Ħalli fluss imħabba tiegħek barra permezz ta 'l-univers,
L-għoli tagħha, il-fond tagħha, sakemm wiesa 'tagħha,
A imħabba illimitat, mingħajr mibegħda jew enmity.
Imbagħad kif inti toqgħod jew timxi,
Jisma 'jew jimteddu,
Sakemm inti imqajjem,
Tirsisti għal dan bil-ponot f'moħħu wieħed;
ħajja tiegħek se jġib sema 'l-earth.
~ Il Nipata Sutta
Din hija waħda mill-aktar affarijiet koroh I jistgħu jammettu. I do not know jekk jien qatt magħrufa Love. Lust, iva. Sekwestru, passjoni, iva. Kompassjoni - forsi. U l-aktar ħaġa hurtful nista 'ngħid huwa - kif ħafna?
X'inhu Love? Min qatt magħrufa Love? Love huwa fejn il- ego ma jkunx. Imħabba hija l-oppost ta 'awto-iffukat; huwa dak li jinsab taħt l-ftit "me". Meta l-ego kompletament tisparixxi, dak kollu li jibqa 'huwa imħabba. U kif ħafna nies tilfu infushom, kemm kellhom glimpses ta 'din il-libertà? Biss minn għadd żgħir ta 'nies - il-mystics u l-qaddisin.
Imħabba hija forsi waħda mill-kelmiet aktar korrotta. Ikun ġie defiled li ħadd jaf xi tfisser kwalunkwe aktar. "I love ċikkulata." "I love dan kanzunetta." "I love you." "I love tifel tiegħi." "I love ħbieb tiegħi". "I love you, prinċep tiegħi charming!" Madankollu dawn id-dikjarazzjonijiet huma 'l bogħod minn dak li huwa reali. Xi wħud minnhom - l-imħabba ta 'omm għat-tfal tagħha, forsi - jiġu tantalizingly qrib, iżda ħafna drabi huma logħob biss egoic parading bħala sostituti sorry.
Dawn kollha foloz iħobb huma xejn aktar minn jaqbdu, twaħħil, dazju, arma. Huma ġew ħadthom straitjacketed minn regoli u strutturi u l-kondizzjonijiet u l-logħob. U fil-qalba, li huma kollha dwar l-awto.
Imħabba hija l-oppost. M'għandha l-ebda jaqbdu. Ma tikseb mehmuża. Hija tagħti u jaħseb xejn ta 'jkollna. A romantic jaħseb ta ruħha, lover jaħseb 'l-ieħor.
I think lura għal kull qlub maqsuma stajt ppruvaw console. "Dak kien tant kbir dwarhom xorta?" Nixtieq nitolbok. "Huwa l-uniku wieħed li told me I kien speċjali." Hu saq me kullimkien "" Huwa għamel nħossni sexy. "Hija tatni sess tajba." Hija imsajjar għalija. "Kienet prettier minn l-oħrajn kollha I kellna. "Ma kien hemm xejn dwar il-persuna li ħallihom - dan kollu daħal lura, finalment, lilhom.
Is-sensazzjoni nitolbu imħabba romantika huwa xejn aktar minn bijoloġiku, tħeġġeġ egoist - differenti minn ġuħ tagħna għall-ikel jew l-arja - jingħataw sett ta 'regoli li jiffurmaw il-logħba dating. U dan huwa dak li rumanz hu ta 'madwar - sempliċement jissodisfa egos xulxin. Inti jagħmlu nħossni speċjali, nagħmel tħossok maħbub.
U meta jiġri dan, imħabba isir dazju, sikkina saret fil-griżmejn tagħhom. "I love you!" You say lill-oħra, u li verament tfisser - "Iben, inti għandek tagħmel me kburi bi gradi tiegħek", "Missier, inti għandek tipprovdi għalija", "Omm, għandek perdona me għall jiġġarrfu "karozza tiegħek," Mary, issa għandek torqod mieghi "," John, issa inti ma tistax torqod magħha, għalik jappartjenu lili. "
Dazju jiġi ma kundizzjonijiet. Love huwa inkundizzjonat. Dazju jobbliga l-oħra, Love tobbliga inti. Kif qal Osho - huma jkunu aċċettaw imħabba tiegħek iżda dawn setgħu irriżultaw-isfel!
Bejn Love vera u imħabba falza tkun ikkultivata l-imħabba - imħabba li hi prestazzjoni, pprattikata, u mħarrġa. Forsi isem aħjar tkun kompassjoni, minflok il-kelma ma ġiex imniġġes kemm.
Din l-imħabba hija ifaħħarha u sabiħ - iżda għadu mhux Love. Din l-imħabba tikber sensi tiegħek, tipprepara tiegħek kollu qed bħala ħamrija għall-fjura. U kif il-ħamrija tikber aktar fertili, iż-żerriegħa li tkun ġewwa naturalment jibda fjur.
Imħabba hija l-oppost ta 'l-ego, l-sens esaġerati ta' self. hu mħabba Fejn, l-awto ma jistax jeżisti. L-awto hija mibnija fuq separazzjoni, frammentazzjoni u l-esklużjoni, l-imħabba hija mibnija fuq l-inklużjoni. L-għerq tal-ego huwa egoist - jara inti bħala waħdu f'dinja aljeni, u trid tipproteġi lilek. Hija twists Love fis-imħabba falza, l-arma, id-dazju, il-jaqbdu. U għadhom dan Love huwa dejjem preżenti, tax-xemx koperti mill-sħab ta 'ego tiegħek, stennija biex shine permezz meta l-irjieħ huma dritt.
imħabba Prattika, imbagħad. U ħallieh bil-mod issir Love. Agħti u jaqsmu mingħajr kundizzjoni u selflessly - "awto"-lessly. Hija tagħti inti togħma - għal xi, l-ewwel snin - ta 'mhux ħsieb egoistiku. U għal dak il-mument fil-qosor l-ego m'huwiex preżenti. Daħka, sempliċement għal raġunijiet ta 'jdawwlu jum tagħha, mhux għax trid li xi ħaġa mill tagħha. Caress lilu, sempliċiment għaliex inti tixtieq li tħaffef uġigħ tiegħu, ma l 'dazju. Ħalli dan l-att bil-mod jitneħħew l-illużjoni ta 'separazzjoni.
U meta l-awto kompletament taqa ', Love huwa dak kollu li jibqa. M'għadux kkultivati; l-ebda ħaġa iktar ikollok biex tfakkar lilek innifsek biex jagħmlu. Meta inti prattika imħabba tant profondament il-lover tisparixxi, l-att ta loving tisparixxi, meta l-tisparixxi imħabba, u meta dan kollu idub f'waħda. Love isir min int.
U inħoss bħal frodi biss għall-kitba dwar dan, għall I do not know jekk jien qatt tasted dan. All I kien ikollhom ikunu glimpses. Avveniment wieħed bħal bsaten fir-fehma tiegħi għaliex daħal hekk f'daqqa u sakemm f'kuntrast qawwi bħal dawn - rriżulta enfer fi ġenna fl flash.
Kien matul argument diżgustanti ta 'evalwazzjoni ex-ħabiba. I kien striding angrily fit-toroq, tipprova l-shout tagħha fuq il-phone. Iż-żewġ tagħna egos ftit żgħira kienu għaddejjin rampanti - Attakk! Attakk! Jiddefendu! Jiddefendu! You liar! You backstabber!
U jien f'daqqa waħda induna li l-ebda dan mattered. Fi mument, ma kien hemm xejn li jiddefendu, xejn attakk. Kollox biss deher tant sbieħ. Kelli ebda idea dak li ġara - u għandi l-ebda deskrizzjoni għaliha. Kollha attakki verbali tagħha komplew tferrigħ fil-widnejn tiegħi, iżda minflok ta 'l-rabja I felt qabel kull I felt kien imħabba. I kollha riedu kien li twaqqaf uġigħ tagħha. Huwa ħass differenti mill kompassjoni kkoltivat - I ma kellhomx li tgħid ruħi li jkun it-tip u loving. I sempliċiment ma jkollhomx għażla - kompassjoni kienet kollha stajt naghmel.
L-argument hekk mibdula minħabba I ma rreaġixxewx. I biss jinżammu kwieta u jinstemgħu, u hi calmed isfel. Aħna mdendla fuq termini tajba, u I marru dar fis-sodda. Meta I awoke-sentiment kienet marret, u l-affarijiet kollha li ma kwistjoni bdiet tagħmel me rrabjata darb'oħra - aħna hekk iddeġenerat fis żgħar, l-argument sens darba aktar.
Kienet li lejl-twarrid tal Love, jew ma kien biss trick tal-moħħ? I do not know. Iżda hija ressqet mistħija għall-ideat preċedenti tiegħi ta 'dak l-imħabba kienet. Kelli tkellmu tant dwar l-għoti mingħajr jixtiequ xejn lura; loving-oħra mingħajr ebda riflessjoni ta 'l-awto - iżda sakemm dak bil-lejl, jien qatt ma għexu dan.
Kif insibu Love, allura? Ibda billi loving nfusna. Does li xokkanti ħoss? Dan imur kontra dak kollu li ilna mgħallma! Mill-mument I kien ikollhom età biżżejjed biex tisma, stajt seduta ġiet - imħabba pajjiż tiegħek, imħabba pjaneta tiegħek, imħabba ġenituri tiegħek, reliġjon tiegħek, għedewwa tiegħek, u l-ħbieb tiegħek. And yet, kemm minnhom qatt jgħidu - imħabba lilek innifsek? I kien fil twenties tiegħi meta I ewwel smajtu!
Iżda dan jagħmel sens daqshekk! Kif nistgħu joħorġu u jagħtu dak li aħna ma jkollhomx? Jekk inti huma mimlija bil-dwejjaq u l-ansjetà, kif taħseb li jagħtu imħabba? Jekk inti tilħaq fond fil tiegħek qed u jsibu rabja biss, dak li se jkun idejk kif inti tiftaħ idejk?
"Neighbor Love tiegħek kif imħabba lilek innifsek", qal il-Bibbja. Stramba, għaliex kulħadd tiffoka fuq l-ewwel parti biss u jinsa t-tieni. Inti biss imħabba ġar tiegħek safejn inti imħabba lilek innifsek. Mingħajr Love fil tiegħek qed, azzjonijiet tiegħek u azzjonijiet jkollhom l-ebda għeruq; li qed vojta u superfiċjali, bħal fjura tal-plastik.
"Love lilek innifsek u watch - Illum, għada, dejjem", qal il-Buddha. Din id-darba huwa l-oppost. Kulħadd tiffoka fuq it-tieni parti, u jinsa l-ewwel. I ikunu ġew mgħaddsa f'ilma taghlim Buddisti għal bosta xhur, u sa ftit ilu kollha stajt jinstemgħu dwar huma l-mirakli tal-ħars, ta 'mindfulness. Watch emozzjonijiet tiegħek u ħsibijiet. Ħallihom jkun, u dawn se jitilfu qabda tagħhom fuqek. Ikunu l-Watcher, u ħalli ħajja tiegħek jittrasformaw.
Watching, jaraw - dejjem l-ħars. Kulħadd jidher li insejt l-ewwel parti ta 'l-tagħlim. U hu għalhekk li meditazzjoni hija tant diffiċli li jibdew ħafna. "Huwa mhux meditazzjoni suppost li jagħmlu nħossni aħjar?" Huma cry.
Meta I iddeċieda I kellha biżżejjed li jiġu batuti, jien ridt għall-ġlieda kontra tiegħi mod kif toħrog minnha. Off I marru fuq tfittxija tiegħi, kotba jikkunsmaw fuq kotba fuq l-ispiritwalità, psikoloġija, u l-meditazzjoni. ħsibijiet tiegħek jikkawżaw emozzjonijiet tiegħek, qal il-psikologi. Bidla ħsibijiet tiegħek u tara d-dipressjoni tiegħek fade. U hekk I miġġieled ħsibijiet tiegħi, jien ribattuti minnhom, I ppruvaw ibiddlu lilhom, u I ippruvaw silenzju tagħhom.
U diġà-xafra ta 'awto-vjolenza beda qtugħ profonda. X'inhu hemm għall-ġlieda kontra? I'm depressi minħabba I ġlieda myself, ddejjaqni lili nnifsi, jiena ġlieda kontra myself. Ġlieda kontra l-iħeġġuhom biex ġlieda myself. Ma dan insane ħoss? Huwa simili tħejjija għall-paċi billi jmorru gwerra; preservazzjoni virginity billi s-sess.
Fl-aħħar, bdejt jaraw ħsibijiet tiegħi. U jaraw mind depressi tiegħi ma kienx ferm aħjar. f'moħħu tiegħi kien għaddej selvaġġi, qtugħ me b'xafra matt, u issa kelli joqogħdu lura u jaraw dan iseħħ. U I jinżammu lilha għall xhur, taħseb li din tgħin. Iżda dan ma kienx. U kollha minħabba li l-kotba maqbuża l-ewwel parti tat-tagħlim-Buddha's. Jekk inti ma imħabba lilek innifsek, u inti watch - int jaraw kif l-dungeons skur ta 'psyche tiegħek miftuħa u l-tnixxija kontenut barra - inti tista' tmur insane!
Allura, imħabba lilek innifsek. Ma ħoss sempliċi? "Of course I imħabba myself!" Nisma inti cry. Do you tassew? Loving lilek innifsek huwa kisba kbira. Hemm velenu tant li teqred, u li tieħu minn ftit affermazzjonijiet, endlessly jilagħbu fl moħħok. Il-poplu ħafna We've qallek l-imħabba - dawk ħafna drabi huma dawk li jkunu kkundannati magħna u ġġudikati magħna.
Jekk jogħġbok, stop jikkundanna lilek innifsek - kulħadd għamel dan għalina. Ġdid u għal darb'oħra, ħafna aktar milli għandna bżonn. Mhuwiex neċessarju, inti tista 'taħseb? "Xi ngħidu dwar il-qattiela u l-rapists - jekk aħna ma imħallef minnhom, x'se jiġri lilna?" Huma jeħtieġu kura aktar milli jeħtieġu sentenza. L-aktar inti imħallef, l-agħar dawn isiru.
Fejn ma awto-kundanna ġejjin minn? ġenituri tagħna, is-soċjetà tagħna, sħabhom tagħna, kollegi tagħna, pumijiet tagħna, reliġjonijiet, l-għalliema, il-pajjiż. Peress li l-jum aħna twieldu, konna thrust fid-dinja ta 'shoulds u għandu' nots. Li ħadthom qalulna dak li kien Maħbub u dak ma kienx. Huma ppruvaw moffa magħna fl-immaġni tagħhom, ppruvaw jiksbu ngħixu l fantasiji tagħhom. Huma qalulna li jimxu u jitkellmu waħda mument u joqogħdu bilqegħda u shut up li jmiss.
Kultant jfissru ukoll. Kultant ma. Imma ma jimpurtax - aħna li jiġi ġġudikat, għal darb'oħra u għal darb'oħra u għal darb'oħra, u kull darba aħna ma jonqsu aħna jsofru kundanna.
Xi kultant l-persuni li ħadet ħsieb minna kienu miftuħ abbużiva. U fil-innoċenza tfal bħal tagħna rajna bħala kollha mighty-, kapaċi tagħmel l-ebda ħażin. Meta konna abbużati, ħsibna li b'xi mod jixirqilhom dan. Jekk dawn kienu Godlike, huma jistgħu jagħmlu ebda ħażin - u jrid ikun xi ħaġa ħażina magħna, jekk irridu ġew ittrattati bħal dan.
U hekk aħna jwettqu madwar sens qawwi - "mhux tajjeb biżżejjed". Is-sinjal l-aktar komuni ta 'dan hija l-vuċi fil-kapijiet tagħna. Il-Eugene Sagan psikologu, fil-volum meraviljuż Awto ESTEEM 
Kemm-il darba jiena imwarrab jirrakkonta memorji in my head ta 'insulti qabel, jew inkwetati dwar il-finanzi tiegħi, dwar il-futur tiegħi, dwar fejn jien fil-ħajja? Liema kienu dawn verament dwar? Kienu oħrajn verament insult me fir-ras tiegħi? Kien I really kkonċernati dwar il-futur? No Kien moħbija awto-kundanna.
Il-antidotu? Radikali, imħabba inkondizzjonata. Loving ruħek għal kollox. Jerdgħu il-velenu fl, tmiem is-sentenza, id-dritt issa!
Għandek mnejn taħseb - jekk dak Jiena hurtful, persuna hateful? Ma loving ruħi għal dawn l-azzjonijiet jfissirx li jien nieħu biex joħorġu u tagħmel aktar? Kif tista '? Inti ħanżira mibegħda u uġigħ minħabba li kollox għandek ġewwa inti. Meta inti tbiddel dan mibegħda fil imħabba, dak li huwa jiġri? X'qed jiġri lill jfur mill tiegħek tkun, minn ruħ tiegħek? Ma inti tixtieq issir taf?
U meta inti imħabba hekk qawwi, kif inti tista 'qatt tiġi iweġġgħu? Love lilek innifsek kif int; imħabba x'ikun qed jiġri barra inti; imħabba-mument kif inhi. Tħobb-ħin li inti tqatta mal lover tiegħek, inti imħabba l-mument li tħallik - kif tista 'qalb tiegħek qatt break? Inti l-imħabba kastell inti dine, inti imħabba l-kaxxa tal-kartun ftit torqod fi - kif inti tista 'qatt jiġi mqalleb? Inti l-imħabba siġar u l-blat kif inti tieħu xarabank, inti imħabba-riħ u l sħab kif issuq karozza tiegħek fancy - dak li jista inti qatt nuqqas?
U l-muftieħ għall trasformazzjoni m'għandhiex tiġi xi ħaġa oħra. Inti qatt ma jista 'jkun xi ħaġa oħra għajr dak li inti qed, dritt issa. Love mhijiex riżultat ta 'perfezzjoni; perfezzjoni hija r-riżultat tal-imħabba. Stop, biss għal mument, tiegħek fejn tlabt u tiftix, għal dik it-tip ta 'perfezzjoni hija neurotic u impossibbli. perfezzjoni vera tiegħek hu li jirrilassaw fis lilek innifsek - fis qed lilek innifsek kompletament; jaċċetta "difetti tiegħek" u l-umanità eżattament kif inhuma.
Niftakar xi ħabiba antika; kull darba sirna intima, hija kienet tkopri parti ta 'kustilji tagħha mal naħa tagħha, jirrifjuta li let me jarawha. Domt ġimgħa biex issir taf hi mwettqa ċikatriċi fond hemm, imma jien qatt ma jistaqsu liema kkawżawlha. Ġurnata waħda hi permessi me tara dan, imma wiċċ tagħha wrew il-biża - forsi jistennew sentenza jew iċ-ċaħda. I kien żgħażagħ - I ma u qal ħafna affarijiet stupid magħha, iżda dak il-jum I rnexxielu jagħmel xi ħaġa dritt. I jintefqu minuta tħares lejn l-ċikatriċi, ma kienux jafu kif għandhom jirreaġixxu. Imbagħad, bla ħsieb, jiena leaned fuq u kissed dan. Aħna baqgħet siekta għal ftit minuti, u hi bdiet biki. I staqsejtha għaliex, jibża I jista 'jkollhom iweġġgħu tagħha, iżda qalet ħadd qatt aċċettat tagħha b'dan il-mod qabel. Ebda waħda - lanqas ruħha.
Mur fil quddiem il-mera, full-tul wieħed jekk disponibbli. Istrixxa mikxufa. Tagħmel dan wara doċċa, jew meta tqum fil-għodu, qabel ma żebgħa wiċċ tiegħek, jew jitqiegħed qawwa suit tiegħek jew jibred ġilda tiegħek ġakketta fuq. Ħalli xejn mikxuf. Ħares lejn lilek innifsek fil-mera, u ma jevitaw gaze tiegħek. M'għandekx grimace, jew flinch, jew l-imħallef kull parti ta 'ġismek.
Ilbes tbissima fuq wiċċ tiegħek, u wieħed fil-qalb tiegħek. Inti tista 'tagħmel dan? Huwa tant sempliċi - daħka-qalb. Immaġina qalb tiegħek jitbissem. Imbagħad jwessgħu dan sakemm inti ma tbissima tiegħek sħiħ tiġi. U biss taċċetta lilek innifsek. Ħares lejn kull parti ta 'ġismek; dirett tbissima tiegħek fuq kull parti - il-ċikatriċi, il-korrimenti, il-mard, il-karatteristiċi issib attraenti, il-karatteristiċi inti mibegħda, l-xaħam, il-skinniness, il-cellulite.
Ħu l-ħin kollu li għandek bżonn. Touch uġigħ tiegħek, difetti tiegħek, u ċikatriċi tiegħek l-mod kif inti touch lover. Jaċċettahom tant, diretta-enerġija loving lejhom, jaħsbu ħsibijiet loving, u tbissima fuq minnhom tant li tibda loving lilhom. Loving lilek innifsek, mhux minkejja dawn in-nuqqasijiet, iżda minħabba minnhom. Tagħmel dan ta 'kuljum, kemm tista'. Jneħħu l-kundanna u s-sentenza li ġiet mgħarrqa fuqek mit-twelid.
Tħares lejn il-mera b'mod sod; tħares lejn ġismek, perfetta kif inhi. Għalfejn ma perfetta? Huwa biss mhux perfetta fil-ħsibijiet tiegħek, l-vuċi ftit fir-ras li tmexxi l-shoulds "u" nots għandhom ". koxox tiegħek għandu jkun irqaq; biceps tiegħek għandha tkun akbar; m'għandekx ikollok kanċer. X'jiġri jekk inti permess lilek innifsek biex taħseb li hija kienet perfetta kif inhi?
Nimxu minn ġismek, u jfittxu fil-fond fil-qalb tiegħek, u ħarsa lejn il-ansjetà, il-dipressjoni, l-awto-rifjut, il-mibegħda, l-rabja, l-biża ', l-solitudni. Daħka fil minnhom, iħaddnu magħhom, u l-imħabba tagħhom. Jirrilassaw ġo fihom. Oħloq emozzjonati loving u tħossok madwarhom; jgħidu iva għal bl tiegħek sħiħ tiġi.
Fittex bir-reqqa fis-kap tiegħek; tħares lejn il-ħsibijiet ossessjoni, l-memorji, il-films, il-ħsejjes, il-negattiv awto-talk, l-awto-kundanna. U jagħmlu l-istess. tiegħek ħsibijiet Analyse - kull ħsieb uġigħ jew memorja jista 'jiġi ntraċċat lura għal qalba awto-mibegħda , għall-mibegħda hija awto-mibegħda u kull rifjut hija awto-rifjut.
Dak li inti ma tistax imħabba, jaċċetta. Dak li inti ma tistax taċċetta, nahfru. U jekk inti ma tistax nahfru minnhom, nahfru lilek innifsek li ma kinitx f'pożizzjoni li nahfru. M'għandekx seħħ lilek innifsek fis tagħmel xejn - tkun taf biss tensjoni mill-ġdid. Jirrilassaw fih. Mhuwiex li l-messaġġ tal-proċedura intiera ħakma emozzjonali serje? Hemm - oġġetti kważi għaxar u inti ma għandekx jaqrahom iktar - kien biss f'sinteżi ghalik.
Love ruħek għal kollox. M'hemm xejn li jiddekorri bogħod minn, xejn biex jaħbu. Il-blog kollu s'issa kienu madwar l-aċċettazzjoni radikali u l-imħabba. Love emozzjonijiet tiegħek mingħajr ma jkollok taġixxi fuqhom, u tarahom jduru fis-paċi. Love moħħok, u watch jaħdem għalik minflok kontra tiegħek. ġisem Imħabba tiegħek u tara bil-mod jibdew tiddix.
U twettaq dan madwarek għall-bqija tal-ġurnata. Oħloq enerġija loving madwar u fl lilek innifsek meta tista '. Aħseb ħsibijiet loving, kellem lit-lilek innifsek sew. Nieqaf. Just nieqaf. Stop, kull meta inti tiftakar li, tħares lejn lilek innifsek, u jaċċettaw. Have you waqgħu barra ta 'aċċettazzjoni? Huwa tali vizzju għeruq sodi li naqgħu lura fis-awto-kritika daqshekk faċilment.
Ġurnata waħda inti ser tkun kapaċi li tħares lejn difetti tiegħek u tibda laughing. "Difetti X'inhu?" Tista 'tag mel. Liema difetti, tabilħaqq? M'hemm l-ebda ħaġa bħal din.
Dan huwa perfezzjoni reali. Mhux l-perfezzjoni ta 'l-neurotics - li jżommu standards ta impossibbli għalihom infushom u oħrajn, iżda l-perfezzjoni ta' l-irġiel qaddis. I smajt: Newton mhix dwar issir divina jew li jmorru lil hinn umanità - huwa dwar jsiru totalment mill-bniedem. Inwettqu li inti perfett kif int - niċċelebraw min int u minn fejn int.
Imbagħad dalwaqt tkun taf tkun tista 'taċċetta kull ħaġa oħra kif inhi. Dan huwa meditazzjoni - il-laxkar fis lilek innifsek, u minn hemm, fid-dinja. Aċċetta-dinja kif inhi madwarek. Jekk il-divina hija kullimkien, allura għaliex tirrifjuta lilu? X'tifhem tisma issa? L-għasafar chirping? Dik hija l-divina li ġejjin lilek. A inbiħ kelb, xi honking karozza, il-ġirien ġlieda kontra? M'għandekx jiċħadha! Jirrilassaw fih.
Kultant, dawk li jfittxu fuq spiritwali jew il-passaġġ reliġjużi hija l-aktar diffiċli ta 'kulħadd. "I għandu jkun ta 'kompassjoni. I għandu jkun blissful. I ma għandu jiġi enfasizzat. I għandu jkun it-tip. "Anke barrani, wara li taqra dan l-artikolu:" I għandu imħabba myself "aktar. Formola sottili ħafna, cleverly moħbija ta 'perfectionism u awto-vjolenza.
U kif tkun taf li għandek imħabba lilek innifsek? Tista tkun waħdu, mingħajr il-ħtieġa għal distrazzjoni, mużika, divertiment? Tista sempliċiment ipoġġu u jkun waħdu; jgawdu kumpanija tiegħek bl-istess mod inti tgawdi l-kumpanija ta 'lover perfetta?
Anki jekk għandek ingassati bl-iswed-dinja esterna, liema allura? Huwa li l-paċi? Le, għal-dinja għadhom tqum ġewwa inti. U sabiex in-nies biex imexxu u jistaħbew mill infushom. Kull meta jkunu waħedhom, dawn jaqra ktieb, jiksbu tinxtorob, jew ċempel ħabib. Qabel, dan kien vizzju TV - sigħat infiq kuljum quddiem tat-tubu. Issa huwa l-Internet, in-nies qed jersqu dipendenti fuq l-email, lill-messaġġiera instant. Jew dawn se jmorru ma 'nies li huma dislike, persuni li jkunu ġarrew fuqhom, xejn u ħadd sempliċiment biex jevitaw li fil-kumpanija tagħhom stess.
U meta ma Love ġejjin? Jekk l-awto-imħabba hija kkoltivata imħabba, meta din issir Love?
Meta glows qed tiegħek mal ecstasy, meta l-għajnejn tiegħek jibdew żfin, meta kull ċellula fil-ġisem tiegħek glows bil-ferħ. Meta inti għandek trasformati lilek innifsek, meta inti tista totalment u verament imħabba lilek innifsek għal kull nuqqasijiet hekk imsejħa tiegħek u tbajja, meta imħabba tiegħek isir tant b'saħħithom, tant radikali, u hekk kbira li tħoss il-iħeġġuhom biex barra u jaqsmuha. Meta inti ma tistax tirreżisti qsim, meta int tagħti u jagħtu mingħajr javżak lilek innifsek biex - tabilħaqq, meta inti ma tistax tieqaf lilek innifsek - li huwa Love.
U inti ma tistax seħħ dan. Lanqas ma jista 'issibha. Meta niġu, niġu naturali. Love u kompassjoni m'għadux isir xi ħaġa li inti tkun ikkultivata, iżda jsir min int.
Immaġina ċirku. Dan huwa dak Love huwa. Ċirku mhux ċirku jekk mhix perfetta. A denti żgħar, difett żgħir, u huwa aktar ċirku. U dan huwa dak imħabba prattika għall. Bl-imħabba prattika, aħna jibda l-linja, bil-mod b'tidwira sakemm il-żewġt itruf jiltaqa forma perfetta u mbagħad blossoms Love.
Fl-aħħarnett, il-bidu ta 'l-imħabba imwiegħda u serje kompassjoni! Nittamaw li intom jgawdu minnu, minħabba li għaddej biex tkun waħda kbira!
Great grazzi hawn biex Osho għal jispiraw dan f'serje mal-kotba meraviljuż tiegħu. Kontroversjali huwa jista 'jkun, iżda hu xorta waħda mill-għalliema ifjen tal Love stajt qatt jiltaqgħu.
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B'DAN QIEGĦED sbieħ ħafna u reali ħafna - I LOVE U TAF Irrid li jikbru u jqassmuha U GĦALL-IT li għandhom jitqassmu - I LOVE
Grazzi Karen, u jien verament kuntenta li tisma li inti taf imħabba. Hux-sentiment akbar? U naturalment inti tixtieq li tmur u jikbru miegħu u jaqsmuha ftit aktar, bħal għidt.
Dan huwa tajjeb ħafna bil-miktub. Jekk nistgħu iqiegħdu fil-ħajja reali, nemmen li jagħmel DO differenza BIG fil-ħajja tagħna! Hija se tiżgura żżomm me ħsieb dwar dan għal xi żmien ... nisperaw dejjem.
Ferħan bhalu Klemen. Żgur li, anki jekk l-ego ma jispiċċax / issir infurmata / kwalunkwe, huwa għadu għaddej biex tkun waħda mill-affarijiet aħjar li nistgħu nagħmlu għalina nfusna.
artikolu Eċċellenti darb'oħra Albert.
Imħabba hija kollha li l-kwistjonijiet - jekk biss aħna lkoll jitgħallmu li fil-ħajja tagħna aktar milli fuq sodda tal-mewt tagħna.
Arvind, verament japprezzaw l-appoġġ kollu li inti kont qed tajtu lili, grazzi ħafna. Dejjem tajjeb hawn biex tara int.
Madankollu post ieħor tal-biża ', ħu Al! Inti taf tag titkellem - ħadd ma jista 'jikteb li mingħajr ma kellha xi esperjenza ta' imħabba vera. Grazzi għall-inti tagħmel. Gratitudni u l-imħabba li inti.
Brilliant ..
Hawn għall Love imbagħad. Iħobb eżempju ċirku tiegħek.
Mejju aħna kollha Love
God bless
Gratitudni u Love lura lilek żewġ, Carolyn u Nur!
I jistgħu sens kuntentizza tiegħek permezz qari postijiet tiegħek, A. mate Evviva!
Grazzi mate, dejjem tajjeb biex tara int madwar!
Hi Albert
What a lovely post and a powerful start to my Monday morning! You are right, the word love does get thrown about willy nilly as an “excuse” for a lot of things but from the putside looking in it seems as far away from love as possible. The key is self-love and acceptance indeed. Thanks for a well though out post.
In love light and abundance xxx
Thanks for the comment Lola. Love light and abundance right back at you!
Hi Albert,
Biss riedu tavżak li din il-kariga verament resonated miegħi - I'm fi stadju fil-ħajja tiegħi fejn jien biss jibdew "jirrilassaw fis myself", u huwa verament jibdew jagħmlu differenza pożittiva. Bħala mużiċist, dan huwa verament importanti li mużika tiegħi kif ukoll; jekk ma nkunx rilassat u kompletament Loving l-mużika, allura li għandu effett negattiv fuq il-ħoss u jħossu li toħroġ permezz swaba tiegħi (jiġifieri niġi awto-konxja / neurotic dwar playing tiegħi u mimlija tensjoni up!). Naħseb li dan huwa x'aktarx minnu ta 'xi att kreattiv - għandu jkun hemm tip ta' kiri go sabiex Verità jitfaċċaw.
I smajt virtuoso guitarist Jamie Andreas jiddefinixxu Love sempliċement bħala "jiġi bi" (fis-sens truest tal-kliem). Jagħmel sens meta inti verament taħseb dwarha.
Grazzi għal post beautiful,
Jacob
Grazzi għal dan mate istorja inspiriting! I totalment jaqblu - naħseb testi ħafna jgħidu li l-isforzi kollha tassew kreattivi ġejjin lil hinn mill minna, meta ninsabu fil-"żona" jew xi ħaġa simili. Dan huwa irrispettivament il-qasam magħżul tagħna, kemm jekk ikun l-isports, id-disinn, l-arti marzjali, jew mużika. Tajjeb li jisimgħu kif huwa xogħol fil-ħajja tiegħek, u grazzi għall-qsim.
Fantastic. I LOVE dan.
Hawnhekk permezz tal-Karnival ta 'l-Awstralja iżda wkoll minħabba I għażlet li tkun.
M
Grazzi ħafna Megan
Albert, din marret jkun l-artikolu aqwa li ktibt. I-intenzjoni li taqraha kuljum u tassorbi kull kelma. Huwa lezzjoni kurrenti tiegħi kollha bil-miktub fl-pakkett wieħed konvenjenti. Jien dejjem igawdu kliem tiegħek ta 'għerf. Dan huwa l-aħjar. Inti taf liema imħabba hi jew inti ma setgħetx bil-miktub dan. Inti tħoss xi mkien ġewwa tal inti jew il-kliem ma ngħaqdu flimkien b'tali mod beautifully. Inti tista 'ma jkunu applikaw biex ħajja tiegħek, iżda inti "jaf" imħabba. Applikazzjoni tagħhom hija l-parti iebsa u fejn hekk ħafna minna ma jaqgħux fil-qosor.
Meta kont fl-Indja, I tbierket biex jilħqu l-koppja Awstrijaka aktar loving jismu Hans u Margarite. Margarite għandu marda li għandha temporanjament xellug tagħha kompletament paralizzati. I think I kien qal li hija ilha din il-kondizzjoni għal madwar 4 xhur. Hans huwa konjuġi tagħha u gwardjan. Huwa sab terapisti massaġġi li ġejjin fil jaħdmu fuq il-ġisem tagħha li jżomm milli atrophying. I kien mbierka biex jissodisfaw lilhom minħabba xi ħabib ta 'minjiera li ilu jgħix fl-Indja għal ftit xhur ma accupressure fuq saqajn Margarite's madwar 4-5 darbiet fil-ġimgħa. Dan ħabib mistiedna ħabib Sherryl tiegħi u li jipparteċipaw fis-sessjonijiet fejqan. ħabib tiegħi Sherryl li qed jivjaġġa tiegħi ħbieb huwa Master Reiki Reiki u l-għalliema tiegħi u wkoll terapista massaġġi u ma fejqan Cranio-sakrali ukoll. Ix-xogħol tiegħi, li gwidi tiegħi kienet mogħtija lili madwar sena ilu, kien li tibgħat l-enerġija Reiki imma l-iktar ħaġa importanti li nagħmel huwa li jitwaqqaf spazju ta 'protezzjoni u jżomm dak l-ispazju waqt li l-healers oħra jagħmlu x-xogħol prinċipali fejqan. L-ewwel 3 ijiem li l-ħbieb tiegħi marru biex jagħmlu x-xogħol fejqan, I stabbilita l-ispazju ta 'fejqan mill-kamra tagħna fil-ashram minħabba I kien wisq morda bil-infezzjoni tas-sinus u sogħla li jħallu lok tagħna. Fuq il-raba 'ġurnata, I kien kapaċi li jmorru magħhom u li jissodisfaw Hans u Margarite u jipparteċipaw hemm fil-kamra magħhom. Margarite huwa żgħażagħ u pretty u totalment hilflose u dipendenti fuq Hans u oħrajn li jieħdu ħsieb tagħha. attitudni tagħha kien wonderfully rfigħ. Minkejja xi uġigħ, li hija tibda tħoss, kienet jitbissem. L-uġigħ huwa sinjal tajjeb ħafna. Dan ifisser li tħossok qed jibda jidħol lura fil-korp tagħha. ħabib Sherryl My jara din il-marda qabel u l-irkupru sħiħ huwa possibbli. I ma tistax tiftakar l-isem tal-marda. I se nistaqsu Sherryl u iktibha. Minħabba Sherryl rat diversi persuni ma 'din il-marda, hija kienet f'pożizzjoni li jinkoraġġixxu Hans u Margarite.
Il-punt tiegħi fil-qsim ta din l-istorja huwa li jagħtuk idea ta 'l-imħabba sbieħ li rajt fil dawn in-nies 2 minkejja l-ċirkostanzi. Meta Margarite se cry fl-uġigħ, jew hija kienet jistaqsu mistoqsija jew tagħmel xi kumment, Hans ikun bil-mod u jilħqu lovingly pat naħa tagħha li l-kumdità tagħha. Dan l-att sempliċi ta 'patting naħa tagħha told me kollha dwar ir-relazzjoni tagħhom. Ma kien hemm ebda juru għaliex konna hemm. Kien att sempliċi ta 'kompassjoni, li naħseb huwa imħabba fl-aqwa tagħha. Ma kien hemm l-ebda sens ta 'obbligu minn Hans. Kien wieħed mill-atti isbaħ tal-imħabba li jien qatt rat.
Grazzi ħafna Patricia, tajjeb li jkollha inti lura minn btala tiegħek ukoll. U li l-storja fantastika - I really think li dejjem rari tagħha għan-nies biex jagħtu sħana u l-kura mingħajr ma jistennew xejn lura - fl-istess ħin huwa jkollna aktar popolari biex jitkellmu dwar dan. Stramba, huh? Allura li istorja hija meraviljuż - grazzi għall-qsim.
Dan huwa tabilħaqq l-artikolu mill-isbaħ. Gran eżempji personali. Imħabba hija stat ta 'li, mhux ta' jissagrifikaw. Hija inseparabbli ma 'l-imħabba ta' Self.
I reċentement kitbet dwar is-suġġett ta 'Love (b'kapital L) fuq blog tiegħi: L-unità fid-Love.
Matthew, artikolu assolutament brillanti ikollok hemm. Ma nistax naqbel biżżejjed. Man, jien tmur lura hemm issa biex tara x'iktar ħadthom bil-miktub. Grazzi għall-waqfien mill!
I love how you weave your own experiences through your teaching, which shows how accessible this information really is. Often by witnessing someone else's journey we awaken to our own. Prosit!
Thank you very much Karen, I was on Springing Light, and I am just as happy to find it as I was to find Loving Awareness. Brilliant stuff!
Wow. This one is very much on point. For a long time, I have become very down on myself. I couldn't see anything about myself to like let alone love. This puts a different perspective on things. Its a long, long, long tough journey but one I need to take.
Grazzi Albert. I am glad I found your blog.
Hey 1 1 ... nirringrazzjak għall-kummenti tiegħek. Ferħan bhalu, u nispera li jgħin. I do believe once you've found Love for yourself, everything else will fall into place.
I am grateful for how your words reach out and touch so many people. You have a way of presenting simple ideas that many of us are aware of inside, but glance over or disregard. The way you bring things up and put them in context is like a gentle nudge that encourages people to explore their own sense of self. After all, isn't that the crux of why we all exist?
Grazzi Liara, tifħir tiegħek huwa verament apprezzat u jagħmilha ferm utli li tkompli blogging.
Grazzi tant għal din il-kariga mill-isbaħ. Huwa simili mużika lill-qalb tiegħi. I jirrikonoxxu l-esperjenza tiegħi stess totalment dak li tikteb il-konfużjoni dwar hu mħabba dak, l-awto-mibegħda u u awto-kundanna ġewwa, il-qbid u neediness li ġej minn dan in-nuqqas tal-imħabba ġewwa, li, fil-passat, kien I hekk mitlufa pulzieri U issa l-proċess ta 'fejqan dak kollu li, u biex tibda jinxtegħel għal dak li imħabba hija verament, li qed tibda jiġri lili. Inti biss deskritti hekk beautifully kollox jiena fil-proċess ta 'jiskopru myself, u qal "iva" għal. Grazzi.
Hi Agyana - huwa wunderbare li inti fuq dan il-vjaġġ ... jista 'jkun diffiċli wieħed, iżda inti għandek rispett tiegħi għall-impriża hija
. Let me know kif ikollok fuq miegħu, Nixtieq li tisma lura minn għandek.
Hello Albet.
Stajt taqra l-padrunanza emottiva "u" ego "oġġetti u issa stajt
wkoll taqra "Love u Compassion" oġġetti kif inti suġġerit.
Stajt kont qed tagħmel il-"Watching" parti mit-tfulija ...
I do not know kif skoprejt imma jien dejjem jistgħu watch myself
bħallikieku ME ma kienx parti ta 'ME (Korp, Mind, emozzjonijiet).
Ħajja kollha tiegħi kien fl-uġigħ minħabba li ma jafu x'għandhom jagħmlu ma '
emozzjonijiet tiegħi u l-imġiba (stajt dejjem magħrufa ma kienx il-veru lili)
ġlieda kontrihom u li qed jirsistu biex ikunu taħt il-kontroll ta 'myself.
Issa naf kif.
Il-parti nieqsa ta 'l-ekwazzjoni kien IMĦABBA ...
Peress li l-"Watcher" kienet inutli mingħajr l-għan li l-bonds toghether pakkett sħiħ.
kuxjenza tiegħi (Watcher) dejjem kellha bosta għanijiet permezz ħajja tiegħi, Dawn huma l-Meta-Ħsibijiet li l-bidla us ... issa għandi waħda ġdida.
Issa l-emozzjonijiet huma saħansitra aktar painfull meta I purge minnhom,
minħabba l-Love li jien bini biex jissostitwuhom.
"Love lilek innifsek u watch - Illum, għada, dejjem"
Stajt qbiżt il-parti Love wisq.
Grazzi Albert.
Ara naqra Ilya ... grazzi għal dak l-istorja. Ninsab kuntenta gustado artiklu tiegħi. Grazzi għal darb'oħra għall-qsim.
That is an awesome post, it really made me stop and think, it was amazing food for thought. Your personal example was great, in a way, i really feel like you. Thanks for sharing this, i just bookmarked your website, it's the kind of website that makes me happy
Hey Karen, that is a really big compliment. I japprezzaw dan.
Beautiful – thank you for taking the time to share this =)
Thank you EQ
Its amazing how things can be right in front of you the entire time, yet someone has to point them out for you. Albert you truely do have a way with words that makes every reader feel as if each post is for them personally. Keep up the good work man.
Mark that compliment is very much appreciated, thanks!
Well thanks for sharing
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Wow, this was a deep post! I think I have to read again to grasp everything. I just want to say to keep up the good work! =) /Elsa
Grazzi
Hi Albert, I have been reading your articles for some time already now.I really find them helpful in my daily life. Thank you so much for writing all this helpful articles and keep up the good work!
Besides that, I would like to ask a question on this article; about Buddha's saying in the Dhammapada, according to u, it's “Love yourself and watch-today, tomorrow and always”
But there are some websites that quote the same verse from Dhammapada as “Love yourself and be awake-today, tomorrow, always”
Is the meaning of both “watch” and “be awake” same, like what you explained in your article?Because your explanations are clearly for “watch”, how about “be awake”?Just wondering whether both are same…
Hey V, thank you so much for those kind words.
To be honest, I don't know. I've only ever studied that one version of the Dhammapada, so I have to say that the below is just my opinion and nothing else.
I guess you could say that they are the same, depending on how you interpret the word “awake”.
Awake can either mean enlightenment, or it can mean “not sleepwalking”, which is what people do when they are not watchful/mindful of themselves. I really don't know which version the Buddha is referring to.
When we don't watch ourselves, we are just sleepwalking. We feel angry and don't really know why, we feel happy and we don't really know why. We just go out and do things, eat, sleep, and die. It's possible that is what the Buddha meant. Sorry I couldn't help more.
Thank u for ur reply, Albert…
Most of what we consider love, friendship, etc. is an agreement between two persons who determine they can mutually benefit from one another. Everyone is seeking their own self interest, their own preservation and promotion, serving their own agenda. Don't be naïve. If you can fit in with it somehow, you're probably ok. If not, you're probably in trouble.
Love is the only exception, the only “real” connection human beings can have. The only thing of meaning that can be shared. Love and attention are energy. They are the most important communication possible. They are necessary for our health. When we love, when we give another our full attention, we give of ourselves, we make a shift from our attention centering on ourselves and show another that they are important enough to share it with. We temporarily forget ourselves and make another our priority. Words of love are pale in comparison to joining them, where they are. To see them fully, beyond even how they relate to us. Love is what is, when the thought of another exists in the place of the thought of oneself. When you allow another to occupy the awareness that you usually reserve for yourself.
Lastly, to paraphrase Osho: Meditation is the only way to discover who you are, and love is the only way to share what you find.
JJP I said it many times before and I'll say it again – you're depriving the world if you don't share what you have!
I feel guilty that I'm one of the few who can read your stuff either thru our emails or in comments!
Love is best described in the Bible. There cannot be more completeness than that. It is the real definition
Great article, the point about love should start with ourselves is especially true and often ignored!
Thank you goacom and Chelsea.
I have known love. I was married and pregnant at 17 and proceeded to have 4 daughters by age 22.
We have been married for 37+ years. We grew in love together. I agree about loving self first. One will never know a greater love than what they give to themselves. They will attract someone who loves at the same level.
I beleive I was 32 when I started studying A Course In Miracles. The biggest lesson for me at the time was there is no such thing as sacrifice.
Anyway I like your exercises about loving ones body. That should be taught at the same time one teaches a youngster to eat!
Hey Tess, thank you for your comment. Interestingly I've been poking around ACIM recently as well. Some truly astounding lessons in there!
Hello! I have only recently discovered this blog (through Leo`s Zen Habits blog) and all I can say is THANK YOU!! This article is written for me
Just kidding!
I still have a long journey in front of me to actually love myself. I blamed my parents and society to give me this internal voice – you are not good enough, however, I have to work on myself, have to embrace myself!!
So, once again, thank you for this well written article!!
Wish you all the best and I will keep on reading!
m
love this one too, albert.
i practice it by just being happy for everything, well almost everything. Being happy is wonderful.
is loving means free of expectations? is it wrong to expect to be loved by the one you're in love with?
Hi Mirci and eva. Thank you both! I really appreciate your kind words, and happy to have you here.
Eva, I would say that's a yes to the first question. For the second, I would say it isn't “wrong”. It's a normal, healthy, desire. But as with most desires, it can lead to pain (most obviously if he or she doesn't return your love). If you can, love them without expecting anything in return. That way, you're *both* free.
Spread the word my friend, spread the word. I myself write inspirational and insightful essays as well, and I hope to be able to reach an audience you have, to spread the word of Love just that much more.
Loving it, keep it up.
Armand, thank you, and I would love to read what you have written if I ever get a chance to.
Amazing, I read this near the start of my 'spiritual' journey and didnt really understand it, now I understand much more (about 6 months later). Fantastic albert, thanks
Thanks jag !
Albert Hi,
By reading the below paragraph again & again, I have that glimpse of moment: I somehow grasp the truth for a question of love that lingering in my mind for years. The truth can truly set some one free. Yes, it is and I have that tears of joys. It is amazing and soothing.
“And when you love so strongly, how can you ever be hurt? Love yourself as you are; love whatever is happening outside you; love the moment as it is. You love the time you spend with your lover, you love the moment that they leave you – how can your heart ever break? You love the castle you dine in, you love the little cardboard box you sleep in – how can you ever be upset? How can you ever lack”
Jenny
Hi Jenny, thank you for that comment; it really is a huge compliment to know that someone has been affected so deeply by what I've written.
Very profound !!
Thanks Salim!
Love (with a capitol “L”) is a subject that I often ponder on and write about. I recently experienced my first break up. I'm 18 and I only started dating because what I thought I had felt for this girl over the past two to three years was indeed “Love”. After the year I spent in what I thought was love, I fell into a depression that was almost magnified by my loneliness after the break up. Your articles have really opened my eyes to the truth of who I really am. The only thing I'm afraid of is that I will get hyped up and not do anything (as is my “norm”), but I guess I will just Love me completely, even including my chronic procrastination
I am very grateful to have found your blog. You have a gift, Albert. Żomm l-ħidma tajba!
Evan, I'm grateful for your words, and thanks for poking around the archives
Hi Albert
Thanks for all your wonderful articles. I have been going though all the articles in your archive and have been taking notes.
This is a great resource for personal development and have found it very practical and true from other resources i have encountered.
Your blog and mindfullness meditation have been a real help to me.
thanks again.
Steve
intersetingly enough going through your articles brings back old painful memories and emotional wounds in an evironment where i can consciously recognise them for what they are and not react to them.
Hey Steve, thanks for that, and you're very welcome. I'm very flattered.
Albert,
Thanks for this inspiring post about love. When we fully experience love, we are unable to experience fear. I would suggest just that once you are able to experience love then, make the next step: Take action. Make Love the force beneath your actions!
Kollha l-aħjar,
Boris
Hi Boris, apologies for the late reply. I completely agree – one of the best spiritual teachings I've ever heard states to make Love the only motivation. A very lofty goal but well worth striving for, I think. Thanks for your comment!
Beautiful work. Your comment about romantic love being a biological and selfish desire really struck a chord with me. Society makes it difficult today to find comfort in ourselves. The expectation is that we need to, or have to find a partner. Dating never has felt natural to me. It feels like work, and it is exhausting. The relationships I have been in fulfilled both our needs. Not true love. True love requires no work for it is unyielding and forever present. Thank you again.
You're very welcome Michael – I'm glad you enjoyed the article!
Grazzi għal dan. Too often my ego gets in the way of my relationship, and I also struggle with someone else caring about me when I have a hard time loving myself. I read this article quite often , and it has saved me from making some very irrational choices that are usually just negative obsessive thoughts. I truly appreciate these very insightful words.
Thank you Jenna, that's a very big compliment.
Love is the source that brings two people together…we can learn from Love and open our hearts to the other or we can be overcome with Fear. Then the initial connection of love turns to attachment, jealousy, abuse…all from coming from fear as Love is so frightening to the ego. How I wish to go fully into Love with someone and let these fears fall away as they arise…just know..that what brings us together in the first instance really is Love.
That's a beautiful comment Julianne. I wish the same thing too, sometimes, to really go into Love, and escape love with the small “l”.
This writing is absolutely the profound Truth. You have just described “spiritual alchemy.” Love begins by forgiving, understanding, and showing compassion for our inner child, the part of us that is unknowing and experiential. Our “shortcomings” are not because we are wrong/bad, but because the inner child has misunderstood something. All misunderstandings (ie anger, sadness, arrogance, depression, jealousy, and their accompanying behaviors) stem from “not knowing” we are Spirit. If we allow our Higher Selves to love our inner child, as you have described so well in your writing, then spiritual alchemy takes place and we become, over time, Love. Just remember, the kingdom of heaven is within. We must first heal ourselves, to allow our lights to shine brightly, and to heal the world. This is all we have to do. They will sense the energy of the solution within us. All things will flow from this and just watch and see how your life will begin to change!!!
Oops forgot to add- the miracle of this whole process that Albert has described here so beautifully is that this love, compassion, and understanding we have healed ourselves with, now flows out to others. We really begin to understand that others too have had their own “inner child” misunderstandings and that explains their anger, arrogance, greed, depression, fear, etc etc. All of these emotions/actions stem from the great misunderstanding that we are ultimately alone, disconnected, small, insignificant etc. This is a misunderstanding because IN REALITY we are not, we are spirits and have Source within us. When the clouds of misunderstanding have parted, and your Divine Light shines, the miracle occurs. You will become one with life and life will move through you- your life will radically begin to change in many many ways. You will no longer have to fight, strive, and struggle for what you have misunderstood that you need/lack. THis is where we begin to experience the fruits of the spirit, love, joy, peace, etc., and life truly becomes magical. Also, over time, you will see that you no longer need loving “lessons” in your life to help you clear up the misunderstandings. Some call it karma….lessons to lovingly guide you back to Spirit. THe kingdom of heaven is absolutely within and it is AWESOME!!
Thank you for this Albert! I will pass it on!!
Hey Mom of Two: you sure know how to make a blogger blush! Hehe. Seriously, I'm very glad you enjoyed this article, and your contributions are delightful! I would be very grateful for you passing it on.
Hi Albert, about your suggestion on loving ourselves, u said “Take all the time you need to look at yourself” and “Do it everyday as much as you can” in this article. But wont it make us get ready very late. How to solve this Albert?
Hey V, that's a good question. I guess you don't have to do it everyday, just whatever is feasible based on your schedule I guess.
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