. Oni su izabrali
ostaju spava i nema deranja iznos, ili kada razgovarate ili ništa
će imati utjecaj na njih.
Svaki sada i onda naiđete na osobu koja je na vašem
razini. Oni su svoje srodne duše. Oni odražavaju natrag na vas
gotovo isti put da ste na.
I ... ... ... ponekad, nailazimo na nekoga tko nije u
takav dubok san .... naš razgovor i razmjena s njima je upravo
probuditi ~ ~ porinuti im je potrebno.
Osjećam da 'prosvjetljenje' može se objasniti na razini previše.
))))))))))
Ako ste bili kako biste se objasniti kao 'nije prosvijetlio' koji bi
ukazuju na osobu duboko spava, a vi jednostavno ne može reći da
Albert o sebi.
To je apsolutno neophodna za napredak prema naprijed da mi držite
sebe u najboljem svjetlu moguće.
Nisam pročitao sve što je mnoge članke na vašem blogu, ali sam
ga bookmarked. Još uvijek imam osjećaj da sam pobijedio
ogromna tamna noć duše, a vaša je misija da dijele
sa svijetom novi i poboljšani Albert. Ili bi trebao JA
kažu NOVO i poboljšanje Albert ... .... Svi smo poboljšanje
svakog pojedinog dana. Nema odgodu gumb i nema
potpuno ide natrag na spavanje nakon što su 'prosvijetljeni'.
Bilo je Slade's blog post, Psyche kanali,
Signali i buke
http://sladeroberson.com/praye ... .. noise.html
koji je započeo razmišljati o tome kako mi je ego
je dobivanje na putu od moje veze
na moj duhovni vodiči.
To je bio ovaj članak taj onda je došao preko i
gurnuo mi je da se post na mom vlastitom blogu
o načinu ega me drži leđa
iz te veze.
Hvala vam! Hvala vam!!
Uz duboko poštovanje i pozdrav,
XO XO
Debitant
Hi Deb, hvala za tvoj komentirajte. Odgovorio sam na svoju e-mail, ali ja ću držati neke od naglašava ovdje (stvari koje je korisno za sve čitatelje):
Prije svega, hvala vrlo velik dio za tvoj rod komentare!
Ovaj članak je brzo postaje najpopularniji moj rad, i to je naravno moj ljubimac, mislim da je većina pomoć post na blogu.
Ive 'bio koji radi s Kenton Whitman od http://www.kentonwhitman.com tko mi govori kroz moj predrasuda prosvjetljenja. Njegov blog je zaista velika, morate ga pročitati.
Valjda sam reći da nisam prosvjetljen za 2 razloga:
1) Imam preduvjerenje da je prosvjetljenje je crno i bijelo, možete ili ste ili niste. I mislim da ako ste enlightenend, nikad Vam neće biti uzrujani tijekom ništa. Kenton je bilo reći mene to nije slučaj, ali to je još uvijek nešto što sam težio za =)
2) Ako sam ići okolo na moj blog govoreći ja sam prosvijetljen, mi zvuk kao pravi pr * ck hahaha!
Vi učinio strašan posao opisuje ego uma i kako da se vlast nad našim mislima - Veliki post!
Hvala Torilink, proveo neko vrijeme na svoj vlastiti blog, neke velike stvari tamo, kao i - posebno mi se sviđa sedam hermetička Laws - Ive 'bio obličje za kompilaciju svih zakona za dugo vremena!
Volio sam članak. Bilo je jasno. Čak i ako je malo dugo, nema potrebe za promjenu oblikovanja ili numeriranje.
Hvala vam,
Jean
Hvala Jean, ovo je moj prvi blog pa sam samo eksperimentiranje s nekoliko različitih stvari i uzimajući osjećaj za ono što čitatelji vole. Hvala za vaš doprinos!
Izvrstan članak. Dobro organizirana i vrlo jasno. Vrlo korisno. Puno hvala
Vi ste vrlo dobrodošli Jamesa, imaju pogled na razne slijedite prozore kako bi seriju
Volio čitati vaš članak. Great uvid, dobro prezentiran, prilično temeljita, dužina je u redu sa mnom. Evo par misli sam. Ja bi volio čitati o ego na posao s ljubavlju i beeing u ljubavi.
Na osobnu bilješku za vas: Vi ste ne spomenuti prosvijetljen dosta puta, iako to može biti dobro za vas ostati skromni, on također može držati te u toj stvarnosti.
Hvala vam za šerif tvoj uvid. Namaste
Hi Isabelle,
Hvala za komentare, drago mi je da ste uživali post
. Došli ste na pravo vrijeme, ljubav i ego je nešto što sam počinju da se u - it's gonna biti raštrkani veliku seriju postova koja sam priprema upravo sada, tako Stay tuned za to.
A za prosvjetljenje ... nekoliko mojih čitatelji su ljubazno ukazao upravo istu stvar si učinio, a ja ga cijenim. Samo sam mislio da ću zvuk kao pravi pr * ck ako idem okolo govoreći: "Watch this space sam prosvijetlio guru" hahah! U redu je, ja sam prešla je dalek put od kada sam kucanog gore ovaj post ... Hvala, JA stvarno poštovati Internet.
Namaste u povratku!
Awesome post, volim čitati o tim vrstama predmeta. Nema mnogo blogova vani koji govore o ove vrste stvari, thumbs up
Hvala vrlo velik dio
Molimo Vas da pogledate neke od slijedite prozore!
Hej.
Prolazeći kroz strašna srce slomiti i sve svoje primjere ljubavi pomoći tako puno, čini mi unidentify sa srcem pauze? Ipak sam još uvijek malo zbunjeni. I dalje se želim pronaći ljubav. Bez vezan za oznaku ljubavi, kako se jedan ga očituju i pustiti ga da proizlaze iz jezgre bića?
Hi Nur, mislim da je prvi korak je da se otpusti nedostatku ljubavi. A onda, sebi napuniti s ljubavi s ljubavlju i suosjećanjem meditacije ( http://www.urbanmonk.net/122/t.....ompassion/ ), dok se polako ispunjava cijelo vaše biće i onda će to privući ljubav . Barem, tako ćete biti sretni da ljudi automatski će poput te mnogo više!
Volim svoj PISANJE I je vrlo koristan to mene i drugi s Pokazala je to to hvala vam.
Keep it up: P
Hvala Adriana!
ste tako dobrodošli! lol ja bi trebao hvala vam! za pisanje ovaj i svi ostali bio sam pročitati sve ali to će me odvesti negdje lol ali ja ću ga pročitati.
Stvarno se nadam vam ne smeta da se ja trebao na druge ljude. su mislili da im mogu pomoći previše.
HVALA Opet!
Haha, više ljudi vam reći više mi pomaže! hvala
pomažući vam pomaže? taj vrlo svjež i lijepo od vas da mislite tako.
ovo je moj prvi post tha tI Pročitao sam i sam zakačen aready. Te činiti se to znati mir koji svatko žudi za.
Hi King mozga,
Awesome ime! I hvala za pohvale! Mir je nešto što smo svi jako žele, i dok ne radim 24 / 7 ali - Mislim da je dobra stvar kao i da mogu dijeliti sve male stvari mogu naučiti na putu na blogu.
Hi there Albert,
Dovoljno je naišao na vaše web stranice. To je odlično. Ive 'bio proučavanje i učenje svijesti i širenje svijesti da tvoj blog je doista rasvijetliti.
Pitanja koja slijede su ono što Ja sam osobno kao što sam borio sa svijesti praksi. Svjesni mi je pomogao da shvati da je sve jednostavno. Međutim, za navigaciju kroz život, ponekad stvari su se dati značenje (tj. filter, percepcija), ideja je da bude svjestan ako je ego reagira ili naše svjesne svijesti dajući mu smisao i značenje, ako služi dobro.
Dakle moje pitanje je
Da li je moguće percipirati život bez filtera? Ako jest, onda je moguće da se egoless a ipak u mogućnosti to ploviti život temelji se na intuiciji sam?
Tvoj primjer o ne-ega misao prošlosti pijan-vožnje promice li sada voziti responsibily. Nije li to zapravo dio ega ... filter koji ste vidjeli i pijenje vožnje kao opasne, a jedina razlika je da je to pozitivno značenje?
U stvari, ako sam učiti od ovaj post tako sam naučiti svijesti, egoless ljubavi ... onda kad temu ljubavi dolazi - ja ću govoriti crtež iz mog iskustva i znanja od onoga što sam naučio u ovaj post i isto tako iz mog vlastitog prakse. Nije li to filter iz koje govorim? Strogo govoreći nije to isto ega iako postive neki?
Ako ste pitali da se govori na temu - kažu vjerski ekstremizam i načina da se prevladaju ... ne morate da odete u tvari iz percepcije o svijetu, ljudima, životu i drugim ljudima i vlastite prošlosti iskustva? Kako da onda odnose sa bitak egoless?
Imam ovaj mislio da je većina Masters ili 'prosvijetlio one' su one koji su postigli stanje egoless, ali se mogu kretati i izvan države egoless ega i kako oni žive kroz život na zemlji. Što da li vi misliti?
PS: Stvarno se nadam da ja ne naići kao pokroviteljski i neotesana sa svim pitanjima, kao da je nešto što sam bio mučili za neko vrijeme sada.
Hi & D,
Hmm ... Prije svega, nisam prosvijetljen pa ne mogu odgovoriti s više od druge ruke znanje, što bi mogao biti pogrešan (zbog moje pogrešne interpretacije, možda).
1) Od ono što sam čuo, da. Ali to ne znači da djeluju kroz intuiciju. Ne mogu objasniti ovo, kao što sam ja u potpunosti ne razumiju što ja osobno, ali egolessness ne znači da ništa ne znate, ili nemaju sjećanja ili ništa. Vi još uvijek imate sve stvari.
2) To je bio ne iz perspektive prosvjetljenja. Nisam je pisao iz te perspektive. Bio sam više iz perspektive zaustavljanja patnje. Nisam više pisati na vrijeme u tom smislu, kako opet ja nemam iskustva iz prve ruke.
3) Egoless ljubavi i vjeri - ako govore, onda naravno da ste crtež od onog što ste pročitali. Ali ja je dobio ništa za napraviti sa znanjem ili memorije, koliko ja znam.
Ono što morate shvatiti je da gubi ego je upravo to, ne gubite svoj memoriju ili zaboraviti ono što se dogodilo jučer, itd, itd. ega je samo koncept smo izabrali da vjeruju, kao što je novac.
Nadam se da pomaže. Mislim da ste zbunjujuće pamćenje i znanje sa ego. Oni su vrlo različite stvari.
Hi Albert. Hvala za brz odgovor. Nisam konfuzno pamćenje i znanje sa ego. Pamćenje i znanje su zadržane kao dio nas, ali ego je percepcija i filtere formirana na temelju sjećanja, iskustva i znanja. Moje pitanje je da smo svjesni postojanja ega, nikada ne možemo biti bez njega zar ne? za sve života temelji se na filtre i spoznaja. ni nemaju bilo koji filtar je filtar sama ... kao što ne čineći odluka same odluke.
Uzmi za primjer žene koja je iz dobrote - ona mora imati ili filtar percepcije ili vjerovanja prema životu koji joj uzrokuje do vrijednosti dobrote i suosjećanja. To znači da ona ne hoda svoj život kroz filter ali onaj koji uzrokuje da bude vrste. ali ti nazvao ju radnje kao ne-ega. JA pravedan imati problema razumijevanje da.
Sam mogao biti u krivu, ali IMHO sve radnje i misli da se ljubaznost, suosjećanje, mir, harmoniju ili nasilje, ljutnja, mržnja i sl. nisu napravljeni od filtera i percepcije i uvjerenja svakog pojedinca. To je samo pitanje da li su one radnje reagirali iz filtera, bez svijesti ili ne usmjeravamo svijest na različite percepcije.
Primjer - većina budističke posjeduje određene spoznaje o sažaljenje odnosno filtera život kroz vjeru da sva živa bića zaslužuju jednako poštovanje sreće i tako oni žive sa suosjećanja i dobrote čak i svojim neprijateljima. razlike su se kroz meditaciju i razmišljanje su više svjesni svojih reakcija ega nego što većina ljudi tako da su u stanju usmjeriti svoje osjećaje na nove filtre.
mir.
Hmm ... ovo je nešto što nije 'dobiti bilo. Ali to je zato što smo zapeli u dualističko razmišljanje - tj. ako postoji dobra, tamo mora biti loše. Dug kao JA znati, bez ega, radnje koje izlaze izgleda dobro i naturi na dualističko umu, ali zapravo nije motiviran ljubaznosti i dobrote. Kenton Whitman opisuje to bolje u svojoj dužnosti. Idi na kentonwhitman.com i potražite post kršćanski Sites pitanja Buddha (u stvari, sve njegove postove fantastični, ali da odgovor na vaše pitanje).
puno hvala Albert. Hoće li pogledati kroz stranice. Sam čitajući Eckhart Tolle's book ... puno stvari o ego i ja polako probavlja informacije.
Radovati se dijeljenje više od vas
Albert:
To je apsolutno fascinantan članak, jedan od mnogih sam čitati vaš blog. Pročitala sam cijeli članak u jednom sjedi. To govori koliko vremena imam na rukama danas.
Ne samo da je bio izuzetno dobro napisana, ali doista mi je dala priliku da se osjećaj za ono što moj ego je sve o tome. Vrijednost i moć misli ostavljajući klizanje kroz moje svijesti i izvan vrata. Ideja o tome kako je sve jednostavno. Sam pogled na svjetiljku i vidjeti ga kao što je to.
Fascinantan, fascinantan komad. Voljen Internet.
Jedan prijedlog za vas. Budući da je ovo WP platformu, te moć ištanje to uzeti u obzir da za svaki link na koji ste osigurati, čine ga pop-up u drugi prozor, kada korisnik klikne na nju. Zašto? Budući da čitatelj neće izgubiti svoje mjesto gdje je stao provjeriti vezu, pogotovo ako je članak je vrlo duga i / ili postoji mnogo veze. Samo hrane za misli.
Ima puno ljudi za i protiv te ideje. Ja, za jedno, od njega dosljedno naviku da pomogne moje čitatelje ne izgubi mjesto prilikom provjere na link.
Opet, veliki članak. Vraćam se na početak da ga posrnuti za vas. To je koliko sam je volio.
Stephen Hej, Hvala za visoke pohvale čovjek! Wow, hehe. Ja sam crvenjenje sada. JA stvarno poštovati Internet.
Re: novi prozor vs istom prozoru stvar, znam što misliš, ali ja se tako ojađen našto nešto kao da se događa da sam oklijevati ...
Ovaj post velik. Njegov informativan i stvarno mislio-izazivanja. Ja posebno kao što je tvoj "vizualan dojam." To svibanj smisla za stvaranje niza ego postove vezane, jer neki ljudi svibanj pronaći duljinu ovaj neki malo obeshrabljujući. Držite se prekrasni odrazi. Njegova podiže podijeliti naučene lekcije na načine koji informacije ponuđene. Čitatelji mogu birati da se u ono što žele.
Heh hvala Liara, volim što ste ovdje, a vi ste trošenje toliko vremena ovdje, ja cijenim to puno!
Pozdrav Albert,
Kao što ste sigurno primjetili su, ovaj put na svoje stranice ja sam uzimajući malo više vremena da čitaju i pročitajte više o tome što imate zajedničko.
Ovdje je ovaj post o ego ja opet iskustvo iz sebe i iz mnogih komentara ono što ja mogu opisati jedino kao više-ličnosti-poremećaj tipa odnosu na ovu "stvar" zovemo ego.
Što je ego? Što je to zapravo? Ima li IT možemo nazvati ega?
Da li je ego posve lingvističke pronevjeru? Engleski riječ "ega" dolazi izravno iz ega latinske riječi koja u prijevodu znači riječ "ja".
To je nešto što i ja raspravljali su na neki duljina preko na post na http://www.urbanmonk.net/70/ho.....ss-part-1/
Što je to "Ja" mi smo tako bojati i messed okolo po? A tko je to dobivanje zabrljati okolo ovim ego, ovaj "ja"? Kao što je Alan Watts je jednom rekao: "Tko je taj koji zna da nema ego?" - U odnosu na nekoga tko misli da su sada izvan njihove ego ili je dobio osloboditi od njega.
Da li mi snagu djetetu da prevlada i rješavati svoje djetinje prirode? Ok, da neki ljudi, ali u pravilu to nije nešto što bih preporučio razvojni psiholog, niti što je bilo koji istinski voli roditelj će učiniti. Za sada ovaj čovjek je "dijete". Ona neće uvijek biti tako, ali za sada je to kako je to. Ipak, ovaj dragi dijete ne zrele strane squashing i uzimajući osloboditi od djeteta-prirode. No, u moje promatranje, to dijete-priroda se razvija i razvija tijekom vremena, a kako se počinje inkorporirati sve više i više od onoga što se odraslih ljudskih znači u njezinoj konkretnom društvu ona sazrijeva na taj isto (ili neke varijacije od toga). Dijete u njoj ne bi spljoštene, a ona sadrži pretežnoj (društveno-ljudske) stvarnosti oko njega i sazrijeva. Tako previše sjemena nije prevladati klice, niti klice prevladati zaperak, niti klice prevladati sadnica, i tako dalje. Sjeme se jednostavno ugrađuje u svoju bude veća / puniji izraz potencijal predstavlja sve dok ga konačno i ona ispuni svrhu kao stablo sjeme nosi ili sto vec ne.
Je li to ego, to "Ja" u nama ne i sjeme? Nije isto kao i dijete?
Da, dijete mora biti vođena i usmjerena tako da se može razviti na takav način da se može nositi s dan-to-day stvarnosti svijeta u kojem je rođen. To je da se javi da ne prelaze cestu kad su automobili utrke strane, i tako dalje. Je li to ego u čovjeku se ne sviđa ovo dijete?
Ja sam primijetio što se događa s ljudima koji su bili demonizirani kao djeca, u tome su bili prisiljeni da ne bude djece i "učinio" da odraste. Moje opažanje je da su ljudi na taj način podigli su duboko traumatizirana iznutra i imaju vrlo izazovna vremena Pomiriti se sa sobom. Mogao bih nastaviti, ali ja ne mislim da je to potrebno. Siguran sam da znate ljudi u ovoj situaciji, možda ste odgajani na taj način, ili netko koga poznajete?
Ja sumnjate isto vrijedi i za ego koji je odbijen i izgnječen i "stečen osloboditi od". Ovaj aspekt ljudskog jastva će reafirmirati svoju utjecaj. Ne zato što je uporna malo govno, nego zato što je urođeni aspekt onoga što znači biti čovjek. Baš kao dijete rano u našem životu je urođena dio ljudskih bića - i mnogi ljudi kao odrasli sada pokušati ponovo zapaliti osjećaj ljubavi i odnos sa svojim "unutarnjem djetetu", upravo zato što je izgnječen od njih ne dopuštajući da se vid njihove psihe da rastete u svoj prirodni način.
Vidim da ste sugerirali da Loreena "budite oprezni demoniziraju ega", ali te isto tako idu na to reći "to je normalno za ego da se žele vratiti". Ipak, to podrazumijeva ego je nešto što se riješiti, a da je to nešto što će sama pokušati reafirmirati. Opet smo natrag na prijedlog da ovdje imamo posla s nekim oblikom poremećaja višestruke ličnosti! Jedan dio mene želi da se ovo, drugi dio mene želi da i ovaj ovaj ega, i to me želi otići i napraviti takav i takav ... "Mislim da je moderni čovjek pati od ne njegov ego, ali možda od oblika shizofrenije . Što je s tobom?
JA stvarno uživati u vaše pisanje. Sviđa mi se što ste dionici toliko kao i vi, i ja Vam savjetujemo da i dalje osjeća dublje u ovaj "I" u roku od vas, i vidjeti gdje to vodi. I uzeti u obzir tko je taj "vi" uzima "tamo"! i gdje je to točno?
Dobrodošli na Mysterium Tremendum.
Jonathan Hej, hvala vam za detaljne komentar. Ja stvarno morala uzeti moje vrijeme za svariti ono što je imao reći. Vidim što misliš o počinju razmišljati o Ego kao višestruke ličnosti stvar.
Što sam bio težak to prenijeti taj ego je hrpa od uvjerenja da vidimo svijet. A ako se odlučimo da vidi svijet na određeni način, tada mi često radimo određene stvari koje smo kasnije mogli požaliti.
Cijeli ego koji žele da se vrati stvar je bila samo način da se kaže da smo toliko uložili u naš način viđenja svijeta, ili toliko uložio u stvari koje čine ego (posjeda, društveni položaj, itd,) da se ponekad odlučite djelovati na tako glup način.
Na primjer, recimo da sam bio dio kluba A. A mi svi mrze članovi kluba B, te su počeli mnogo borbe. Sljedeći put JA vidjeti njima, osjećam potrebu za početak borbe, ali ovaj put priznajem - hmm .. to je samo vjerovanje da sam bio uvjetovan da vidi svijet kroz. Ali ponekad mi se odlučite izaći i početi boriti bilo kako. To je sorta ono što mi je značilo kada kažem ja želi da se vrati.
JA stvarno poštovati vas dolaze i ukazujući tih stvari mi se, čini mi otkriti gdje sam ja nesvjesno sebe, ili su slabo pismeni.
Hi Albert,
Hvala za vaš rad i objašnjavanje što hows od Ego na takav način živo. Stvarno svidio Photoshop krugovima previše!
Ali ono što sam propustila u svom članku je moguće 'opasnosti' od Spiritual Journey ... žele da se otpusti Ego može biti vrlo opasno ako niste dobro izbalansirana dosta! A puno ljudi umorni od bitak pogodak i povrijeđena stvari događa da im u životu (ili ovjekovječio nauditi nastalu njegovim negativnim filteri) često želite mijenjati prema prianja na meditaciju ili druge oblike Tražeći sebe. No time napetosti između Ego & Self (još jedan ego-dvojnost manje svjesni neki, valjda) moć podići vrh razinama što može biti štetno za tijelo i / ili um.
Kada je previše pričao nešto ti uvijek spomenuti nešto o sebi, pa sam valjda sam pričati o sebi ... Na taj način ovdje mi ići: Bila sam umorna od sve te milijune misli bjesne kroz glavu, gotovo preuzeli kontrolu nad mene (mene, imbalanced osoba ), pa godinu i pol dana sam odlučila da se pridruži tečaj meditacije Vipassana (više informacija: http://www.dhamma.org) (to, da je meditacija je idući u pomoć mene dobije više Inner Peace) - imbalanced> <Meditacija, drugi dualnost ... Na ovom tečaju nešto probudio u meni koja je u isto vrijeme zastrašujuću i blaženi: To staviti moje tijelo u različitim položajima nanošenje duševne boli i fizičke, me osjećam vrlo nesigurno, zbunjeno. Osjećao sam se topline i hladnoće, ne mogu disati, u određenim trenucima imali trilijuna misli zamjene milijuni sam imao i prije, ali vrijeme unutarnjeg mira kao i ... Nemam vremena i prostora da ide u detalje, ali kasnije sam saznao da je to buđenje Kundalini u meni (rollercoaster vožnja na Occult). Mislim da je moja unutarnja snaga i neke dobre prijatelje sam mogao razgovarati sa mnom ide spasiti od banane, iako mislim da sam trenutno malo banane (ali to je u redu !)...
Znam da sam se malo nejasno ovdje, ali ako želite saznati više o ljudima koji su imali slično iskustvo kundalini predlažem prekrasan website: http://www.kundalini-teacher.com.
Bilo kako, JA pogodak JA pravedan ištanje to dodati na svoju prekrasno (teorijski) Opis malo individualnog iskustva i, za bilo tko čitanje ovaj, da provjerite da li su uzemljenu / uzemljeni dosta prije nego što počnete bilo koji metodičko Self progresiju.
Pozdraviti,
Cogito ergo Dim Sum
Hej Dim Sum, Ljubav to ime, on mi je dao dobar cerekati!
To je vrlo zanimljivo, samo sam čuo Kundalini jednom prije, ali nikada ga istražiti. I hvala vam za perspektivu, nikada nisam mislio da stvari poput ove moze biti bolno ... hmm. Ne znam što da kaže, ali srdačno hvala!
Albert, hvala za tako insightful članak!
Ja ga tiskani i uzeo stranice sa mnom za moj odmor. Pročitala sam vaš članak sjedi u sunčanoj plaži i to je bio nevjerojatno iskustvo. Osjećao sam veliki osjećaj pomnost dok čitate - zapravo sam osjećao kao da sam odvojena od moj ego za par trenutaka - nevjerojatan osjećaj!
Hey Luciano! Wow that is one heck of a compliment, thank you so much! And your experience, another wow.
Thanks for this insightful article Albert. This is the second time I read it. The ego can be quite a sophisticated artist.
You have mentioned thoughts and feelings made negative my the mind and ego. I 'm curious about your experience with the other side of that coin. The thoughts and feelings of love that float by.
I have found myself using a magnifying glass over these to fill my consciousness with them. Works great at first quite an exhilirating and blissfull experience until the ego sets in and wants to grab, renew and hold on to these experiences. Then they either vanish or turn into a longing or an intense burning desire that could easilly drive one insane. Have you had experience with these? I'd love to read more about it.
Hey Isabelle – that is a fantastic question! The Buddha said that the root of our suffering is attachment. And that applies to the “good” too.
You've already experienced it with the internal states. Many meditation teachers state that you shouldn't cling to happy thoughts and emotions too. Enjoy it while it is there, but let it go when they go. I've also found that the more you let go of happy thoughts and emotions, sometimes – just sometimes – they get even stronger. But again the temptation is to hold on to them.
On the external level, attachment to the good things can be seen in the heartbreak and drama when a relationship breaks up, when we lose our job, someone steals our car, etc. Not to say we shouldn't be upset at all, but the stronger the attachment the more we get upset.
And again, when we realise that at some point all these things will have to disappear, strangely we enjoy them even more while it lasts.
Hey!
Great article, I'm going through some odd times in my life in achieving peace and enlightenment and my God, you have done a very well job in clearing things up with, I thought ego was just a small thing like showing off or like being boastful. But wow. Hvala Vam. You have made me a subscriber to your stuff
Much love and appreciation.
Hey there Basim, glad you liked it. Check out The Book by Alan Watts, and some of the works by Eckhart Tolle if you want more information. Science of Enlightenment is a good one too, but it is hard to find. Thanks for subscribing
i must say that getting rid of the ego is one of the hardest things that human being can do because ultimately when you rid yourself from your ego nothing in life would be so hard, ya know?
i cant wait to get rid of this damn ego sometimes mine runs so freely and when i do take notice i get so frustrated! but ur blog did really help and i appreciate thetime you took to wright this, keep up the great work
god bless!
Thank you Dora, encouragement like yours really puts a smile on my face
Great post. This is what I needed to see that I can keep going. Hopefully you have more.
Thank you Jeff, good to hear that it helped.
WOW!
this is great! it reads great and is very understandable, at the same time being so true.
looking forward to reading more articles from you!
Thank you Jeff, poke around the archives some more, maybe you'll find something else to your liking
This reminds me very much of Robert Anton Wilson's “reality tunnel” lectures
Thank you for that! I'll have to check him out. This is based on the teachings of Alan Watts, Eckhart Tolle, J. Krishnamurti, with a bit of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy thrown in. (I heard Tolle was inspired by Krishnamurti though).
I'd recommend reading Robert Anton Wilson's most popular book, Prometheus Rising.
His Reality Tunnel writings (well, 'Reality Tunnels' were actually penned by Timothy Leary and popularised by Wilson) are basically about how we all have our own 'tunnel' through which we view life, with our own filters based upon our beliefs and disbeliefs (both about ourselves and others). It kind of branches out into more further-reaching territory but I think the idea is along the same lines. The combination of that and your article kind of allowed what the idea of the 'ego' is to click into place for me
Glad I helped, I'll put that book on my list when I next stop by the bookshop then
Great clarity Albert.
The one of few thing that differetiate humans from animals is the
abillity to OBSERVE ower own ego and behaviour, then to
make DECISIONS.
To observe I mean to be conscious of…
That is a great gift to us Albert.
It is sad there are some people that live their entire lives without
this knowledge and never using these previlages.
You do realize that The Observer/Consciousness is a Lesson Loop?
The living organism (human) theaching itself to BE.
The Universe is Conscious of Itself Through US.
(We are the creations of the universe)
*It's my theory so judge me
So being Aware or Conscious of something, especially to owerself is the GREATEST power we humans have.
I am very greatfull to be a conscious specie of evolution.
(And its only the begining of it)
*Consciousness = Momenterily closing a LOOP
{I was close} )
(Don't think about it to hard you'll might go insane
Thanks Albert for adding to my Quest for Self-Control.
Hey ilya – you know I've been expanding my knowledge of the ego and your comment has really contributed tremendously. Thank you for the kind words.
Here's a little bit of a twist – what if the split between awareness and ego is imaginary? That there is no one watching? I think this split, watching the ego, is just the first step. What if we realise that the thoughts that go through our head is just the thought, and that is all there is (ie no watcher?)
You may be right albert.
Maybe there is no watcher, maybe there is no consciousness.
Maybe its all concepts in ower minds?
But the important thing is HOW can I use this “abillity” to my advantage and accelerate the growth and control over my own mind
in the FASTEST and EASIEST way possible.
This is the first steps to change and growth, is:
AWARENESS and SEPERATION.
(Emotional Mastery, EGO Removal)
It all talks about DISSOLVING unwanted Emotions and Character.
)
(I'm almost clean
I neen the “Tools” to BUILD one easilly and fast.
Can you help me Albert?
I guess I'ma bit confused and I'm not necessarily trying to knock down your ideas Albert. I don't understand why ego is such a bad thing. For instance all though you may not believe my opinion…I think that you are doing a great thing by sharing your knowledge and experiences, but you are doing it because it makes you feel good to know that you are helping people…thus you are getting something out of it. And heck I'm not saying that's a bad thing at all.
Also I feel like after reading this article that the goal you have in mind is something that I don't fully understand. I mean isn't the goal of your ideas to be happy? My impression of the article is that the end result is to be happy, but it almost seems as if it's a mindless, procedural, robotic type mind state. Plus it's just really hard for me personally to imagine living egolessly. If anything I would see my goal regarding my ego to eliminate the parts of it that make me unhappy…with things like social anxiety, basing who I am on how much money I make, etc.
I also don't quite understand what the core really is, I envision it as my physical body and nothing else. It seems that what defines me is my thoughts, feelings, and my life experiences. I guess I don't understand what you mean by the core? From the article it seems like an empty word, basically you take away everything you have or do know and that is the core. From the day you are born you are experiencing things and it shapes and molds your being, whether it is good or bad. Here I do agree with the mental filters that develop. But what is a person without their mental filters. How do you decide to act on a thought without mental filtering or basing your act on experience?
I'm not writing all this to defy what you have written only to understand what you are saying more fully.
Bok,
Brilliant! You cuaght & taught me from the first paragraph.
What an exciting journey I'm about to take.
Hvala vam
Sue
@ Ilya: Hehe all I got is in this blog, have a poke around. I think you might find the emotional series and the love series the most relevant – check the “start here” page for more on those series.
@ John: Fantastic questions – and no there is no offense seen or taken at all! There's nothing wrong with the ego – it's not necessarily evil or anything. Just that belief in the illusion of the ego – for the ego never really existed – is very often painful. Eg There is nothing wrong with being in a club or proud of your car or house or whatever, but when we get attached to it – that's when we start boasting, comparing, fighting over relatively nothing. It is actions like these that I'm trying to highlight.
Pleasure gained from such egoic activities tend to be short-lived, and often have opposites. I gain pleasure from achieving something, or sex, or whatever, but it's never permanent. And what if I lose my sex partner, or my accomplishment is overshadowed by my rival? Boom – no more pleasure. On the other hand, if you simply enjoy your achievements or pleasure without the ego, it is different.
I didn't describe the core because it is essentially undescribable. Different traditions call it different things – the Tao, Consciousness, Awareness, oneness, etc, etc. So covering that is something 1) I am not qualified as I haven't experienced it directly 2) will take 10 posts or more
. For now, just something to muddle your mind. What if there is no core. What if there is no one having those thoughts? What if those filters belong to no one? Have a think about that 
Blogs that cover the “core” include kentonwhitman.com and takuin.com.
Thanks for the stimulating comment.
@ Sue: Thank you! That's high praise
Funny thing is, im reading the last book of eckhart's The New Earth and half way there but not quite fully understand all the meanings, however by googling it, i found this page and you really expand few meanings into visual (circle object and filters) which made things more clear to me. Hvala Vam.
Frank
My 50 cent for what i think about “The Core”: is indiscussable only you are the only person can feel it.
Hi Frank! Thanks for the compliment
I agree with the Core – it's indescribable, beyond the duality of language, I've read. Again, I've been recommending http://www.kentonwhitman.com for stuff like this – he knows what he's talking about.
Hi Albert,
Thank you for an absolutely riveting post. I loved your husband and wife analogy which helped explain much in a very concise way. At the end of your post I found what I did not realize I was looking for.
Last year I moved back to London from USA. I left my family (wife & daughter) with all money, property and possessions, save $25 for the train journey from London Airport and a bag of clothes. I had identified with my success and the money that came with that for too long. As a result I had become spiritually bankrupt. For the last year I have lived on less than 5% of my previous income (so just enough to cover my food and lodging but no more). I have eshewed work, instead spending the time trying to regain some of the spiritual self I know was once a part of me.
I did this on instinct, and so I thank you for explaining that all I have done is to remove part of my ego, and that I am not (as some have said) insane. I do know that I am today a much happier person and certainly more at peace with myself and the world at large. I also know that I will be returning to some form of work and be able to appreciate and enjoy my family and myself more.
Hvala vam
Zahod
PS although I dwelt on the last paragraph of your post I found it all absolutely fascinating and could not put it down.
Hey John – thank you for sharing! Be careful that you are not replacing part of your ego with something else ie “I am more spiritual than you are”.
Thank you again for the comment.
Hi Albert, nice post u did here…really helped me out in balancing myself in life…had some serious problems dealing with ego…But after reading your post i was clearer in understanding ego.Thank you for this great post…
And a small doubt i would like to ask also…regarding your reply to Mr Tuan…the one below here…
Albert
Hi Tuan, slažem se s tobom. Ja zapravo mislim da postoje dvije staze na ovu:
1) zamijeniti sve dijelove negativnog ega s pozitivnim
2) uklonite ega ukupno i oslanjaju na intuiciju
I'm ostavljajući izbora do čitatelja, a ja sam izradio postove pojedinostima oba staze spremna biti objavljena nakon Aristotela serija je gotova.
Hvala na posjeti!
My question…
2)u said “remove the ego altogether and rely on intuition” which means we try to not become attached to whatever we identified ourselves with is it Albert?or how do we do this actually?
Hello my friend! Hvala vam za komentar. You know the strange thing about my reply to Tuan was that my understanding of the ego has changed since then. Nowadays it leans more towards the non-dualistic understandings or Zen-type stuff – such as the teachings of Alan Watts and so on. I think the best blogs to read for the answer to your question would be: Kenton at http://www.kentonwhitman.com , and Takuin at http://www.takuin.com .
Hope that helps
Hie Mr. Albert, thank you for such a quick reply…appreciate it lots…;) thanks for the links to the awesome websites too…i am eager to find more information about the non-dualistic understandings…thank you for sharing the info…keep up the good work friend…i guess it helps many of us, really…
Hi Albert,
I know its not just me that is suffering but i feel that it really is only me that is suffering the way i am suffering… I understand the ego and all but i dont seem to understand why I am able to ignore thoughts so easily sometimes and sometimes they come back and never want to leave. Or why I can ignore thoughts and anxiety comes out of no where… WHat bugs me the most and pisses me off the most is the random anxieties i get, it started with anxieties then to random heating up all over my head and sweating (feeling like steam is coming out of your head), then i started getting prickly feelings all over my skin as if a million needles are poking me everywhere, and recently now iv been getting severe head aches. So in 2 years i have managed to get all those symptoms from one thought which then became 2 thoughts then 3 thoughts then a hundred thoughts. The killer question for me is I keep asking WHY WHY WHY. I dont want to know WHY but yet they pop in my head and since they popped in my head I feel like there is a reason they popped in my head. I used to be very spiritual all my life and it got me very far in life never thought negative thoughts did what i wanted to do and was who i wanted to be, but now my mind keeps saying why do you believe, why are u straight and why are there gay people, why are there killers, why this or that but those are the ones that stick to me. I kept saying it was god doing this at first and its a test then i said its god punishing me, then I gave up i dont know what it is. i had a period of almost 2 months i was good then it came backk all over again and it kills me to say it but i am losing hope?? I dont believe doctors and their medications, cause they really dont care they give meds to everything. So tell me what you think?? What i dont understand also is why I get them in the most random times it kills me, Also I know that when im busy with other things it disapears but yet i say im tricking myself it should just disapear and not pop up. I think im completely done for in this life sometimes, i know im a fighter but this has been killing me making me try to prove who i am and why i am the way i am. I used to be proud of who i am now i try to prove everything and thoughts stay in my head in a loop 24/7. PLEASE HELP ME and let me know if you went through this or NOT. How do i rid of this ego, how can i think positive and be myself without thinking and being self conciouse everytime i hear GOD or gay i want to be myself. I know my self, but yet these thoughts wont leave????
Hi Wees, I feel your pain. But as mentioned in my contact page, I am not qualified to give such advice. I'm very sorry, but perhaps a professional would be the best for you. This is not the type of thing someone can help with over the internet.
Hello Wees,
Please check out http://www.kundalini-teacher.com . From what you're saying, it seems like Kundalini has awakened in you because of (excessive) spiritual practice and you were not ready for it yet. You could compare it to a rocket engine connected to a small city car. If you can't master it, your car etc… But if you do know how to steer your new vehicle (and this is what you can learn), well, that's a wonderful thing! (Now let's not get this to go to your head… cuz that's ego on the go, oh no!) I guess I know what I'm talking about, because it happened to me about two years ago (I posted a comment here on dec 23, 2007) and it's still riding with me… but sometimes I can hold the wheel as well, which is nice! . Don't take it as a dogma, but check it out. It's important to understand the larger picture so you're not riding this mental & physical & spiritual rollercoaster without a safety belt.
Please understand that this Kundalini-website is not all about the truth either… it's a truth, but, in your… our case, (it might be) a helpful one.
Peace & good luck,
Cogito Ergo Dim Sum
Dear Albert,
I asked a question to the universe and the answer I got was your web site! I cannot thank you enough for you. I read your article on the ego. I understand about the thoughts passing through and all…….I have a question….if I may? If someone upsets you,do some thing right? I spoke to them of my feelings and a few comments made hurt the ego! Ok,if even after speaking your problem out to the person/s it continues…..does that mean i accept that that's how the person is?or do i change?it seems like We do so much for this person and don't get much acknowledgement yet this person does so much for other people that don't do as much? I know this is the ego talking……BUT WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE WHEN EVEN AFTER SORTING OUT THE PROBLEM IT STILL OCCURS PLUS YOU CAN'T AVOID THIS PERSON AS THEY ARE FAMILY? I am confused. i hope your not after all that! If you can,can you help suggest an answer? Hvala Vam.
Hey Jani, thank you for the kind words
You can't change another person, so the only thing you can do is to change your own reaction to it. Letting the thoughts past, and perhaps doing some emotional work (check the welcome page) will help on this end. After some work (days, weeks, or months, depending on what you are upset about), most verbal abuse probably won't bother you much anymore.
However, if the other person is hurting you, you do also need to take steps to ensure this doesn't happen again. How you handle this depends on what they have done. Perhaps you can speak to them again, with slightly firmer tones, decrease contact, refuse to give them what they want unless they respect you, etc. Naturally, physical abuse requires immediate and stronger action, but it doesn't sound like it from what you have written. The recent series on boundaries is a closer look at this – check the welcome page for it again
Nadam se da pomaže. This might not be the perfect answer, because it is just my opinion, but play with it, and see if it works for you.
hie Mr Albert,
just want to clarify a doubt that came to me, u wrote that all your writings are not about Enlightenment and Spirituality…but most of it sounds like its Spiritual…say for example this page u wrote on ego…is it not related to Spirituality at all?
Hi V! It's up to you how you want to interpret it
Hi Albert,
How are you? You are a busy man on this forum Alb,
anyways Its been awhile i havent been here, but yeah i checked out that Kenton Whitman website and been reading a bit, it has been interesting!
Appreciate your sharing, thanks again.
Frank
Message Reply from:
Albert
Hi Frank! Thanks for the compliment I agree with the Core – it's indescribable, beyond the duality of language, I've read. Again, I've been recommending http://www.kentonwhitman.com for stuff like this – he knows what he's talking about.
Apr 3rd, 2008
Hey Frank, glad you liked Kenton's site, I gained so much from what he writes about, and heartily recommend it to anyone and everyone.
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Hi Daryl, thank you for the compliment. Yes please do link to me, I am very grateful.
The part with “I am” is great. I have come to this realization differently but when I read it here it made me happy and put a smile on my face to know that others realized the “I am” as well. Thanks albert for posting this article.
Joel, thanks heaps. Would love to hear about how you came to your realisation, if you would like to share
Sure I'll share. Just like you said that the “I” inside of the body and mind controls both. The one that controls the body and the mind is the actual you. I came to this through a different point of view and that is simply just the basic fact that no human on earth has ever gotten to pick and choose their mind and body (size,color,….etc), or at least I don't ever recall doing that. Not your parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts or even the people you know. So how is something that you call “mine or me” really you to begin with if “you” never chose it? I know when the time comes when I have children, I as a parent will also have no say on what he or she will “be”. This has lead me to feel as if all people are as one, or the same, in the very essence of just being human. I find that just being here and living, regardless of class, color, size…etc, is truley the way to live since we had no choice to begin with. Thanks again albert.
Mate that is an amazing realisation. My understanding of the “I am” has evolved somewhat since the time I wrote this article, and you've put it wonderfully into words. Who does the body belong to? Who does the mind belong to? Something to be experienced, I think, not to be discussed intellectually, and it sounds like you've definitely experienced it. Thanks for sharing
much appreciated mate!
Another amazing post! I'm really impressed with your blog and will certainly become a regular reader.
Thank you Healthy Simplicity and KPSS!
To say that humans have fragile egos is indeed an understatement. I'm glad that you have made such a comprehensive post about such an undermentioned fact.
Ovaj je velik članak. You did an excellent job explaining. Keep up the awesome work.
The information you presented in this article correlates to a trail of events in my past that began subconsciously. Meaning, I didn't consciously put forth the effort to accomplish/ become/ reach my core – rather, my core just seemingly started fighting with my ego to rid the Self of it. I'm assuming because it was a subconscious effort that it took the length of time that it did – it began in 2003 and I wasn't consciously aware of what was happening until earlier this year (2008).
Approximately 5 years – it was substantially emotionally painful, which if I understand correctly, was the ego's pain because it needs control for survival and it didn't want to lose control.
I read this earlier on another site. “…it can be substantially painful … but everyone I know that has gone through it wouldn't trade it in.”
Have a great 22nd friend (=
Thanks a lot for that TA!
Albert,
Great post by the way. Seems very well organized and very easy to understand/read. I have a few questions off the bat:
1) What is the origin of the ego? Did we become infected with it? Did it develop somehow before we incarnated here on Earth? Was having the ego voluntary? Just curious if you had found any theories/writings on this.
2) Are you familiar with Ken Wilbur's works? If not, they may be something you may find interesting regarding Consciousness Evolution/Development.
Cheers,
Chad
Hey Chad! Hmm… the ego is not something we are infected with per se, it's more of a… false belief. According to Sailor Bob Adamson, the child is repeatedly drilled with the name “John”,”Mary”, etc. After a while, the child starts believing that it is restricted to this one name, and in doing so starts believing in separation and so on. The trick is not to try and figure out where it came from, since that is more thought, but just to see things as they are, without thought. This doesn't necessarily mean trying to stop thinking, just to see without believing your thoughts. Or something like that. That's my current understanding at least.
I've browsed through Ken Wilbur but never actually digested him. Just spent a few minutes skimming through it, he seems a bit too dry and scientific for my tastes (I get enough of that at uni, hehe).
This entire post was an amazing eye-opener. You have no idea how much it helped me with what I am going through at the moment.
Thank you.Thank you.Thank you!
I have also lost my business recently – and was so closely associated with it publicly that it became my persona – and it was so WRONG – because it was not really who i am – in fact I actually do not even know who I am anymore – but slowly taking steps to discover myself again. This post was just what I needed in this extremely confusing state I find myself in. Tomorrow is a new day.
Thank you and thank you again!
Charles, I'm really glad I made such a big difference. You're very welcome, and good luck with it all – I know you'll come out of it really well.
Do you think its normal to feel so confused – as you do not know who you are – and do you have methods to discover your true self quicker than just going from day to day – like an personal exercise or something? It feels like it takes for ever to get back on track.
First off, what exactly are you confused about? What's wrong with not knowing who you are? Why is it painful? Can't we live without knowing who/what the true self is?
Secondly, if you do want to know, you can try the famous Ramana Maharshi's “Who am I?” inquiry. This is something to be felt, experienced, not to be intellectualised about. Google him or perhaps get one or two of his books – this inquiry is pretty famous. Of course, this is getting into a whole new realm…
Albert,
How would you handle a situation with another 2 people in the room, you work full time with them 38hours week/ 5days. Task needed alot of mind energy, like organising, designing etc.. and also be present.
However, a person above you and the other worker is kind of a talker, a little bit insecured about himself and could get sensitive and start talking randomly while your in the thinking mode in your task to do but we cant help coz we have to listen or turn around to pay some attention to it or else it would be plain rude right… And im so out of it that i cant even look at him in the eyes now, coz it seems like their ego just loving it to produce more egoic energy around the room and same time, i felt very exhausted.
The other person now is a little in a natural side but has an ego and very attached to the emotions, fully get excited, upset and let it out when upsetting stuff happens and young adultish attitude – of a like. And also highly socialised.
So my point is, im stuck on these 2 different people, especially on their social role. I've reach in the moment that, tension is just getting higher sometimes. It would be easier if i only work with one of them so i can communicate with their real nature no matter who they are but i do get confused myself and actually struggle on the speaking, social side of it and i can never lie and never good at it, being in a different race isnt very helpful aswell. I also admit that i have my own insecurities and on the stage that i already isolate myself from friends, families and other. So after work, i go straight home and on weekend i just do my own individual thing.
Im not trying to label these guys however, its one of the easiest way i can describe my point. I sometimes just had tears in my eyes from frustration ad energy inside this room however being “The Watcher” of your emotions is kicking-off after i felt those tears. So there's suffering and there's Spiritual gained.
I know this is pretty open to the forum on how i describe this situation however i just need a little advice from you.
Thank you Albert
Im happy to pay you back even just a little gift of appreciation. However please dont make yourself feel like you have to answer. I live in Australia and if you know any connection around here would be helpful too.
Hey Frank – Thanks for asking me such a question, it is really quite a compliment. However, I'm not in the best position to answer stuff like this, the only thing I can give is my opinion, which might not be the best. However, let me have a shot at it:
There are a few series that might be applicable to the situation (all of them can be found in the “start here” page). First of all, is the emotional meditation. Try to do some letting go of the emotions that you feel in such a situation. That alone might free you up to react in a way that is healthy to all involved. Next, you can have a look at the boundaries series to see if there are any ideas in there that might apply to you.
I can't give a definite rule – “this is how you react to such and such.” But while it can be hard, imagine yourself loving all involved unconditionally no matter what they are doing. What would you do in such a situation? Remember I said all involved – this includes yourself, naturally. You also have needs and wants that need to be respected, you also have to be protected and treated well, just like everyone else.
Note that truly loving them might take a while, especially if a lot of emotions are being involved. So just keep doing some emotional work and being watchful and slowly you'll get there. It won't happen overnight but it will.
Just some random thoughts. Hope they helped. No gift required, I'm just typing some words into a screen
Hi Alb,
Thank you for your opinion on that complex question of mine. I didnt expect anything from anyone at all however a little note of yours is hard enough to crack some parts open “All involved unconditionally”, energy of these words is undescribable in my perspective. Thank you Alb, maybe i shouldnt be thanking you too early just incase i got another extra one to ask.
jks, this is the only one. 
and yes, i shall keep going.
I also found an Eckhart Tolle's Club around my area. I might have to give that a shot. Funny thing is though, after work, i usually passed this place in traffic and always wonder what that place was coz its always attracts me everytime i passed by and i always try not to look at it coz i felt weird and with all different kind of people gathered just outside the gate. I never knew what it was until i was surfing the net for spiritual community just after i wrote that message to you.
Appreciate your support Albs and talk to you soon. Hope is well in your side too.
I appreciate the post. From my point of view, the writing style is good and continuous and content thought provoking.
No problem FL and Frank
well done mate.
I m in buddhism for a while now, and i must say that your post is great. It s interesting that Buddha discovered all this over 4500years ago…and still…look at the world and people now days.
im hoping one day, we ll all look on people as one, and stop this pain, this illusion;and go from “i want” to “just be”.
love to all
again, well done
Thank you Awsy!
Awesome post!
I'd recently heard about the ego perspective and wanted to learn more. This was the first thing I clicked on.
I found it very easy to read and extremely insightful.
Hvala!
Thank you David.
This is the most constuctive writing I have ever come across, I'm not sure how to put into words how valuable this is to me. All these different self-help people and philosophy's all point to losing the ego, and now finally, a plain and simple, and most importantly a do-able explanation and method. I feel blessed. God bless you sir. TYVM
I feel as if now I have a real chance to shed this thick heavy coat (layer by thin layer) I have acumulated and worn my whole life. Let me tell you again, God bless you.
Thank you so much Mark, I'm grateful for your kind words.
Albert……man i discovered a blotch……what appears to be a big one,maybe they all will seem big, but i am amazed to find out how i was in denial of it being there,how at the speed of light i came to its defense, how at the speed of light,strong ,very strong emotion was attached to it and how it was always causing me to get in arguments with my wife about it,and i had a dream that i feel i was a able to breifly experience the core for which i can not find any words to describe……it was an entirely new feeling ……and i really can't find any words to describe it properly…even these baby steps are amazing……man what a trip!!!
Awesome to hear Mark
And oh yeah it all started with a single thought………………crazee…lol
Hi Albert, I read the love and aloneness one, it ofcourse makes perfect sense, seems all of the times i find myself getting “out of shape” it is due to ego, pride, vanity. It was really nice to see it's OK to want to be alone. I find myself wanting that more and more as I have aged,and others (wife and kids and relatives) label me as somethings wrong with me, and half the time I've been believing them. It just seems to be easier to be at peace with myself when I,m alone,but I have quite a ways to go to in that area. Anyway the more I am discovering just how many things I (ego) am attached to and just how strongly I am attached to them, it feels overwhelming. I seem to be attached to everything,materials,image,ideas,etc. And the strength of attachment seems overwhelming,like I'll die or diappear without these things, it's scarey, more like terrifying when I am able to be honest and feel the true attachment. The true feelings come to me in dreams at this point. I seem to be in denial in the waking world of how strong the feelings are. Boy one thing I have found is it seems impossible to find anyone to discuss, try to understand this with me. And that leaves me not sure if I am understanding or getting these concepts correctly, myself. I have the desire but feel unsure at this point. Oh, what I would do to be able to have an hour of your time in person. Priceless at this point in my life. Yea I,m 53 not getting any younger, feel the need to understand and improve my existence. But like I was saying …..I feel like I have gotten a couple “good bites” of this ego thing now and it suddenly doesn't seem like a fun thing to deal with anymore. It would be more comfortable to just let things stay the way they are. If you could please let me know if I am on the right track or not, especially if I am not, and maybe give me some advice on how to proceed I will be extremely grateful………..I suddenly feel no so sure. TC
Hey Mark – first of all, don't get too caught up in the aloneness thing. As in, don't neglect what you have to do, or your family. I was writing it more as a way of giving yourself time to be introspective – but of course we should attend to our necessities too.
Secondly, don't worry about the ego too much. It's just a recognition of your thoughts and attachments, etc. If you are beating yourself up, isn't that just the ego again?
I would say, forget about the ego for now. Take a break, you're being overwhelmed, and I would say have some subtle misunderstandings of what I'm trying to say. Best thing to do, take a break, get refocused, reconnect with the people around you.
When you feel like restarting, take it in small, bite sized chunks. Don't beat yourself up over anything. Do the attachment and behavioural mastery series, but slowly, on one thing at a time. Something small and easy to manage.
The most important thing is to not get overwhelmed. Yes, sometimes this work can be uncomfortable, but if you are so upset, then ease up on the pressure and take things slow. Especially since I can't really judge what's going on over the internet. Slow and safe and steady is the only thing I would recommend. Mental and emotional health is paramount.
Nadam se da pomaže.
Thanks Albert, sounds like a good idea to me……..sincerely appreciate u taking the time to reply.
Although I can use a lot of flowery words to say … let my simplify by saying:
I am learning through your writings,
I am growing.
Hvala vam!
Andriette, thank you so much!
Albert,
I found your article after searching for a way to remove an ex-girlfriend from my thoughts. Have you identified the core as being the core of peace, love and joy. Is this a total coincidence with the fruits of the Holy Spirit, as believed by christians? “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22),
regards,
Reuben
Hey Reuben, yes I do believe the big Self is pure peace and happiness… I'm not sure about that quote though, I don't know much about Christian teachings.
The idea of the ego was brought up by Sigmund Freud. Fascinating how society has taken the idea and ran with it. The ego is completely intangible and invisible. How is attempting to explain it any different than trying to explain god? If your center is filled up from the time your born then you are born empty. Once you are enlightened you have only but one purpose, enlighten others. You can't go anywhere past the point of enlightment. So everyone's purpose is to be enlightened? We are all enlightened we are all at peace. I što sad? Everyone's enlightened we have no purpose. We enjoy life. A tree falls on one of us. Whatever, we are at peace. They had no purpose anyway. Is this reality? No this simply cannot be. It could be, but then it would be like the movie Equlibrium. The people in the society would be drugged to have no emotion and the government would remove anyone who was “feeling”. Seems like the opposite of our society. Anyone drugged and not “feeling” is removed. As Till Lindemann says “Loneliness sometimes gives me a quantity of creativeness – you're drinking another glass of wine and you're feeling even worse. Art doesn't work without pain; art also exists for compensating pain.” Deep down everyone is afraid of the unknown so they try to make it tangible and give it names like god and the ego. The only way to truly compensate the fear is knowledge. Whether it's knowing how to fix a car or perform surgery. People that perform heart transplants don't just blindly go in and start cutting stuff up, they have some sort of obtained knowledge. That in itself is proof that there is knowledge and it can be obtained. If they fail, then they must not despair they must learn where they went wrong. When they are successful people will flock to them for they have knowledge. Knowledge most certainly is power.
Hey Nick, thank you so much for that comment. There are two things I'd like to say: first of all, the reason why I removed and/or added disclaimers to my future series on ego (and don't write any more) is that there might be subtle misunderstandings on what it is, and that might have crept into my writings.
Secondly, the ego as we discussed here has been much misunderstood because of confusion with the ego of Freud. Freud's ego is part of the whole trinity together with the id and the superego, and is actually different from the spiritual concept of the ego. Then there's the whole pop-social view of it – “he's got one big ego!”, etc. It's a bit more complex than this of course, I have half written something on this, and will post it soon.
Thanks again for that brilliant comment and have a great New Year!
Hvala vam
You are very welcome!
Happy New Year Albert
Thanks Frank! Same to you!
Wow! What a great illustration of the ego and how it plays a part in our lives and others! It seems like pride is the foundation of the ego and directly correlates with how large or small the ego is. I'm really looking forward to reading more on this site!
http://charactergrowth.com/200.....p-disaster
This is not too long at all, it is such an interesting and well-written article I didn't even notice how long it was I just wanted to keep reading. I stumbled upon your site while looking for something totally different and I am was pleasantly surprised at the depth of your subject matter, I guess I was supposed to find it because everything I read was about things I have been questioning lately. I have bookmarked the site and will continue reading, this is my first time here so I have alot to read. I appreciate what this site addresses and will refer some of my friends to check it out. Keep doing what you do.
Thank you so much Adam and Dalila!
Hi Albert:
I was feeling my ego is going amok lately. I read in need to get an understanding of myself. I am a Buddhist Priest of 30 years experience. Thought you might appreciate that we too need guidance. Thanks for your cogent analogies to understanding how my thoughts work. I am supposed to know all of this, I think, but I find I don't. A work in progress…
Hey Brother James – I am really, really, impressed with your humility. I don't know what to say, but thank you so much for considering my opinions and theories too.
I never go anywhere without a copy of “The Power of Now” by Tolle – and although I understand the concept of being in the moment — your commentary has enabled me to see things in a way that empowers me to carry out my goals– you have capsulized a practical guide that I can actually use –which of course has shown me the way to keep my ego where it belongs —
I was so locked into my thoughts and the resulting emotional pain– I really had come to a point where I couldn't deal with it anymore– Your thoughts (excuse the expression) are the key that I needed as a practical guide for life — and I cannot thank you enough. 
Hey Lynne, thank you so much! I'm glad I managed to help
Albert,
Your article is simple and refreshing in comparison to much of self-help bunk that I have come across. I am in a life cycle downturn and struggling to find peace after the failure of a long term relationship. What you call filters I recognized as preconceptions, but was never effectively able to remove them from my psyche … let them go. Like you said, knowing better does not necessarily mean doing better. Here is to doing better! Živjeli
Hey David, cheers to you too
Hello David—I'm only finishing page three of your wonderful piece, but feel compelled to drop a line to thank you. What a meaningful, delightful and inspiring essay. It is bringing a soothing insight into my inner self—I can feel my chakras reacting.
As far as the criticism of it's length, how can so deep a subject be brought down to 50 woods or less. I find each paragraph moves me deeper & deeper into my psychic.
Thank you for these thought provoking insights—bringing more peaceful inner growth.
Lol, back to page 4—Peace.
Tom,
The author you want to thank is Albert. I'm just another poster searching for the core
David
Lol, thanks David— am addressing my note to Albert—
Thanks for the correction–
Peace–
Tehehehe, thank you guys
Peace to you both!
Morning Albert—
Early last evening I finished your essay on EGO. I must admit I did not sleep well last night. Your words and insight were with me throughout the night. Meditating on your piece, I felt my psyche going deeper and deeper into my inner self. Then I realized my chakras were reacting.
Sitting here, sending this message, I find myself stopping often, and realize I'm looking into space, relishing the wonderful feelings within, realizing I have reached a new plateau. A plateau of a greater appreciation of love—-a new “tool” to express love for my wife, children, friends—without cluttering those expressions up with ego.
Not expecting appreciation from others for saying, “I love you”, not trying to make points, even if it was unconsciously. Even trying to delete the “I” before, “love you”.
Now, time for me to move forward with these new realizations—to feel, and express love without conditions attached, with out ego—-to love for the sake of true love.
Thank you Albert–
Is there any like pieces in your archives ?
Peace—-
Tom, you really do have the heart of a poet. Hvala vam za šerif. My personal fave articles are in the sidebar under best of urban monk. Since you are focused on love, you might try The Blossoming of Love first.
Wow, impressive post and some nice poetic insight..
Thanks Timon!
Setian, because of your fake email and website and all the abuse in your comment, I deleted it. You raise a very common misconception, however, and I would love to address it. So if you want a proper response, please retry your comment minus the spitefulness and insults.
Hello Albert–
Regardless of what Setian has said, your essay on EGO is excellent and well taken.
To update my views–I found it excellent and after meditating upon this concept have begun to practice what an alteration of my EGO means.
In a sense I stepped back and “watched” my inner self, what I see, I like. Excluding EGO from my view of love, has given so much a deeper appreciation of what love is. The unconditional love,– love for the sake of love,– not seeking nor expecting any recognizing from giving unconditional love—if there is a reaction and reciprocity, that only increases my inner glow & joy—like watering a beautiful growing flower—which is my inner unconditional love for all.
I must add, this adjustment of EGO does not erase all EGO. We must have some controlled EGO in everyday life. EGO is important to our self protection, and yes, the GOOD ego/pride that gives us all the push to improve ourselves.
Thank you Albert for your many insightful essays and in your comments on the negative words that were posted by someone who needs a large dose of unconditional love.
Peace–
Tom, thanks so much for the words of support. I must admit I got quite annoyed when I clicked through to find a fake website – I just wasted time considering his words and typing a response only to find that he was just being rude. Being annoyed is not a good thing on a post that is about transcending the ego
Are you a writer of some kind? I really enjoy your words and your perspective. If you aren't, it would be a big waste
Thank you for all your comments.
Hey Albert-
I really appreciated your article. Your writing style is intriguing and maintained my interest throughout.
Also the fact that you take the time to respond to each comment is nice and exhibits the caring that you speak of- giving for the sake of giving with no expectation of praise or recognition.
I look forward to reading more of your posts
Thank you so much Oliver and Chris!
Hi Albert
Great article
I would need your permission to copy the articles
Hey Sum, thanks. What are you planning on using the article for?
You are so wellcome, thanks for the quick response.
I just wrote a blog all about EGO combine with javanesse spiritual tradition
in Indonesian language so have to translate it first. I realize people often don't like to read long post.
Hey Sum, that's fine then, if it's a personal blog, no problem. If you are planning to publish it or something then I would prefer not.
Thanks so much Albert
It's just personal blog in indonesian and javanese language.
” But they are merely about you. Ali oni nisu ti. They merely describe you, but somehow we have reduced ourselves to these descriptions”
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yes, but 'descriptions' are observations of behavior and I AM my actions, no? So they 'describe' my actions as viewed by others (assuming they are accurate across multiple sources) then they ARE ME, how I act, how I carry myself.
My hand picks up the water glass. My mouth drinks the water. The water enters my stomach.
So one can say “HE drank the water”
Of course this is only a 'description' (a map to the territory of doing) as a reduction of overwhelming (infinite) stimulus and attentional focus on particulars of concern expressed dictated by the usefulness of such a communication??????
How can I say that it is NOT me that is screaming at the guy in the car next to me? How can I say it isn't my MY hand that shoots the gun? The gun didn't shoot itself.
Language is limited and dualist, a fact of it's nature. Is there 'thought' without language? (pre-linguistic) or only 'being', are we not then reduced to mere id, does not ego or super-ego imply larger 'JUDGEMENTS' as realized by the mind?
8th Jhana is neither object nor subject, perception or non-perception, yet without perception, Is there an act, without action (heart beating, lungs breathing), doesn't life ceases.
Am I not bound by 'life' – 'existence' – 'being'?
Please don't think me snide or being a jerk, these are issues that are barrier to my meditations and buddhist practice.
These are my 'attachments'.
Isn't the essence of life 'entanglement' with the processes around me, thus I am 'attached' to the universe and it to me.
Ok, my being, soul, self is a non-localized event expanded to fill the void of the universe, yet there is a significant localized event within the wake of this moving form that seems endless to befuddle itself.
???????
Hi Fred, thank you so much for your comment. I think there are some basic misunderstandings but as discussed in my comments policy I really can't spare the time to get into a discussion that is too in-depth. I would recommend finding a good Buddhist teacher and discussing these concerns with them. Hvala opet!
Wow!
This is the answer to my life…
Lol
Absolute truth in the sentence.
You cannot choose to hurt yourself if you are fully consious. Basically meaning you cannot be depressed, angry, or maybe even sad. Zašto? You can observe your thought instead of acting upon them
Book maybe in the future? hehe joking
Thanks Albert
You're welcome WL
Great article and very informative, I have a question though.
You mentioned earlier that the ego keeps on asking for more no matter how much you feed it and becomes restless.
Isn't that considered as a positive thing as well?, because a healthy human being is always on the go looking for new things to improve it and discover stuff. If we loose that motive we get depressed and vice versa.
I think it's a negative thing. It's like a carrot dangled in front of us and we keep striving for it but we'll never be satisfied because we never reach that carrot. Wouldn't it be more fun to go on looking for new things but without the restlessness that comes from trying to reach a carrot we'll never get?
So what keeps the person motivated if its not the ego?
Ne znam. But I do know you can still go for things non-egoically.
(The spirit of youth)
A community maintains its liveliness through the spirit of the young and flourishes through it. When a community loses this spirit, it fades and withers away.
Izvor:
Towards the lost paradise
M.Fethullah Gülen
Awesome, I must say awesome! Well written, good illustrations, I love it man! Keep up the good stuff!
Thanks Cameron! I appreciate it
Hi Albert—-
I'ma Reiki 2, I just finished a Reiki session with a friend. The session was to be one hour, but extended on to an hour & half, it was fantastic. The receipent said she has has never had such a good session before—This is where my ego comes in—I felt very fattered, but if it had not been for your great piece on not letting ego obscure inner peace and unconditional love and my meditation upon this often— i'm affraid my ego would have raised it's head.
As it turned out, I accepted her reaction & her thanks in the simpleist manner–reveling in her great peace and the wonderful peace & satisfaction I feel in my inner self,— being able to bring healing and peace to another, with love in an unconditional manner, just for the sake of love for others.
Working hard at keeping ego at arms lenght, has brought me to a deeper understand of my true self — or maybe call it a higher pleateau.
Lol, just know it works—-
Thanks again Albert—Peace—
Tom
Tom, that is a really wonderful story. Thank you for sharing, it put a big smile on my face!
I know its not just me that is suffering but i feel that it really is only me that is suffering the way i am suffering… I understand the ego and all but i dont seem to understand why I am able to ignore thoughts so easily sometimes and sometimes they come back and never want to leave. Or why I can ignore thoughts and anxiety comes out of no where… WHat bugs me the most and pisses me off the most is the random anxieties i get, it started with anxieties then to random heating up all over my head and sweating (feeling like steam is coming out of your head), then i started getting prickly feelings all over my skin as if a million needles are poking me everywhere, and recently now iv been getting severe head aches.thanks
Hi mirc, can I suggest visiting a health professional (mental or medical). My material is in no way a replacement for the care provided by a professional.
This is the clearest explanation of the ego that I've ever read! It cleared up some longstanding questions for me. Hvala vam!
Jeremy, you're very welcome
I met with a nun yesterday and she spoke about the ego becoming stronger and uncontrolable as we listen to it and make choices by it… I was trying to get some advice to help my daughter deal with her jealousy toward her sister and the mean things she does and says to her… she knows her actions are not right, but she also says she is unable to control her actions and is not sure why she does things…
Your article was very informative… and I don't mind long… I would have read more… I do like your writing style.
Hvala
Cindy, thank you! I would recommend the companion article to this too, which is simply letting go of the underlying desires for any actions:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/332/t.....etting-go/
There is a considerable amount of truth this article.What if I wanted a house though, or a praise? Does the ego want everything though?
Thanks for the comment, it's a great question. In my opinion, not all wants are egoistic. For instance, if I see a child crying and I genuinely want to comfort him, that probably isn't an egoistic want. But we have to be aware, sometimes it is.
Maybe I want someone to see me do a kind deed, and think “oh he's so nice”. But if I want to comfort him for the sake of comforting him then it isn't. Ego is selfish, but non ego is an out-flow Hope that answers it.
i'd like to say…that this post (along with the general content of my life situation) has been a powerful stimulus for me to seek change within myself. looking back at it now, i can definitely see the inspiration you draw from eckhart tolle. he has been my most powerful teacher throughout this process…helping me to realize the being within myself that i had forgotten. so, thank you to both of you.
i'd like to comment also on the concept of 'removing the ego'. i can appreciate this perspective, but for myself, it has been much more a case of becoming the observer. my ego remains as the thinker (the tool of thought). it is present, but i don't take it all that seriously anymore. it is only a tool to be used when necessary. would you consider posting your thoughts on presence? this has been the real key for me.
thanks again for your inspiration.
Hi Darrell, thanks for that heartfelt comment. I'll definitely do some thinking on presence, although I've moved on from Tolle a long time ago and don't think I will have much to say… heh.
may i ask what you've moved onto?
Carl Jung mostly, who is the most “spiritual” of the prominent psychologists. A lot of other psychological stuff, mostly because I am advancing up my studies for psychology and I don't have time to explore 2 different (and sometimes contradicting) fields. But Jung is awesome I am very personally into him as well.
thanks for the reply.
might be something to look into.
simply lucid an clear..but for the losing of the blotches part.
excellent article. felt like a dissection of the mind.
One thing I read about Anger Management and Stress Management – Stress and Anger are supposed to be wiped out.. Why would someone want to keep it and MANAGE it..
Thanks Riaz! I have a feeling that trying to wipe out stress and anger might be interpreted the wrong way. People might feel it is 'wrong' to be stressed and angry if they think that way, which leads to repression and denial, actually making worse. I do believe anger and stress (and their root causes) can be processed out, but saying so is quite dangerous as many will misinterpret or misapply it in the way I just described. Što da li vi misliti?
Hvala Vam. This will change many lifes.
You're very welcome D3N, I appreciate that comment a lot.
Izvrstan post. I've been studying Buddhism and noticed a lot of similarities, but I haven't seen it explained this way. I think it was very helpful and gave me some more angles to look at the enormous process of actually putting this into practice.
Hi Tony, thank you very much for your kind words.
Absolutely stunning and fabulous writing. Must appreciate your very useful insights and especially the way you have explained the movement of thoughts using visuals.
I wish to make two points here:
1. The problem sometimes is that you don't know if the action you are taking to resolve a problem is a result of your logical mind or is it because of ego or is it a result of both. In such situation how do you act?
2. Agreed that we behave/act differently as a result of our thought/experiences but tough to know if we are necessarily changing for the better or for worse.
I will offer an example for my points:
Example for point 1. At times you give your best to let your love know what is hurting you but it doesn't change anything. You know there are problems but you tend to ignore them because you have committment and you have seen that things don't change. Eventually there is point where you decide to move on and you find someone else. At this point your old love comes back with all explainations and promises to change and be better. Your logical mind tells you that it is difficult for a person to change but your emotions somewhere still pull you back. You still decide to move on despite repeated requests from your old mate because you can't forget times when you were repeatedly hurt earlier. However, looked differently you were ready to accept the same person earlier with all her obvious problems. If at all anything now she may be better than earlier. So is your decision to move on a result of your ego or your maturity/foresight/logical mind?
Example for point 2. Continuing previous example, as you move on your behaviour with your new partner is different as you fear that if you get too involved and it doesn't work you will feel the pain. So you become much more moderate in expressing your love/feelings. Also your tolerance to take things that hurt you becomes less. Is it change for better or for worse? How to know the fine line between being balanced or being reactive to earlier experiences.
Hi AP, thanks for your comment and very thought provoking questions. It is very hard to answer these questions as it is very individual. The questions you raise are very complicated and can't really be answered via the internet. It involves a lot of thinking and work, and I am afraid I can't help you there. Have you thought about seeing a professional?
Thanks Albert. I understand such problems are quite individual and tough to answer. Haven't thought about seeing professional yet. Discussed with friends and family though
. It seems there is always an aspect to every alternative and hence noone has been able to give a clear cut answer. I guess at some stage it has to come from inside only. Would you like to reccomend something.
AP, if I may offer some thoughts on your example with Albert's blessings I hope, since i feel inspired to respond.
Pain or feeling hurt is always a result of ego/mind being involved. It is the result of resisting what is. Resisting the experience of the moment, wanting it to be other than it is so it fits with your thoughts on how things “should” be or should not be for you to be happy. If the moment is in accordance with what your thoughts and beliefs tell you of how things should be, then you are happy. If they are not then you are feeling hurt, unloved, lonely, sad or whatever.Not a powerfull place to be at.
True Happiness lies beyond thoughts. It is your deep nature, but you can only feel it when there is awareness and a distance between you and your thoughts.
When you really look into it, thoughts and beliefs are not real they are just thoughts. The only real thing about them are the power we give them by believing them and identifying with them and the emotions they arise within us, which our minds then interprets as good or as bad, as pleasant or as unpleasant.
It is all a conditioning we abide by. Most people start to find happiness by trying to change the external conditions they are in, a better work,a better girlfriend, a better house whatever… Then they realize that it does not work or if they do succeeded, they still are not happy. Or they may try to change their conditioning and replace it with a better one where they replace victimhood with self confidence, and that does help, but it still does not bring happiness. There are still sources of unhappiness arising from our interpretation of external conditions.
There is another approach where one learns to see thoughts for what they are, and one stops identifying with them, and resisting, and one starts seeing the mechanisms of the mind at work. A mind is a great thing to have.It is a wonderful tool to solve problems, but there is more to the moment than the interpretation of our thoughts tell us. Most people are enslaved by their mind and thoughts.
When mind and thoughts are met with awareness then Freedom and choices become available. Then our actions come from a place of truth and the right action or knowing just follows and just is.
Wishing you the best in your search for meeting yourself in all forms.
Isabelle
Isabelle, this is very kind and thoughtful of you. I have no words to thank you and Albert for this great help.
You are absolutely correct. We tend to paint a picture of the world or our future or any situation and till the time the things fall within the frame of our thoughts we are happy, any deviations make us unhappy. Rightly said that it is a never ending cycle of happiness and unhappiness that evolves from our dreams/desires being fulfilled or unfulfilled. However, i confess that even though i know these facts at a mental level but do not yet have the depth yet to follow them to core in the day to day life. To a certain level i am trying to control my mind by making a deliberate attempt to weed out undesirable thoughts but am still am nowhere close to attaining full control.
Can you please elaborate a bit more on 'Awareness' and how it will bring Freedom and choices when met with mind and thought. I guess i beleive in most of my decisions but somewhere in a this particular case i tend to lose my confidence in the middle of the road and everything falls apart.
Albert, please feel free to interrupt me here if you feel this is not in the true spirit of our blog.
AP,
You cannot control the mind. It's like trying to control the waves of the ocean. Albert explained it nicely in his article. Thoughts arise out of nowhere and pass through conciousness. Then the mind/ego focusses on them, grasp at them and it starts growing and becomes huge leaving an imprint.
That's what minds/egos do they make and assign meaning to the formeless, classify it, and gives it names and attributes so it can use it now or later as a piece of info. Its very busy in there isn't it? You can try to control it but you'll find it an endless battle. Thoughts constantly arise so let them do so.
What you can do is become curious and aware of this process, watch it unfold. What you are aware of cannot control you…. It still happens at first but now there is a space for something other to happen. “Oh there is anger in me…” its not the same as I am angry. I am angry has no space it it. Now,uhmmm… what thought is behind that anger or what belief is behind that thought? Ok, I see how that works now. Part of you becomes free then, is aware. So watch your thoughts arise without judgement. And if you catch yourself judging then just notice it, which means you already stepped out of it, so be kind with yourself. That is one part of what being aware means. Don't try to change it, just become aware of it then change will follow on its own if it wishes to. Thinking you can change it is another thought coming from the mind trying to regain control.
That's all I can say within this context. If you are enclined to, you can read Eckart Tolle and Adyashanti, they both talk about developing awareness and consciousness and how it frees one from the dream state of identification with thoughts.
Beautiful discussion guys. AP, I would recommend the Sedona Method if you want to some solid action steps. We can't control the mind, as Isabelle said, but I've found my mind becomes progressively emptier/more positive as I release. It's not a quick fix though. A sample of the process can be found here:
http://www.urbanmonk.net/780/w.....-emotions/
I can't express how enthralling it feels to realise that there is someone who understands you.
I guess now i understand better what it means to be aware of our thoughts as we cannot stop or even control them. The trick is to let them pass unhurdled without getting attached to them no matter how ugly they may be. Will try to practice the Sedona method to my best. Already i am feeling some peace at heart and can let some thoughts pass by without enraging the internal anger and frustraion that it used to build earlier.
Only worry is that it makes me feel as if i am escaping/ignoring issues by not thinking/exploring about them. I know i am wrong because i was anyway not able to act even when i was thinking day and night about them as nothing would give me conviction/satisfaction to go ahead. I guess by the Grace of GOD and the new space/freedom in my mind created by your guidance will automatically bring me more clarity, peace and confidence and will guide me to the right path.
I feel blessed to be guided by friends like you and glad to share how things evolve
I wanted to know what people meant when they said that they found clarity in loosing their ego, and i think you did a great job answering that in the beginning pages.
I will disagree that it is the cause of most problems, for me anyway. I see it in myself when I loose a game or get a low grade. I think this is what causes some of my suffering, yet isn't the source of my misdirected actions. I think that personally, a fear of loneliness drives my ambitions. Trying to be physically fit, well groomed, and eventually getting a high paying job. It's not to develop a higher impression of myself, but to be “attractive”, so I won't be alone and I can be happy.
BTW the update link is 404.
Hi James, thank you so much for your comment. A fear of loneliness is definitely one of our core issues, and it's great that you recognise it
What update link? It would be great if you can tell me? Hvala!
on page 8 you say that: “I have received many questions that have highlighted the common mistakes and dangerous obstacles which follow this post. The first of these can be found HERE. ” and the link is broken.
Oh, thanks. Yea I took off that article as the information got a bit outdated. Link fixed, much appreciated.
This really got to me bro, this is absolutely amazing.
Thank you Steven!
I've read a bit of the power of now, and applied it. It was a great start, and it got me a good feel for what the ego is and what true consciousness feels like, but this article is way more clearer than what I've read from The Power of Now. It's a great book though.
Velike stvari. I'm learning to turn off and and turn on my thoughts when i need to. Thank you for this.
You're very welcome Kamran. If you find TPN a bit too confusing, try his sequel, A New Earth.
It wasn't confusing, but this is just easier to relate to.
Albert..thank you so much for this article. I especially appreciate the visuals (the blotches, the thought, the magnified thought, the large thought still visible). It is undoubtedly an ego statement of sorts to say that “I am a visual person”…but I definitely learn things much better when I see some sort of graph/chart/visual interpretation. The images you put together are perfect to describe the thoughts in this essay. I do not think the article too long at all. I even read all the comments.
I am sorely tempted to even tell you that I “was” a graphic designer…and therefore that is why I am so taken with your good graphics. (why should you care? lol..I just have this habit of continually telling people about “who” I am).
Through your article I have come to see how constantly and relentlessly I identify myself as a tall, talented, Irish, cat-loving, depressive, oil painting, over achieving, under achieving, blahblahblahblah person. Believe me, I have so many blotches and leftover magnified thought shadows I suspect my core doesn't see the light of day! But…wait. Yes…it has….because I read this article. It's brilliant and generous. AND I'm super grateful for the illustrations.
Hi Celeste, thanks for the comment
I'm glad it helped so much. Be careful of going on a “witch-hunt” though, and turning this kinda stuff into some obsession. It doesn't seem egotistical to tell someone that you were a graphic designer. 
thanks buddy, i am now one step closer to understanding the mind, you see i am trying to get in touch with my 'pinial gland' and to do that one needs to let go of his ego . i didnt even know what ego ment or was. i was luck to come across your artical, i belive the 'core' is the pinial gland which helps calm, sooth, relax, and remind you of you to help you get to where your goals are taking you, with more confidence and will power than a 'nomal person'(not that i would be better than anyone elce just better prepard…maybe lol), i can see how the 'ego' makes life hard on our selfs and will now take the slow road to numbing it down. thanks mate.
Hey Adam – you're welcome! I've never heard of the ego being correlated with the pineal gland before – I'm going to go Google it now
This is very well-presented. The filter diagrams are simply fantastic. You have a real art of expressing these things. I would love to become an affiliate with your site. Peace and love to you. May you live a long and sweet life.
Hi Tom, thank you so much! Peace and love to you too.
thanks mate
you think you have really helped me with this post.
You're welcome sunny
Hej Albert,
Can you please provide addtional resources or excercises on how to stop the ego? please help
Hi there – I've actually moved on from all this ego stuff, so I can't really help. Besides, trying to destroy it just makes it stronger. You can try some books if you want – The Book, by Alan Watts, is a good one. Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth or Power of Now was very inspirational for me also.
More importantly, if you are in a bad way – please seek professional help!
Hi Albert.
You may have said as much but aren't “true” love/joy just a different set of filters that just aren't attached to substantiating/negating our sense of self? The ultimate nilistic philosophical stance is that nothing matters so we let all thoughts pass through and nothing registers against a value system. I have never been satisfied with the teachers (Ramana Maharishi lineage especially) who emphasize the nothingness and then come back with their own set of personal values. Which values to abide by is a slippery slope fraught with cultural underpinnings. There doesn't really seem to be any ground to stand on. So we just muddle through trying to be kind to ourself and others, not use people and situations to bolster our sense of self (ego) at someone else's expense, and let go of the thoughts and beliefs that are more egoic in nature. Have you ever read soemthing solid and integral on this subject?
Thanks for your efforts here, I have come seeking respite as I deal with my ego in my work and how it has offended people as I tried to assert my influence. Relaxation (letting go) is key and also approaching with a curiosity about what the right approach might be have been helpful for me these last few days.
Hvala!
Hi Al, thanks for your comment. There is a lot of conflicting information about the spiritual ego (add to that the confusion of the psychological definition). Unfortunately I don't follow the different arguments and so on all that much, and have been spending my time on other forms of inner work, so I can't really recommend anything to read. I definitely agree, though, that most teachings have that personal bias underneath it. Perhaps it's just a matter of trial and error, and maybe that's part of the fun
Al,
true love/joy aren't feelings and thoughts. They are states of being. They're not represented by a specific emotion, or induced by thought, but actually occur when you get passed all the internal noise within. And for that reason, they are not filters.
“Which values to abide by is a slippery slope fraught with cultural underpinnings.”
There is a point where you just go with whatever feels right. You abide by whatever you're feeling within your natural state of being (which is one of unconditional love). I would recommend meditation for cultivating the state and clearing out negative emotions buried in your body.
Thanks for your comment Kamran!
I've been reading and studying the likes of E. Tolle and others. I know of my weaknesses because they have been many. However, with all my other studies I felt that I had to go back and back again for further study. Don't misunderstand me; I think Tolle is awesome.
However, your post has taken me to a new height of understanding. It is so simple now. I read this post last week and I truly believe that I'ma new person. (without sounding egoist) Thank you soooooooo much. I am forever grateful! Forever grateful!
Švaba
Someone in a previous comment asked for some exercises to 'stop the ego'. I found that by recognizing it in the way you described was the only exercise that I will ever need. Actually, the ego is the source of all misery, anger, and anguish. You have shown me the direction to the source. Now, as I recognize the ego at its source it is going, going, and hopefully mostly gone in the near future. Thanks again.
Hi Jerry, you're very very welcome. I was feeling a bit tired of blogging the past couple weeks, so your comments made a big difference. Cheers, mate!
Great article (even if I haven't finished it yet).
My body has 18 years and my consciousness (or my ego, I don't know which one) has reacted a lot to this article.
Hi Albert,
Thank so much for your article. I can now visualize what ego is in my mind!
I have 2 questions:
- Why it is more painful to be able to identify other people's actions are the results of Ego and unable to do anything about it? Suffering does come from myself but also from people around you.
- How do you improve your writting skill? As I have always having much more difficulty to learn languages since young, and have always wonder and amaze with those who can writte very well and articulate.
@ Raul: I'm glad it's made a difference
@ Guest: Thanks for your kind words! Hmm.. – is it true that suffering also comes from those around you? Or is it just your reaction to what they are doing that is causing the suffering? I'm really not saying yes or no, I'm just asking.
With the writing, I don't know. I just wrote and kept writing. I got a book on common grammar mistakes, style guides, etc. I also read a lot of books, and I looked at the way they wrote. At first it felt like I was copying (and I probably was, for a while), but after a while it will become your own individual style. Oh, if it helps, I imagine myself talking to someone about these things first. And I also imagine what questions they might have, that way I can cover it in writing.
Hi Albert,
Thanks so much for your response. Good question and I will need to figure it out and medidate on it. It may be my Ego again
In addition, I found this YouTube video
( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FuqcTp0SHU ) that is about Ego and Equanimity. There are content about some praying stuff that I don't understand. Just ignore those but the main content may interest you.
can you compare and contrast intuition and ego for me?
Hi Tanner, thanks for your comment. Unfortunately I don't have the time to do so. Hope you understand.
Pozdrav Albert,
I'm the same Raul as before.
I have a tough question (tough for me at least).
Could I say “I am a man”? Or is this ego?
Hi Raul – it depends. Are you building your identity on it? If someone says to you “you are not a man, you are a little wimp”, how do you feel? The degree to which it makes you feel bad/angry/whatever is the degree to which it's become a part of your false identity.
No, it doesn't make me feel bad.
I was just referring to being a man as being a male from the human race. (even if they call me a wimp I'll still be a male)
Regarding my question last time:
“- Why it is more painful to be able to identify other people's actions are the results of Ego and unable to do anything about it? Suffering does come from myself but also from people around you.”
I think there are different sources.
1) How my perceptions/opinion on the actions of people around me that I don't agree on. That will be due to my own Ego. That can be slowly resolve when I come to realize it.
2) It does due to the people's Egos that cause suffer. One simple example may be their jealousy (part of product of Ego) on you that they just make your life so difficult. This does create negativity on you and knowing that you can't do much to enlighten them.
Thanks for reading…
my life has been changing slowly. my ego has taken a blow and i am trying to wrestle it down now. so i can lock it up and examine it like some little gnome on an information binge. i rely on the realization of my own thoughts now. the first thing i do when i think of something look at it from every angle i can take what i can get cast it aside and apply what i learned if applicable that moment. if i think that because i ride my bike with no handle bars someone will see me and think about me then i ride my bike most comfortably and feel the sensation of motion. i just want to thank you for the unending wisdom you have bestowed upon me. never will will i live in the shadow of my self made shield. the shelter is gone and the winds of change have never been so harsh. actually sharp not numb pain. an ocean of emotion can't drown me now. for deep down i know i am only human.
Hey Tanner, thanks for your comment. Be a bit careful about “trying to wrestle” down the ego. It probably leads to more inner conflict. Why not just be aware of it and peacefully choose not to react?
HI Albert,
Like your reply to Tanner. Be aware of your Ego is very effective.
IMO, not everytime one can be aware of one's Ego, especially when one is very tired, when emotion overcomes everything, and one doesn't medidate. Meditation is very important key to train one's awareness.
Thanks Guest – definitely meditation is very powerful technique. The most famous one is the “Who/What am I” technique or maybe just focusing on your breath as it goes in and out, if anyone is interested.
I am starting a new relationship and getting triggered a lot more frequently so this subject is much more alive for me. I have been addressing it in several ways I'll share now and I'll try to report later whether they are working.
The focal point of my different triggers is fear. My coping strategies are somewhat unique to me (each of us). They fall into a group I broadly label “dependency patterns” and include obsessing about the other person, wanting to be cared for and not taking care of myself, fear of rejection, needing to be special, and hunting for validation.
My fresh approach has 2 main components. The first is returning to center. I take the following steps:
* take a timeout from the stimulus
* relax my body, breathing, feeling my feet on the floor and reducing any dissociation/spacy-ness I have
* finding empowerment, capable of handling what ever happens, remembering ways I source my own joy, and placing value on the needs of others and open to how they might try to get them met however clumsily
The second component is about shifting my focus from fear, freezing, or avoidance to acceptance of reality and becoming curious about what is happening and why. The root is usually a conflict of competing values or a judgement that something should not be happening to me or someone else. I try to develop compassion by asking myself or someone what is the motivation for the behavior which probably has a core universal need (like love!) I can relate to and find acceptance. I'll often google a phrase in my head or subject to see if someone has blogged about it and uncovered some nuances that reveal what is true for me. I'll then find a way to communicate about it which helps me step deeper into self-acceptance and transparency in relationships.
Nadam se ovo pomaže!
Wonderful contribution, Al! I normally do the emotional work (find it in the “Best Of” section in the sidebar) for stuff like this, if anyone is interested.
Izvrstan članak. I took time to go through it bit by bit over the course of a couple weeks. It was worth enough to make me, who has a TREMENDOUS fear (ego) of financial insecurity, donate to the site. Keep it up and thank you so much!
Hi Jim, thank you right back. I'm grateful for the donation and the affirmation that I'm doing the right thing!
This is a good article, thanks.
You're welcome Troy glad you liked it!
I found this blog by chance or was it fate, karma – looking at myself with the idea of filters and the thoughts that get stuck really has given me a different way of looking at things. I found the articles very interesting – food for thought a totally different way of looking at myself and others. It is somewhat scary to think our filters alter another beings filters. I wish I would have seen information on this years ago. Decades ago.
Hi Cheryl, thanks for the big compliment. However, what do you mean our filters alter another's? Živjeli
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